A genuine or accidentally-on-purpose email sent by mistake?

By the way, a female of working age tends to be known as a woman - it’s far less infantilising.

Wtf have I just read?

Do you let your husband out of his cage once a day at least? I would highly recommend you get some therapy @roses19837 because you seem to have alot of issues.

You read his work emails, read husband messages, follow him to work and interject in his conversations, tell him who he can and can't speak to? Is he allowed blink or do you have issues with that too?

I agree with PP falling you unhinged... thats the only fitting description I can think of.

Edited for typo

How was it ‘clear’ ? Do you suffer from obsessive thoughts usually? You seem to know the details of every convo he had with everyone and what he did for them.

That isn’t healthy. If you are triggered that easily that you jump straight to wanting to tell a grown man to block a contact, you either need help or accept that you can’t get over it

So you have a husband problem and a controlling one of your own. Why have you written this post? Everyone staying the same thing and you repeatedly state the same. You trust him and 30 years together. What is the point of this post? So everyone says she’s this or that. You don’t seem to what to reflect on your behaviour at all.

OP I have genuine second hand embarrassment here.
You need to have a serious check in with yourself, this is not normal and acceptable behaviour!

It's not for an intern to manage/deflect the infatuation of a much older man. I also highly doubt her styling choices were made to ensnare him, but rather to look professional.

she seems like the kind of young woman who would like attention, always dressed immaculately and hair styled etc

That’s a pretty disgusting take. Since when does looking put-together mean someone is “asking for attention”? Women are allowed to exist, dress well, and take pride in themselves without being judged or reduced like that.

But you were slagging her for being young and well groomed.

Why would she fancy your husband? And why would she contact him in a group email as a subterfuge?

I have met plenty of people through work who have been good company. Some of them have even been good looking.

I have a MacBook and it doesn’t tend to show people’s profile photos so big that people couldn’t help seeing it.

I like the confidence you have that he seemingly never had a lengthy conversation with any of his other colleagues! What an odd thing to monitor.

He most likely does if he's a regular, friendly kind of man and he works with similarly friendly people - it's perfectly normal to chat with work colleagues of both sexes and all levels of attractiveness. It's just other people haven't put you into a spin because they're not gorgeous young women.

So not only are you reading his work emails you are reading his WhatsApp.

Does he read your emails and WhatsApp too?

After 30 years I would expect more trust than you seem to have.

Oh god you’re THAT woman. I remember going to a work event and chatting to a colleague who I knew loosely. His partner was there, clinging onto his arm, and giving me absolute daggers just for having a normal, polite conversation with him. It was so embarrassing it was funny. I wasn’t in the slightest bit attracted to him, but her deranged behaviour really made me want to keep chatting to him! 😂

Jealousy is not a good look!

Why are you monitoring the length of chats he has with people? What special treatment is he giving her?

Oh so it’s ’special treatment’?

How do you know who he did and didn’t chat to? Did you bug his office? You are creepily involved - if you were a man, people would be telling the wife to leave you

I'd say he was included on the mailing list by accident if it was a group email. His email address probably autocompleted when she started typing a similar name.

One of these is a flirty email. One is not. Can you tell them apart?

Hi Cuddles,

Hope you're OK.

Remember when I left my job with you and you let me know I could always keep in touch?

As it happens, I really need some personal advice right now and I was wondering if we could have a private chat.

You were always so attentive to me when we worked together. I think about that time a lot!

Would love to hear from you. Speak soon?

xx

Hi everyone,

Hope you're OK.

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These are the men that should have affairs and run as fast as they can from controlling maniacs like you

No, it is actually not reasonable to tell your partner how they should behave at work with colleagues.

And you may care about him but you don’t have the right to be so controlling.

But you don’t trust him so what’s the point? ‘Casually’ reading his emails, making sure he wasn’t alone with her at all, and assuming she’s so obsessed by your husband that she found the most ridiculous way to contact him?

Honestly that isn’t love

He's had no contact with the woman for months and then gets lumped in on a group email that he didn't reply to. I can't understand why it's bothered you so much, she's not that important, and never was from what you've said.