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AIBU to be annoyed when people ask when women will have babies?

30 replies

Runnersknee · 24/03/2026 18:42

I know I’m not being unreasonable here but I need to vent - when will people stop asking women when they are going to have a baby?!? Surely everyone knows by now it’s insensitive and nosey.

It really does drive me mad & it’s not even me on the receiving end of it these days! But my sister got married last year and all I ever hear from people is ‘oh when’s your sister going to have a baby’.

It’s always other women asking and the worst offenders are a couple of friends who both had miscarriages so should know better. I just find it so awkward as I never know what to say as it’s really no one else’s business and ttc is hard enough without everyone else asking about it.

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IdaGlossop · 24/03/2026 18:54

It is very intrusive and insensitive. Women should know better. It has irritated me for years. When I was pregnant myself with my only child at the age of 41, I was on the end of a reverse version: 'Oh, I didn't know you were interested in having children.' From an intelligent woman!

Dearg · 24/03/2026 18:53

YANBU. When my sister had her first, I was told ‘you’re next!’ . When that didn’t happen, I got ‘better get a move on’.
Really intrusive, insensitive and ignorant.

60- something me would tell them to get lost, but when you are in the middle of it , it’s so very hard.

💐for all mumsnetters dealing with that.

Mullaghanish · 24/03/2026 18:49

And when you get one out.. they’ll want to know when are you having the second!! 😂

CinnamonBuns67 · 24/03/2026 18:49

I have never been asked when I'll start having babies (but I did have my eldest at 21). However I'm pregnant now age 30 with my second and also my second girl and now all I get asked is will I be having another after this one to try for a boy 🫩 erm no both me and DH are happy with the two girls we have and have no desire to have more children boys or girls.

CaragianettE · 24/03/2026 18:47

Oops butterfingers I clicked YABU but, very obviously, YANBU.