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To think people who say women's football & tennis isn't as skilled as men's because the men (or even untrained boys) would beat them are missing the point?

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Carla786 · 24/03/2026 06:49

I've been down a rabbit hole about the 1971 Mexico Women's World Cup, and it's got me interested in women's football now. I've always been interested in tennis. Anyway, it's struck me, reading MN threads, that a lot of posts seem to miss the point about physical strength differences between men and women.
Men obviously are able to kick/hit balls etc with more power, because of higher testosterone. It's incoherent to claim this makes women players 'less good'. Sports are generally an area where it doesn't make sense to compare women to men : the women's game should be judged on its own terms.

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MollyButton · 24/03/2026 10:10

I think another example is Basketball, the Men’s and Wonen’s games are totally different. I think the women’s is more skillful just because women are not 6ft 10. But Men would have a massive advantage over women.

NemesisInferior · 24/03/2026 10:03

It's pointless comparison to make as the playing field isn't equal. Female athletes work and train just as hard as male athletes, but obviously in terms of sheer strength and physical capabilities the upper limit of male athletes is higher than women.

In an equal world where professional sport hasn't basically been taken over as a business, both sets of athletes would be valued and paid equally.

WhatAPavalova · 24/03/2026 10:00

I see women’s tennis differently. When you have people fairly equally matched, at the top of sport, I don’t at all consider that due to a top male tennis player having more brut force that I’m watching a lesser game.

I’m not interested in soccer. I only watch men’s rugby. I follow sailing a bit and occasionally look up endurance running both of which women compete on more equal footing and can beat all the men. I don’t follow them for this reason, I’m just pointing this out.

Uptightmumma · 24/03/2026 09:59

DuncinToffee · 24/03/2026 09:06

Well no, I would never state that senior women would have beaten senior men. I was explaining why this example that keeps being trotted out is flawed.

But someone did say it which is what I was quoting and while their is flaws in it and they possibly didn’t play there best and used it for training etc they still should have beaten them

Parsleyforme · 24/03/2026 09:53

I am into strength training and men are just physically stronger than women. Some people (even men for some reason) try to dispute it but it’s a fact. It’s something like the average man is stronger than 80% of women, and most men could manage about 3 pushups at a minimum while women’s average is 0.

But I would also draw a comparison between sports and comedy. It’s embarrassing now but I used to think women were just less funny than men because there were barely any female comedians. But actually it was just very hard for them to break into the industry, and now that they are deliberately given a platform there are lots more female comedians doing really well. I think investment and interest in women’s sports is increasing, so we will see ability improving at all levels, because there is more opportunity for girls and the chance of attracting/affording better coaches, trainers, equipment etc. than before. That said, they will never be at the same “level” as men in some sports because they are simply less strong on average. (And this is why I am against trans people playing as their transitioned gender even though I am generally pro trans)

Carla786 · 24/03/2026 09:51

domenica1 · 24/03/2026 09:47

Can’t answer that one! I have read the only reason is that there is just not the scheduling time in the major tournaments to accommodate. And the women’s game does bring in less money sad to say.

Hmm! I think that should change. Surely it would help the women's game : otherwise it implies unintentionally that the players are weaker that they actually are. I think I read that it originally was codified like that because 5 sets were thought to be too strenuous.

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randomchap · 24/03/2026 09:47

Choccyp1g · 24/03/2026 09:32

Yes, I appreciate "moving the goalposts" would be tricky, but the width of the pitch makes a difference as well.

It does, but the shape of the pitch can dictate the tactics used. There's no official shape of them, just a max and minimum for length and width, so it's possible to have a minimally wide and max length pitch and vice versa.

Some clubs change the dimensions of the pitch to help tactically.

So by having women's pitches narrowed compared to men's isn't going to improve the women's game.

I don't think there's a simple solution. But getting more girls and women into the game, and more matches broadcast on tv can only be a good thing in my eyes

domenica1 · 24/03/2026 09:47

Carla786 · 24/03/2026 09:45

Re best of 3, why can't the women play five nowadays?

Can’t answer that one! I have read the only reason is that there is just not the scheduling time in the major tournaments to accommodate. And the women’s game does bring in less money sad to say.

