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To think people who say women's football & tennis isn't as skilled as men's because the men (or even untrained boys) would beat them are missing the point?

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Carla786 · 24/03/2026 06:49

I've been down a rabbit hole about the 1971 Mexico Women's World Cup, and it's got me interested in women's football now. I've always been interested in tennis. Anyway, it's struck me, reading MN threads, that a lot of posts seem to miss the point about physical strength differences between men and women.
Men obviously are able to kick/hit balls etc with more power, because of higher testosterone. It's incoherent to claim this makes women players 'less good'. Sports are generally an area where it doesn't make sense to compare women to men : the women's game should be judged on its own terms.

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Uptightmumma · 24/03/2026 09:02

DuncinToffee · 24/03/2026 08:55

It is explained here

https://www.cbssports.com/soccer/news/a-dallas-fc-under-15-boys-squad-beat-the-u-s-womens-national-team-in-a-scrimmage/

Of course, this match against the academy team was very informal and should not be a major cause for alarm. The U.S. surely wasn’t going all out, with the main goal being to get some minutes on the pitch, build chemistry when it comes to moving the ball around, improve defensive shape and get ready for Russia.

They weren’t trying to beat the academy team, they were trying to improve their flaws, speed bing one of them.

I understand it was an informal match etc but you can’t say that the senior women would have beaten the senior men - when in reality regardless of what it was they still got beat: they still should have beaten them.

it’s like when they do charity football matches the ex professional footballers come on the pitch and even though they are well passed there best they are are better than the celebrities playing and nearly always beat them.

Wonderknicks · 24/03/2026 09:01

Tennis boring? It's really not (misses point entirely!)
I do struggle slightly with equal pay for tournaments for female tennis players. A 3 set match is not the same as a 5 setter in grand slams. I'm sure the women are fit enough for 5 set matches these days

Uptightmumma · 24/03/2026 08:57

But this is minimising the levels. Smaller pitch. Smaller goals. Personally I just don’t think some sports are as entertaining - such as football when it’s women’s. I actually find women’s tennis’s much better to watch as it’s more about the skill and I would rather see the long rally’s etc.

I think if people want to compare male/female sports and the levels at which people can play should be based on sports which are all about skill such as darts; curling, pool, snooker etc.

DuncinToffee · 24/03/2026 08:55

Uptightmumma · 24/03/2026 08:19

They wouldn’t have. USA World Cup winning women’s team played the fc Dallas under 15 boys and got beat.
boys/men are just better at certain types of sport due to development, strength. Speed etc

It is explained here

https://www.cbssports.com/soccer/news/a-dallas-fc-under-15-boys-squad-beat-the-u-s-womens-national-team-in-a-scrimmage/

Of course, this match against the academy team was very informal and should not be a major cause for alarm. The U.S. surely wasn’t going all out, with the main goal being to get some minutes on the pitch, build chemistry when it comes to moving the ball around, improve defensive shape and get ready for Russia.

They weren’t trying to beat the academy team, they were trying to improve their flaws, speed bing one of them.

Girasoli · 24/03/2026 08:54

Apart from the fact men/teen boys are bigger and stronger, also the fact that more boys play at grass roots level means that it's easier for them to improve/be put at the right level to be challenged.

When I watch DS1 do football training there's about 4 pitches full of boys, and 1 of girls - it means the boys can have an A and B team, and be separated better by age.

As well as gymnastics, I think women also have the advantage in ultra long distance races.

DuncinToffee · 24/03/2026 08:47

Carla786 · 24/03/2026 08:36

That's difficult.. but I think if the change would improve the game, it should ideally be made. Could more pitches be built...?

Good point re monopolising.

They looked at it and it would give the women sport a huge disadvantage.

Women's football needs investment. The FA banned it for so many years that it is still playing catch up.

DuncinToffee · 24/03/2026 08:44

Nosejobnelly · 24/03/2026 07:21

I speak to DH about this and he says it’s a much slower game so he gets bored (and he’s a massive footie fan).

I take it he doesn't watch a lot of womens sport then, as they are all 'slower'.

Women's football deserves the recognition on their own merit not as a comparison.

dizzydizzydizzy · 24/03/2026 08:39

In the serve and volley days of tennis, I used to think that the top female players with more skilled than the male players. A lot of the men relied a lot on brute strength. I don’t think that is the case now.

