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Dh sulking after being away

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Overitagain88 · 24/03/2026 21:34

Dh has been away for a couple of days with work. Left sunday lunchtime and back today about 16:00 so just over 48 hours away. And is now sulking that we haven't all made a massive fuss about him being home

For context there is me and 2 kids at home (9 and 5) i WFH on a tuesday and had just got back from school run (agreed I take a later lunch break on WFH days) and was just jumping on a call as DH came back

Kids were up playing in their bedrooms and didn't hear DH walk in

We then had to leave for a sporting activity we do on a Tuesday about 30 minutes after he walked in so it was all a mad rush and he is now in a strop saying we all should have made more of an effort to welcome him home

I've also had to feed the pets, sort the washing, lunches for tomorrow and finish off some work while hes sulking

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thesnowleopard · 25/03/2026 06:44

VoltaireMittyDream · 24/03/2026 21:35

Omfg is there no end to these men’s infantile neediness?

Looking on MN, I fear not 🙈

Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim · 25/03/2026 06:43

MyJollyMentor · 24/03/2026 23:18

I spend too much time on mumsnet, I'm wondering what he was up when he was away and why is he trying to pick a fight...guilty conscience?

Like I said ..I spend too much time on mumsnet.

I was thinking the EXACT same thing

justcurious1234567 · 25/03/2026 06:38

You’ll find he’s having an affair

TennisLady · 25/03/2026 06:35

Did he go off to battle?

PigglyWigglyOhYeah · 25/03/2026 06:34

We got a dog so my husband would get the enthusiastic greeting he seemed to expect. Works well.

pictoosh · 25/03/2026 06:25

The fact that he screamed and shouted at child says everything.
What an absolute arsehole.

Thinking he'll either double down or go for the 'boo hoo hoo I need love' sympathy approach.

Either way; arsehole.

Life is far too short and sweet for angry fucking men.

BlueEyedBogWitch · 25/03/2026 06:19

He’s an embarrassment.

vixencomet · 25/03/2026 06:09

My husband walked in after 5 days away just this Monday night and his 12 year old daughter greeted him with, "dad, you need a shower" 😅. He needs to get over himself OP. Surely he could have jumped in to get the kids ready to go to the activity instead of thinking he should be made fussed over.

Sally2791 · 25/03/2026 06:06

What a brat! Did he expect balloons and cake? Is he always such an entitled idiot?

Epidote · 25/03/2026 06:03

Youspurnme · 24/03/2026 21:35

Maybe he should be considering why he wasn’t missed.

This comment is harsh but has a point. I read it and I thought, ohhhh could be?

keepswimming38 · 25/03/2026 06:01

Have you asked him why he is behaving like a twat. Why would women rather come on here and moan than have it out?

JetFlight · 25/03/2026 05:48

I wonder if you were all actually happier when he was away? Did it all feel lighter?

RunningOnEmptyish · 25/03/2026 05:33

MacchiatoMavis · 24/03/2026 21:47

Well she didn't kick him in the nuts and tell him to fuck off back to wherever he came from did she?

There's always one on every single thread 🙄

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It’s not too late for her to do that.

MysticHalfWitch · 25/03/2026 04:59

Accidentally clicked YABU! You’re absolutely not at all! Total knob, I’d be furious if I was you.

BoogieTownTop · 25/03/2026 02:30

AmberSpy · 24/03/2026 21:56

Why reward his shitty behaviour?

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🤣🤣🤣 you think the poster was serious?

OP tell him to grow up!

Albanaus · 25/03/2026 01:38

He screamed abuse at your child for no reason at all and is abusing all of you by sulking?

Time for him to leave permanently.

JollyHolly30 · 25/03/2026 01:23

What an ick!

HAPPILYMARRIEDSINCE2012 · 25/03/2026 01:00

sellingrocks · 24/03/2026 21:40

Well yeah I’d be a bit sad if I went away 2 nights and came back and it felt like no one had noticed me either I don’t think he’s being overly precious - I feel a bit 🥹 if I dont get an enthusiastic hello mummy and a hug when I pick them up after school every day

This

LittleMyLabyrinth · 25/03/2026 00:44

I imagine he wants everyone to march down and present themselves to him like Mr Banks or Captain Von Trapp.
He sounds highly unpleasant.

tamade · 25/03/2026 00:36

Wineandrun · 24/03/2026 21:37

This is brilliant. I work away for 48-72 hours once a fortnight or so and am normally greeted with ‘mum where’s my socks/ scouts jumper/ swimming goggle/ what’s for dinner’. Unless he was away saving the life of the last of an endangered species or he happened to cure cancer I think a hug and a ‘hi honey glad you’re home, we missed you’ would suffice.

Agreed, but sounds like he didn't actually get even that?

GrumpyButOk · 25/03/2026 00:31

I wouldn't dream of arranging The Glorious One's home coming without at least the children performing a ceremonial salute whilst I scatter rose petals before his majesty's feet. Sounds like the OP couldn't even be bothered to bake him a "Welcome Home after 48 hours" cake. No wonder he was annoyed.

Muffinmam · 25/03/2026 00:30

Isittimeformynapyet · 24/03/2026 23:56

I'm thinking that all the family lawyers are trying to drum up business.

I'm not excusing his behaviour, he behaved like a total dick, but as usual posters are calling for "ducks in a row" after one small snapshot of a shitty family afternoon.

I would explain to my DH that while he was away I'd been looking after everything and working too. I'd tell him of course we were pleased to have him home (the silly fool) but it was really out of order to make his family feel so bad and I'd be extremely pissed off if he behaved like that again.

I'd then let it blow over, but if he continued to act like that I would then start thinking about the state of the relationship.

Nothing wrong with my "bar".

Btw, normally the introduction of the "screaming" after the first post would be classed as a drip feed.

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There is absolutely something wrong with your bar if you think you need to justify your actions and “explain”.

The OP‘s husband is emotionally abusive towards his family.

Muffinmam · 25/03/2026 00:26

Flamingojune · 24/03/2026 21:36

It doesnt harm to show him a bit of affection surely?

WTF?!?

She has a job!! What was she supposed to do?!

Realjournal123 · 25/03/2026 00:25

He’s either guilty of something whilst away or he’s a dreadful narcissist.

Muffinmam · 25/03/2026 00:25

Overitagain88 · 24/03/2026 21:51

So to clarify...

I did come out of the space I WFH in for a minute before joining the call I needed to be in, gave him a quick hug, said I needed to be on a call, kids were upstairs (actually playing nicely for once!) I'll be out in half an hour to get ready to go to activity, which we all go to

He then proceeded to shout and scream at our eldest as they didn't come down at all until told to. Youngest had come down looking for a toy and seen him. Eldest has been upset all night as it was a proper shouting (i wasn't in the room but heard it from the where I work)

But apparently too difficult for him to go upstairs and tell them hes home

So now she’s psychologically scarred and received a lesson that she should pander to pathetic men.

Why are you putting up with him? You have a job and are capable of caring for your daughters solo. What does he actually add to your lives??