Dh sulking after being away

My sister’s husband insisted his children stand up and greet him when he arrived home. To show respect as he had been out working for them. He’s an odd one. Fragile and sensitive.

He sounds like so many men.Great big babies!honestly shouting and upsetting DD though that's not on.if us Mums go Away it's what's for tea and can't find my socks(DH for the socks!) Grow the fuck up already !9

This is what I was thinking. Did he rush into the kids bedroom, excited to see them and give them cuddles after two days away? Or did he just stay miserably downstairs waiting for everyone to come and fawn all over him?

Should have hired a violinist to serenade him as he was arriving back home OP. Along with ceremonial bunting, a flypast from the Red Arrows and a forty-gun salute. Then again, that still might not have been enough to satisfy the narcissistic bastard.

😂😂🙈 funny not funny

I’m wondering if her husband was shown this and made an account to defend himself 😂😂

I love this comment 😂

What? She works too?
And he was only away for 2 days!

He sounds pathetic.

He needs a dog, one that’ll squeak, spin and bring gifts when he walks in. I hope you told him that life goes on when he’s away, you don’t all freeze until he returns!

He then proceeded to shout and scream at our eldest as they didn't come down at all until told to. Youngest had come down looking for a toy and seen him. Eldest has been upset all night as it was a proper shouting (i wasn't in the room but heard it from the where I work)

Does he routinely ‘proper’ shout and scream at his 9 year old child?

If so, it’s domestic abuse. Get advice.

Do not let him upset your child again because he doesn’t get what he wants. It’s very damaging. It’ll affect their self-esteem and make them anxious. They’ll think it’s how men behave and either copy his behaviour (shout and scream at people who don’t give them what they want) or normalise it and end up in relationships with people who do it to them.

He sounds entitled at very least. And quite screwed up. He can’t make his family have love and respect for him by shouting and sulking. It’ll have the reverse effect and make you all dread him coming home, as @ThatCyanCat says.

If he blames it on being tired, fragile etc. ask if he shouts and sulks to his boss or clients when he’s tired.

Er nope. Wife works too. Not the breadwinner. Also who said it was an 'exhausting trip'? It was two days. Of yninterrupted sleep, no sibling bickering, no spilled juice, no juggling school pick ups. I will never understand the view some people have on here that 'work" is this perennially exhausting, medal.worthy, comes before everything else achievement. And I'm a teacher.

then brace yourself for the teen years

Your husband received a hug from you, before you had to go on a work call. The children didn't hear him come home, so why didn't he go upstairs and greet them instead??? I'm sure if they'd know he was home, they'd have raced down the stairs to see him!

My husband used to have to go away with work, but my son was younger 2-3 years old. He'd jump up and down in excitement when Daddy came home!! You can't really expect the same reaction with a 9 year old! A 5 year old might be more excited. Also how often does your husband go away? If it's frequently, then it's a normal occurrence for them.

I think your husband has behaved ridiculously. Normal life continues whilst he's away and once he's home. It sounds as if Tuesday, once work and school are over, it's hectic! Why did he expect this Tuesday to be any different from any other Tuesday??

What am I reading, what sort of loser behaves like he does. Does he feel small and insignificant at work so needs to be lauded at home

how have you not got the ick?

Get him a dog. They're always overjoyed to see you when you get back.

Mine is so dumb we walk, get back, he runs in, turns around, sees me and gets so excited.

“For context there is me and 2 kids at home”……….No, OP, you have three kids! DH was away for 48 hours and he sulks because none of you made a massive fuss on his return?!?! What a silly little man!

He shouted at his DC? This tells you everything.

He’s probably a selfish entitled manchild - the type to had his head turned so I would be wary….

If his ego is that fragile. God help him when they are teenagers.

He is a prize knob. Please tell us he brings something better than this man-child behaviour to the party before you get a chorus of LTB

That is a great idea and frankly more people should have dogs instead of children because that's what they really want.

That would give me that major ick.
How dare he treat his kids like that also! I hope you stood up got them and told him he'd being a prick? They don't deserve that from their dad.

Oh my god. What a pathetic little man child

My father used to yell at me if I didn't drop whatever I was doing and come running to the door as soon as he came in from a normal day's work. Reading, homework, watching TV... I got a pass if I was in the garden but I was still supposed to do it once he passed by the kitchen window.

Didn't make me look forward to him coming home...

This is my new bar.

Your poor DH. No-one has explained to him him about modern life.

In the 1950s his wife would have been dressed to please him, the house would smell of his favourite meal and the children would have been interrupted in their play to fuss daddy and well aware of his Many Importance.

In 2026 the father/mother who goes away for work for two nights is the one who had it easy. The one who stayed home copped for it. This is widely understood by every mother and most fathers.

In our household the returning parent is also greeted by a quick between calls kiss/hug and assorted domestic chaos.

Returning parent protocol: make self (& spouse) a cup of tea. Return to the coal face.

Top tips - try not to return home in a state of extreme hunger.