Carla786 · 24/03/2026 08:36

randomchap · 24/03/2026 08:31

The problem with making the pitch and goal smaller is that it reduces the number of pitches women and girls can play on.

Currently anyone can play on any pitch, changing that could limit women's opportunities.

Conversely having female only pitches could stop men/boys monopolising all the pitches.

That's difficult.. but I think if the change would improve the game, it should ideally be made. Could more pitches be built...?

Good point re monopolising.

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randomchap · 24/03/2026 08:31

The problem with making the pitch and goal smaller is that it reduces the number of pitches women and girls can play on.

Currently anyone can play on any pitch, changing that could limit women's opportunities.

Conversely having female only pitches could stop men/boys monopolising all the pitches.

Carla786 · 24/03/2026 08:27

Uptightmumma · 24/03/2026 08:19

They wouldn’t have. USA World Cup winning women’s team played the fc Dallas under 15 boys and got beat.
boys/men are just better at certain types of sport due to development, strength. Speed etc

Not better so much as playing a game designed for men's greater power. Whereas women's football isn't 'worse',,it's just played by people with different natural abilities.

A couple of intetesting articles on the pitch issue :

https://www.ucfb.ac.uk/news/in-focus-should-the-goal-and-pitch-size-be-made-smaller-in-womens-football/

https://www.thetimes.com/sport/football/article/shrinking-goals-and-pitches-could-improve-women-s-game-dr022ptrx?gaa_at=eafs&gaa_n=AWEtsqeoG-N8u61F_uo_SOHnavf8xaowY0NMoEvPDclWq61alADonwMW8k_ejeafRyQ%3D&gaa_ts=69c24be1&gaa_sig=4L8qepEuz5AAFKtiRW1c04dkQEe0u2ZmxC7CgL_2tFVexOEVdwLvPscCurr17UGSn2dnQwT4c1PZnJ5S_bnQfg%3D%3D

In Focus: Should the goal and pitch size be made smaller in women’s football? - UCFB

When Thailand lost 13-0 to the United States in the FIFA Women’s World Cup in 2019, it sparked global debates about whether goalpost and pitch sizes should be reduced in the women’s game. Emma Hayes, the hugely respected and admired manager of Chelsea...

https://www.ucfb.ac.uk/news/in-focus-should-the-goal-and-pitch-size-be-made-smaller-in-womens-football

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AnnaMagnani · 24/03/2026 08:22

MrThorpeHazell · 24/03/2026 08:00

It's always been my opinion that the European Cup winning Lionesses could have wiped the floor with the England men's team of the time. Football is a game of skill not brute strength (Leeds Utd please note).

Didn't the great Billie Jean King win the tennis "battle of the sexes"?

YANBU.

The Lionesses are brilliant but basically playing a different sport to the men.

If you play then against each other the women will be wiped out everytime.

However training the best women's football team means training them to be the best at women's football, not training them to be as close to a male team as possible.

Uptightmumma · 24/03/2026 08:19

MrThorpeHazell · 24/03/2026 08:00

It's always been my opinion that the European Cup winning Lionesses could have wiped the floor with the England men's team of the time. Football is a game of skill not brute strength (Leeds Utd please note).

Didn't the great Billie Jean King win the tennis "battle of the sexes"?

YANBU.

They wouldn’t have. USA World Cup winning women’s team played the fc Dallas under 15 boys and got beat.
boys/men are just better at certain types of sport due to development, strength. Speed etc

AnnaMagnani · 24/03/2026 08:17

Nosejobnelly · 24/03/2026 07:21

I speak to DH about this and he says it’s a much slower game so he gets bored (and he’s a massive footie fan).

Well I spoke to my DH and he prefers the women's as he can always follow it and there is more skill, less brute force.

My DM prefers women's tennis for the same reason.

Personally I'd prefer no sport at all but maybe I've just been watching the men and getting bored.

MikeRafone · 24/03/2026 08:17

Men’s cycling is far more popular to watch than woman’s cycle (road) and yet woman’s cycling isn’t televised so how can it be popular? It’s apparently that men’s racing is more skilled and interesting therefore to watch

go to any junior club level cycling race and you have 12 year old boys winning races and getting a larger cash prize than the 12 year old girls. The reason “ apparently “ is due to more boys entering the race. We talking £30 for first place boy and £15 for first prize girl

how does a parent explain that to a brother and sister both winning their race

Carla786 · 24/03/2026 08:11

Serenity75 · 24/03/2026 08:08

many sports are based on physical prowess and skill. If you’ve got a man and a women equally skilled and both at their physical peak, it is likely that the man will be the better player sports like cricket / tennis or rugby because the physical side is important. All of these sports were if not invented, codified by male Victorians mind you, they weren’t exactly thinking about equality across the sexes!

