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A genuine or accidentally-on-purpose email sent by mistake?

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roses19837 · 25/03/2026 19:50

Yesterday I saw that DH received a what appears to be obviously an accidental email from a former, younger female employee. The email was addressed to a group, staring 'hi all,' and from what I could see, was all about writing content for a website. Nothing to do with what DH does. DH just left the email, didn't reply, and went back to his inbox. He never mentioned it to me, but why would he? A silly accidental email is no piece of news really...

This employee left the company after an internship with my DH's business last summer.

As a bit of background, most of DH's work was from home, so he didn't see this woman in person all that often.

I used to suspect that DH was a bit too chatty and familiar with this young woman, although he never contacted her inappropriately outside of work. I met her several times when I went with DH to the office, and he always seemed smily and enthralled with her and what she was saying, which I did have words with him about, and he did later tone this down.

I wonder whether this girl 'accidentally on purpose' sent this email, in an attempt to strike up a conversation with DH? If so, would it be worth me telling DH to block her? I did used to wonder whether she liked the attention he gave her before I had words with him (she seems like the kind of young woman who would like attention, always dressed immaculately and hair styled etc). I could of course just be overthinking this

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roses19837 · 25/03/2026 21:11

BoogieTownTop · 25/03/2026 21:10

You misspelt fool, you meant letch?

Both then!

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 25/03/2026 21:11

roses19837 · 25/03/2026 21:10

Well I just glimpsed the email - it wasn't very long! I didn't read it word for word! 😅

You read enough though, funny how it was only that email and you happened to see the distribution list and the contents…

That’s a data breach

Random321 · 25/03/2026 21:11

It never ceases to amaze me how many women think much younger, attractive women want their usually mediocre, middle age husband!

You say "basking in his attention".
I say "humouring him out of professional polieteness!"

Unhinging and also he's probably breaching his WHF contract if you can view his emails.

Everlil · 25/03/2026 21:11

Do you all work together? How do you know so much about this woman and all her slight interactions? If a partner of mine behaved the way you are I would be running a mile!

Definetelynotanathlete · 25/03/2026 21:10

roses19837 · 25/03/2026 19:50

Yesterday I saw that DH received a what appears to be obviously an accidental email from a former, younger female employee. The email was addressed to a group, staring 'hi all,' and from what I could see, was all about writing content for a website. Nothing to do with what DH does. DH just left the email, didn't reply, and went back to his inbox. He never mentioned it to me, but why would he? A silly accidental email is no piece of news really...

This employee left the company after an internship with my DH's business last summer.

As a bit of background, most of DH's work was from home, so he didn't see this woman in person all that often.

I used to suspect that DH was a bit too chatty and familiar with this young woman, although he never contacted her inappropriately outside of work. I met her several times when I went with DH to the office, and he always seemed smily and enthralled with her and what she was saying, which I did have words with him about, and he did later tone this down.

I wonder whether this girl 'accidentally on purpose' sent this email, in an attempt to strike up a conversation with DH? If so, would it be worth me telling DH to block her? I did used to wonder whether she liked the attention he gave her before I had words with him (she seems like the kind of young woman who would like attention, always dressed immaculately and hair styled etc). I could of course just be overthinking this

I wouldn’t worry about it OP. Contacts and connections are worth a lot. My DH had several contracts where he would contact everyone and anyone he knew just to promote the product or services of the business he worked for. It doesn’t matter if they were interested in the product/service but it was in the hope they will recommended to someone else

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 25/03/2026 21:10

roses19837 · 25/03/2026 21:07

He was being a middle-aged fool

He was. You chose to forgive him presumably (or are you doing that thing where you stay to punish him - I know someone who did that)

You have no right to poke through his emails (you said you just glanced at them but clearly not) and if that happened with an employee who wfh for some firms, he would be banned from doing it as you don’t have the right to see the information.

Do yourself a favour - set him free to be with someone who doesn’t control everything

roses19837 · 25/03/2026 21:10

BoogieTownTop · 25/03/2026 20:54

You saw an awful lot just walking past!

Well I just glimpsed the email - it wasn't very long! I didn't read it word for word! 😅

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BoogieTownTop · 25/03/2026 21:10

roses19837 · 25/03/2026 21:07

He was being a middle-aged fool

You misspelt fool, you meant letch?