Carla786 · 24/03/2026 09:45

domenica1 · 24/03/2026 09:09

I don’t really agree with your paraphrasing of Serena’s statement except in the broadest terms. Men’s strength and power means there is a lot more spin on the ball and play is consequently more strategic with more variety of shots. In the women’s game the ball travels faster but lacks the spin. It’s a lot more baseline to baseline. And consequently a less interesting game to watch. (The best of 3 in the women’s game also leads to fewer consistent results hence the great variety in the game at the top but that’s a different point).

Re best of 3, why can't the women play five nowadays?

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domenica1 · 24/03/2026 09:35

I also don’t think anyone ever claimed that women tennis players are less skilled. I know it’s a constant debate about football but in tennis the reasons for the differences in the game are about strength but not skill. They are two different discussions

Choccyp1g · 24/03/2026 09:32

randomchap · 24/03/2026 09:26

To shorten the pitch you would need to move the goalposts.

Yes, I appreciate "moving the goalposts" would be tricky, but the width of the pitch makes a difference as well.

domenica1 · 24/03/2026 09:32

MontyDong · 24/03/2026 07:32

I’d make a distinction between tennis and football here. Women’s tennis is just as skilful as men’s, if not more so- the fact that women are less strong means it’s a less a game about pure power.

Women’s football is a bit different, as it’s far less well funded and developed than the men’s game. This means that female players have received less training and for a shorter period. In terms of skill it reminds me more of the men’s game 40+ years ago- if you watch old matches you can see that it was played quite differently.. The current England men’s team would wipe the floor with the 1966 team, despite them having won the World Cup and our lot having won nothing. As time passes and more money goes int the women’s game, this difference will be lost.

I also think the women’s game would be better to watch if they played on slightly smaller pitches but that’s impractical.

Re tennis in fact the opposite is true. Men’s greater strength means the game isn’t just about pure power, which (in my view) makes it more interesting to watch. Hence the oft quoted statistic that Sabalenka has the fastest forehand in the game etc. it’s not really surprising.

randomchap · 24/03/2026 09:26

Choccyp1g · 24/03/2026 09:24

Why is it impractical to draw some lines inside the existing ones? They do it for doubles v singles tennis?

To shorten the pitch you would need to move the goalposts.

Ukefluke · 24/03/2026 09:26

SixSevenShutUp · 24/03/2026 07:30

Gosh, your husband has spoken. Must be like hearing the word of God, eh?!

No not god. A football fan has spoken and as those are overwhelmingly male and they generally find womens football too slow then its a valid point.

I would ask my husband about this topic as well given that he is the football watcher in this house. the rest of us dont watch and dont have an opinion.

Choccyp1g · 24/03/2026 09:24

MontyDong · 24/03/2026 07:32

I’d make a distinction between tennis and football here. Women’s tennis is just as skilful as men’s, if not more so- the fact that women are less strong means it’s a less a game about pure power.

Women’s football is a bit different, as it’s far less well funded and developed than the men’s game. This means that female players have received less training and for a shorter period. In terms of skill it reminds me more of the men’s game 40+ years ago- if you watch old matches you can see that it was played quite differently.. The current England men’s team would wipe the floor with the 1966 team, despite them having won the World Cup and our lot having won nothing. As time passes and more money goes int the women’s game, this difference will be lost.

I also think the women’s game would be better to watch if they played on slightly smaller pitches but that’s impractical.

Why is it impractical to draw some lines inside the existing ones? They do it for doubles v singles tennis?

MsSmartShoes · 24/03/2026 09:22

My mil thinks this - she truly believes that women shouldn’t be paid as much as sports men because they aren’t as strong. So what she is saying is that women should be penalised for their biology. She’s not very bright.

MoFadaCromulent · 24/03/2026 09:21

domenica1 · 24/03/2026 09:17

@MoFadaCromulent why the shade on Fulham, ninth in the table??!

Their 0-0 with forest popped in to my head as a game I'd have never sat through if it was a mid table team against a relegation candidate in La Liga, yet because it was the PL I happily wasted 2 hours on it.

