AIBU to think DH’s joke after my car crash was inappropriate?

When I was a student I worked a summer in the office of a distribution company, one of the drivers was in a similar accident and the jokes about him getting his back doors smashed in were still going by the time I went back to uni. It's a bit crass, laddy, page 3 reader type humour but I wouldn't be offended

Perhaps the OP will answer that.

I really don't think it is the same. The tone is completely different- yours was a sort of "Are you being served?" double entendre.

But would she have seen the funny side another day?

The thing is though, you and your husband obviously share the same type of humour and you would think it funny. The OP didn't and he told her she should alter her ways. If you have to tell someone to enjoy your jokes something isn't right.

I’d of just eye rolled then got on with my day. I wouldn’t of been offended at his joke or bothered by it

It means the same thing so what’s the difference?

I would be a bit pissed off. Yes the accident wasn't serious but when I've had accidents in the past I still feel a bit shaken and upset after, and whilst I don't expect support, I think taking rhe piss straight after I'd told my husband would seriously annoy me.

Does he usually make such jokes? Not my kind of humour, but I’m not offended. I just find such jokes awkward as I never usually laugh.

I thought from the title that it was going to be a more serious crash and that he was being insensitive. The car crash just created the set up for it, so it’s really just about his general sense of humour?

I’d not find this funny either. The fixation some men have with anal sex is ridiculous.

Making a joke wouldn't bother me usually as it was a very minor bump however what he said is disgusting. Is he always so crass? Not much of a catch is he.

Gross and insensitive.

I can get why you felt it was inappropriate or bad taste especially because you had just been involved in an accident but he was most likely trying to lighten the mood and trying to give you a little laugh. I definitely would forgive him especially if he is normally a caring, good sort. Men can be absolute idiots at times, even the best ones.

My vagina would seal itself shut forever after that comment.

Once again proof I live in alternative universe

He cracks a sick joke in bad taste and it’s immediately your fault for not having a sense of humour? Yuck! 🤮

He sounds immature.

No, but the sentiment was the same, it was a joke, we laughed, none of us got offended and we went on with our day

Well, in my experience even a small prang can be upsetting, unnerving and shake your confidence. I must be getting old, because I’d be properly pissed off (and shocked) of my man came out with his kind of bull-shittery. All your DH had to do was check you and DC weren’t hurt, be supportive/make sympathetic noises. End of. Where the fuck does “let’s use this an opportunity for a joke about my frustrated overtures toward anal sex” come into it?! The mind boggles.

Is your DH watching a lot of porn? Does he have a shit fetish? Does he have a penis that is so small that it gains insufficient friction within a standard vagina? Or is he just a bellend with a teenage sense of humour? My vagina (and anus) would clamp shut at this ill-timed attempt at ‘humour’.

Is he normally such a monumentally thoughtless, embarrassment of a man, OP, or is this an uncharacteristic blip?

He didn't refer to it as "smashing your back doors in" though, did he?

I'd be shocked and astounded if dh said that to me under any circumstances.

Not in a pearl clutching way. Although it's a pretty disgusting way to speak
I know people do and I've heard worse without fainting away, but dh just doesn't talk that way and if he did I'd think he'd had some type of neurological event.
So no, you are not being at all unreasonable.

Haha no!

Has he had any luck since 😉

My husband said it as well, said the driver had more luck than he had over the years, we laughed, we got on with our day!

He's a twat. Did he really expect you to find it funny?