ParadiseIsNoBunker · 25/03/2026 21:10

roses19837 · 25/03/2026 20:39

No, I don't think she was trying to start an affair....I just was thinking she might have been hoping to initiate a conversation for DH. Maybe she wanted someone to chat to, or his advice on something?

So he’s not allowed to have friends at work or be friends with former colleagues who might be looking to maintain business contacts?!

Also, the way you speak of her clothing is awful. Dripping with misogyny.

BoogieTownTop · 25/03/2026 21:09

roses19837 · 25/03/2026 21:08

I don't walk dogs in the office no? I thought I was being asked what I wear in general!

What’s your office attire?

BoogieTownTop · 25/03/2026 21:08

rwalker · 25/03/2026 21:07

I’d be fuming you’ve been snooping at my emails massive invasion of privacy

And OP was just walking by and unbelievably she just happened to see the email from this woman……

I mean what are the chances?

🤔

roses19837 · 25/03/2026 21:08

BoogieTownTop · 25/03/2026 21:07

Was she?

I don't walk dogs in the office no? I thought I was being asked what I wear in general!

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roses19837 · 25/03/2026 21:07

BoogieTownTop · 25/03/2026 21:05

Oh bless him, if only she’d been a good girl and managed his infatuation better.

He was being a middle-aged fool

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BoogieTownTop · 25/03/2026 21:07

BoogieTownTop · 25/03/2026 21:07

Was safe walking dogs in the office? No, so she wore office attire, you don’t like it, but that’s irrelevant.

Was she?

BoogieTownTop · 25/03/2026 21:07

roses19837 · 25/03/2026 21:05

I don't think I'm 'dressing up' by wearing simple jeans T shirt, and usually leggings and T shirt coat etc to walk the dogs.

Was safe walking dogs in the office? No, so she wore office attire, you don’t like it, but that’s irrelevant.

rwalker · 25/03/2026 21:07

I’d be fuming you’ve been snooping at my emails massive invasion of privacy

roses19837 · 25/03/2026 21:05

PoppinjayPolly · 25/03/2026 20:54

So you’re dressing in what up feel is nice? Why?

I don't think I'm 'dressing up' by wearing simple jeans T shirt, and usually leggings and T shirt coat etc to walk the dogs.

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BoogieTownTop · 25/03/2026 21:05

roses19837 · 25/03/2026 21:01

No she wasn't at fault, but I do get the impression she basked in the attention rather than deflecting it, which encouraged DH to continue his stupid chit chat 🙄

Oh bless him, if only she’d been a good girl and managed his infatuation better.

PoppinjayPolly · 25/03/2026 21:04

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 25/03/2026 21:02

I think it’s fairly obvious to anyone that it is just a typo - ‘up’ instead of ‘you’.

Yep it is indeed…!

Marylou2 · 25/03/2026 21:04

Wow OP are you genuinely policing your DHs emails and work interactions all the time? I never read one of my husband's work emails unless he's asked for my opinion as we work in the same industry. You're definitely overthinking this. Do you work? sounds like you have limited experience of interactions between colleagues.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 25/03/2026 21:04

roses19837 · 25/03/2026 21:01

No she wasn't at fault, but I do get the impression she basked in the attention rather than deflecting it, which encouraged DH to continue his stupid chit chat 🙄

I hope you keep him
blindfolded now 🙄

You are being really spiteful about this woman just because of your own insecurities. Why do you stay married? It can’t be nice for either of you,

Also most companies would consider that reading his work emails is unacceptable.

Aquarius91 · 25/03/2026 21:03

so let me get this straight…YOUR husband was inappropriate and flirted with her, but now she must want his attention because she’s pretending to email him by accident 😂 I bet she thought he was a right creep. Loved the attention indeed!

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 25/03/2026 21:02

roses19837 · 25/03/2026 20:59

Sorry I can't understand your sentence, I think perhaps you missed some words out?

I think it’s fairly obvious to anyone that it is just a typo - ‘up’ instead of ‘you’.

roses19837 · 25/03/2026 21:01

BoogieTownTop · 25/03/2026 20:55

So your DH is over attentive so she’s at fault?

No she wasn't at fault, but I do get the impression she basked in the attention rather than deflecting it, which encouraged DH to continue his stupid chit chat 🙄

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roses19837 · 25/03/2026 20:59

PoppinjayPolly · 25/03/2026 20:54

So you’re dressing in what up feel is nice? Why?

Sorry I can't understand your sentence, I think perhaps you missed some words out?

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