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What fresh hell is this

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eggsandsourdough · 24/03/2026 15:58

High school!!

DD started last year and jesus fucking christ what a rollercoaster.

The transition has been absolutly brutal, not so much for my DD in the sense she made a huge group of friends but the sheer drama, behaviour,shocking stories.

My lovely, kind empathetic grl has turned into a monster.

I was not ready!! What a humbling experience.

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SurreySenMum26 · 24/03/2026 16:45

If it's any consolation each of my kids have had a different experience. Ds1..great year 7. Hideous y8-11 where I was in weekly for persistent school refusal. Attendance 60% passed all gcses, A at a levels and now at a great uni.

Ds2 absolute angel throughout

Ds3 angle until now y9

Dd nightmare already so I prepaired for anything in y6

I contemplated running away alot with my first born at secondary. Bless him. Hideous!

Littlefish · 24/03/2026 16:43

Year 9 was hell on earth (girls).

Year 10 wasn’t a whole lot better!

6th form was a slight improvement.

University has been wonderful.

Youspurnme · 24/03/2026 16:38

yikes. DS is in Yr 8 and while we have had some huffing and general moodiness, he’s still mostly human. I’m bracing myself for the next few years 😭

Additup · 24/03/2026 16:25

You have my deepest sympathy OP. Secondary school is awful.

AlexRidersButt · 24/03/2026 16:16

It was hell until around 16, when they became mostly human again.

ainsleysanob · 24/03/2026 16:11

We’re half way through year 9 now and my DS, although already the hairiest creature I have ever seen, is still the same kind, loving and helpful boy he always was! We have two years left after this one and fingers crossed for maintaining this!!

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eggsandsourdough · 24/03/2026 16:08

Monthlymonster · 24/03/2026 16:07

Secondary school was hellish for me so since my kids started I’ve always been waiting for … something but nothing yet and both are a good way in already!

whats your secret 👀tell me please!!!

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GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · 24/03/2026 16:08

You couldn’t fucking pay me to relive the ages 11-14, I was talking with my SIL and sister the other day and they agreed. First half of secondary school was fucking brutal, last two years were alright though but oh my god, I wouldn’t do it again for all the money in the world.

It’s good that she has friends, and I will say I’m still friends with most of my school friends despite all the drama - so there’s that.

Monthlymonster · 24/03/2026 16:07

Secondary school was hellish for me so since my kids started I’ve always been waiting for … something but nothing yet and both are a good way in already!

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eggsandsourdough · 24/03/2026 16:06

xOlive · 24/03/2026 16:00

Don’t. I’m dreading it.
What’s happening? Tell me everything 😂

Fall outs every day
They "love" each other and only refer to each other as "baby"
They look for issues even when there appears to be none 😂
FULL on teenage angst all day long
Suddenly i have become "weird" and "embarrasing"

Tiktok is the devil and all social media has been banned in this household

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eggsandsourdough · 24/03/2026 16:02

Ok wait guys im scottish school so we have S1, S2 and so on...

let me google to translate hahah

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skippy67 · 24/03/2026 16:02

LarsenBiceshelf · 24/03/2026 16:00

Oh, you'll love Year 9, then. That's when the hormones kick in and they all go feral.

Year 8 was horrific for us. 😅

ThatGreenFawn · 24/03/2026 16:02

LarsenBiceshelf · 24/03/2026 16:00

Oh, you'll love Year 9, then. That's when the hormones kick in and they all go feral.

You mean it gets worse after y7??? Ds started Y7 this year and his attitude has gone through the roof and who would have thought you learn everything you ever need to know in the first 6 months so he now knows everything!

LarsenBiceshelf · 24/03/2026 16:00

Oh, you'll love Year 9, then. That's when the hormones kick in and they all go feral.

xOlive · 24/03/2026 16:00

Don’t. I’m dreading it.
What’s happening? Tell me everything 😂

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