I think thar misses the point though that it's pointless to judge women against men, because no woman, no matter how hard she trains, will have the power men's higher T brings. It's only coherent to judge women against other women.
To take pp's gym example, it wouldn't be coherent to judge men's rhythmic gymnastics (which some men do, eg. Japan) as less good because they have less lower body strength than women.

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Serenity75 · 24/03/2026 08:08

many sports are based on physical prowess and skill. If you’ve got a man and a women equally skilled and both at their physical peak, it is likely that the man will be the better player sports like cricket / tennis or rugby because the physical side is important. All of these sports were if not invented, codified by male Victorians mind you, they weren’t exactly thinking about equality across the sexes!

Carla786 · 24/03/2026 08:06

Mumteedum · 24/03/2026 07:24

Imagine if we'd built football pitches to a scale relative to the size and strength of women instead of men. It wouldn't be slow then.

Yes, I wish we could do this so it could play to women's strengths.

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Carla786 · 24/03/2026 08:06

ExtraOnions · 24/03/2026 07:39

Women’s football isn’t as good as Men’s football. That’s not to say it won’t get there, it will take time, and investment, and commitment .. not just in the UK, but globally. There hasn’t been the grass routes development pathways that men’s football has had, or the level of competition needed to keep the skill level increasing.

Tennis is a bit of a snooze-fest, on all levels.

Yes, I agree. I think a lot of people are probably conflating 'women are weak, football will always be boring' with the fact that the level of training etc that the England women's team have isn't level with the men's. This will improve though, as you say.

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TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 24/03/2026 08:05

Nosejobnelly · 24/03/2026 07:21

I speak to DH about this and he says it’s a much slower game so he gets bored (and he’s a massive footie fan).

Thank you for that revelatory insight into what your DH thinks, I'll be sure to consider that carefully in my opinions on women's sport from now on.

Carla786 · 24/03/2026 08:04

MrThorpeHazell · 24/03/2026 08:00

It's always been my opinion that the European Cup winning Lionesses could have wiped the floor with the England men's team of the time. Football is a game of skill not brute strength (Leeds Utd please note).

Didn't the great Billie Jean King win the tennis "battle of the sexes"?

YANBU.

Rings was 55, King 29 which probably helped. But it shows that simplistic statements that 'any man could beat any woman' are silly. Similarly, implying that teen boys beating women's teams shows how weak women are overlooks that teen boys are probably at peak fitness and strength, setting aside the T advantage men have anyway.

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Carla786 · 24/03/2026 08:01

Savvysix1984 · 24/03/2026 07:49

I agree op. I heard Serena Williams in an interview saying that she wouldn’t play Andy Murray because she’d lose every set because they’re completely different games.

Exactly - or more bluntly, because men have far higher testosterone so will win based on power.

Otoh it should be remembered that men don't beat women literally all the time. Otherwise Billie Jean King's challenge to Bobby Riggs would've been a failure.
I also find it irritating when people cite the Williams sisters losing against a German player in his 30s as proof that men would always beat them. They were teens , not at their peak yet : men probably would usually best them, but that match doesn't feel like quite a fair comparison.

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MrThorpeHazell · 24/03/2026 08:00

It's always been my opinion that the European Cup winning Lionesses could have wiped the floor with the England men's team of the time. Football is a game of skill not brute strength (Leeds Utd please note).

Didn't the great Billie Jean King win the tennis "battle of the sexes"?

YANBU.

Savvysix1984 · 24/03/2026 07:49

I agree op. I heard Serena Williams in an interview saying that she wouldn’t play Andy Murray because she’d lose every set because they’re completely different games.

ExtraOnions · 24/03/2026 07:39

Women’s football isn’t as good as Men’s football. That’s not to say it won’t get there, it will take time, and investment, and commitment .. not just in the UK, but globally. There hasn’t been the grass routes development pathways that men’s football has had, or the level of competition needed to keep the skill level increasing.

Tennis is a bit of a snooze-fest, on all levels.

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