Name change for this. Growing up I was never good enough. I was often afraid to do or say anything that would get me into trouble. My sibling on the other hand was the golden child. She did tell me on occasion that she never wanted a girl.
It got worse growing up. I was regularly hit for not doing a lot wrong imo. I still get told what an awful teenager I was. I was pregnant at 20 and she was absolutely horrified and wouldn’t talk to me without screaming. I wanted more children but found out I couldn’t have any so tried IVF. She told me it was unnatural and not to mention it to her.
Once she told me she could kill herself because I was her daughter.
However she has been a wonderful Nan to my child who is now a Father himself. She has been generous financially albeit reminding me every 5 minutes how grateful I should be.
The dilemma is we now live in different countries and she expects to come and visit for weeks at a time. Myself and my husband both don’t like her but I feel like I should accommodate it as she is my Mum. She feels she is entitled to see her great grandchildren as much as she wants. But we feel that it is our turn to enjoy our grandchildren. She has had that with her own.
Sorry for the ramble - I just felt I needed to write it all down