Take 3 month old baby to family wedding or leave with MIL?

Go and enjoy yourself. I have a 5 year old and a 4 month old and both have stayed overnight with ILs and parents since one month old. My 5 year old now absolutely adores all of the family on both sides and is not traumatised.

I'm surprised you're confused at why so many people wouldn't leave their three month old for so long. For me it's nothing to do with not having a support network (my mum is great), I just wouldn't have wanted to be away from them for more than a couple of hours at that age... they still felt like part of me when they were so small and it felt like a biological need to keep them close.

That said, you should do whatever you feel is best for you and your baby. This isn't your MIL or family's decision to make.

I left DS at that age, although he wasn't BF. I had a great bond with my son, but it wasn't practical to take him with me and he was in good hands with my mum and dad, sister and BIL. Some people find being away from their baby difficult, but that doesn't mean that there is something wrong with those of us who were able to leave them. In your shoes, under the circumstances, I would leave him with MIL.

I could and did leave left mine for a day at that age. It didn't mean I didn't love them. People are weirdly judgy. If you feel happy, do it.

Go to the wedding without your baby and enjoy yourself. Tell family they’ll see the baby at another time.

I can only conclude that OP is one of those strange individuals who cant or won’t see things from other’s point of view. Hope your child/children grow up to be a bit more broad in their thinking. Enjoy the wedding!

I don't know what way you want the votes to mean, but I'd take the baby. I wouldn't be comfortable being away from my young baby for that long.

I would, baby will be fine. I left my son with my mother at 6 weeks. He was safe and content.

I'd take the baby to a family wedding (Not because I wouldn't leave a 3 month old I
absolutely would for a friends wedding)

I couldn’t leave mine but they demand fed and didn’t do bottles. I went to two weddings when each of them were tiny and never lacked people wanting a cuddle

So she sees plenty of the baby then. I’d take the baby and let the other family members see them who I assume, as the wedding is three hours away, don’t see baby very often (if at all).

It sounds like it would be best to leave the baby with MIL, the baby doesn't want to go to a wedding. Yes they want their mum's but seems they are happy with MIL and safe.
My sister took her son to a wedding when he was 4 months old, she still remembers how hard it was for her now and was pointless them going really. She had to leave the ceremony as he was noisy, she then missed drinks after as she was feeding him, missed the speaches, didn't eat the full meal then was sat up in the room with him most of the evening on her own. Seemed like a nice idea to take him and show him off but she couldn't enjoy the day. He was a hard baby, so not all will be as hard work but they still need feeding, changing, naps etc.

Do what YOU want to do. It is lovely that your MIL is so helpful, but it is your decision. How do you think your baby would be? Mine loved "occasions" at that age, and really seemed to enjoy celebrations, or maybe that's just me projecting-but seriously, they seemed happy and relaxed, back then. Other babies can sometimes cry a lot, or not seem happy at that age/can have issues taking bottles etc. So how easy, or hard, will it be? How many people there will be willing to help, if you wanted to go to the loo/buy drinks? Would these people know your baby and are you happy for them to help? If baby does cry, is there an area you can easily get to so you can comfortably sit/soothe them?

Would it be worth MIL booking a room at the hotel or nearby, and having baby when you need a break?

I think the devil is in the details ad always. I wouldn’t leave DD at this age but she refused to take bottle so it’s only breast feeding in my case. Also I wouldn’t trust neither my mum or MIL , both of them had different parenting views and didn’t listen much.
So I wouldn’t but I could understand why it’s possible for you.

No, it's not triggering at all. I just think everyone is different and carrying their own baggage. I think it's great that you feel able to leave the baby with a trusted adult. I couldn't but that doesn't make me right and you wrong. It just different situations.

Please please don't let any poster make you feel guilty for leaving your baby to attend whatever the hell you want to attend!! Its a long time since I had a young child but my mother and father both encouraged me to carry on having time out after my ds was born, like you I was fortunate that they were heavily involved in our lives and I was 100% happy to leave my baby with them. I was delighted a few years later to be just as involved in my nieces and nephews lives and have looked after them overnight (for a wedding) when the youngest was 10 weeks old, my sil got to enjoy herself knowing all 3 children were with someone who adored them. Do what works for you but don't be overly influenced by the 'I'd never leave my baby' people.

I happily left my babies with my mum and MIL for a few hours at that age. I knew they'd be well cared for by people who loved them as much as we did. Do what feels right for you OP, don't worry about what other family members wanting you to bring the baby - they can visit if they want to see the baby that much!

You didn't mention an older child in your OP, so people possibly felt that you were maybe overestimating how long you would be comfortable being away from your new baby?

Do whatever you feel comfortable with. You are leaving the baby with your MIL not some random stranger. I don’t understand how it’s weird to leave a baby with a family member at three months but fine to put them in a nursery with strangers at nine months when maternity leave is over.

Take baby.
I wouldn't be that far from mine.

I did a 4hr ikea round trip when mine was about 5 months, and with his dad. Even that freaked me out. And I wasn't an attachment parent.