I subbed in Wolves as Forest seemed too interesting for my example given their season so far

Asdexpansion · 24/03/2026 09:20

I prefer women’s tennis to men’s as the women’s tennis relies on skill more. I don’t think much of women’s football. I think the way our bodies are built make us a lot less skilful at football.

domenica1 · 24/03/2026 09:17

@MoFadaCromulent why the shade on Fulham, ninth in the table??!

MoFadaCromulent · 24/03/2026 09:16

They're essentially different sports as the players and tactics adapt to the circumstances they face, what would to win in a match between two mens teams or male tennis players isn't necessarily going to translate for a women's team or female tennis player facing same sex opponents.

I also think the skill level in football is a bit of a red herring, otherwise nobody would support non-league teams or anyone outside the top 6.
What matters is emotional investment and that is grown by exposure.

There's countless games in La Liga or the bundesliga which are probably higher quality than Fulham vs wolves, but I'm ten times more likely to watch the English game as I've sunk 40 years in to the product and I'm up to date on the narratives and backstory of the teams and players so there'll be something there that gives the game stakes and jeopardy.

It's absolutely no coincidence that the women's game has so much more interest now that broadcasters and marketing departments have pushed the game and so people can relate to the team and care wether or not a player they can recognize and probably refer to by their first name wins a match as opposed to nameless English goalkeeper #254.

We've seen it over here with the league of Ireland, exposure and people investing in the game generates interest in a much greater way than an uplift in quality.

domenica1 · 24/03/2026 09:15

I should add, the “less interesting game to watch” is a commonly held view but of course people may disagree with it.

CandyEnclosingInvisible · 24/03/2026 09:15

Pretty much all sport is won on a combination of skill, strength and experience. The whole reason for there being different divisions of competition including age classifications for younger players, a women's league, sometimes a veterans league, sometimes different weight classes and also paralympic versions is so that the skills of those with less strength or bodies that are less well-adapted to the particular sport get a chance to pit their skills and experience against those in a similar position without being overpowered by those with less skill but more strength, so that those with less experience can play with those at a similar level of experience, and those with plenty of skill and experience but who are past their peak of physical condition can still showcase their talent. There is absolutely no point having different divisions in any sport if the boundaries for who qualifies are not really rigorously enforced.

domenica1 · 24/03/2026 09:09

Carla786 · 24/03/2026 08:01

Exactly - or more bluntly, because men have far higher testosterone so will win based on power.

Otoh it should be remembered that men don't beat women literally all the time. Otherwise Billie Jean King's challenge to Bobby Riggs would've been a failure.
I also find it irritating when people cite the Williams sisters losing against a German player in his 30s as proof that men would always beat them. They were teens , not at their peak yet : men probably would usually best them, but that match doesn't feel like quite a fair comparison.

I don’t really agree with your paraphrasing of Serena’s statement except in the broadest terms. Men’s strength and power means there is a lot more spin on the ball and play is consequently more strategic with more variety of shots. In the women’s game the ball travels faster but lacks the spin. It’s a lot more baseline to baseline. And consequently a less interesting game to watch. (The best of 3 in the women’s game also leads to fewer consistent results hence the great variety in the game at the top but that’s a different point).

DuncinToffee · 24/03/2026 09:06

Uptightmumma · 24/03/2026 09:02

I understand it was an informal match etc but you can’t say that the senior women would have beaten the senior men - when in reality regardless of what it was they still got beat: they still should have beaten them.

it’s like when they do charity football matches the ex professional footballers come on the pitch and even though they are well passed there best they are are better than the celebrities playing and nearly always beat them.

Well no, I would never state that senior women would have beaten senior men. I was explaining why this example that keeps being trotted out is flawed.

MajesticWhine · 24/03/2026 09:06

Given more investment and encouragement is given to boys and men playing football then I think it’s no surprise if they do end up being more skilled. Or to put it better, there is a larger pool of skilled players to pick from. Same goes for cricket and rugby. Tennis is a bit different as has been a mainstream sport for girls / women for a lot longer.
I play tennis to a decent level and there are lots of men at my club who are hopeless. They have a huge powerful serve that occasionally goes in, but they can’t keep a rally. I have more fun playing with the older ladies than some of the men.

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