Husband’s female colleague’s issue being taken very seriously.

Also why is it relevant that it was a woman? Are your husbands so hot that she wont be able to resist their charms?

it’s possible not to approve of something without it being because she wants to fuck them

I think it’s weird that all the wives tag along and then have a date night with husband after the working day.

and now she’s free to try!

If it was just her complaining but the bosses didn’t think there was an issue, they would have ignored it.

I don’t know anywhere that allows spouses to tag along on work trips - they often want the employees to have dinner together as well.

Perhaps there have been instances of some people taking the piss with expenses.

Either way they have decided that it’s time for it to finish.!

tagging along to your partners business trips seems so old fashioned I am surprised this still happens I only worked for one company where this happened (finance) and it stopped while I was there years ago

I am sure others are complaining

I used to work somewhere with this culture, albeit 20 years ago! They also always invited spouses to Christmas parties and company events.
Everywhere I’ve worked since has not allowed or encouraged this but has been fine with tagging on personal trips at the end of work ones (working in Paris Thursday and Friday, DH would come out Friday afternoon for a long weekend but we’d pick up the whole bill).
Not sure about the complaint other than it is very unusual to still have the spouses arrangement so maybe she’s jumped to conclusions?

Oh well, it was good while it lasted.

Let me get this straight:

Female colleague has written to a manager saying:

“On Wednesday evening after the end of World Widget Audit Symposium I discovered that Bob and Arvind’s wives had travelled to the conference location with them. I can only conclude that Mrs Bob and Mrs Arvind insisted on attending because they believed I would be doing my best to seduce Bob and/or Arvind during the post-conference party at Rick’s Sports Bar and they did not trust Bob and Arvind to be able to resist my advances.

I object strongly to the insinuation that I am in any way unprofessional and, accordingly, I request that Big Widget immediately cease approving the presence of spouses at work events.”

Surely not?

I don't think colleagues should be forced to spend evenings together at all.

Unless perhaps they're being paid for every single minute they're away on the trip.

Fine to put forward an idea that spouses on a work trip should be a blanket no, or indeed agreed upon by all colleagues beforehand (this could go the other way for eg if a husband was invited in a woman only group. Some might not want a bloke around).

Not fine to assume your reasons for wanting to accompany. But v odd that she cites her potential behaviour towards the men as your motivation. Did she really say that?! And formally? Why would she suggest that? It makes no sense, in any context.

Not every evening of a long event, obviously.

But depending on the mix of people, a lot can get done in the down time.

What a shame, I can't abide people complaining and the result being less for everyone else e.g equalising pension ages...but UP 🤦‍♀️
This sounds so healthy for the marriages involved, gutted for you. Sorry OP ☀️

I've been on work trips, staying alone, but in a city where friends are. No-one's ever had a problem with me going to socialise with a friend I barely see, after work, instead of the colleagues I've just spent all day with!

I dont understand. She was invited along but declined. Then made a complaint.
Tbh she sounds like someone who likes making mischief. I have met people like this, they will stab you in the back as soon as look at you.
One to give a wide berth in the future, methimks

I was thinking the same.

I don’t go on work trips now, but when I did the evenings were generally either spent with colleagues preparing for the next day or out for dinner with people from the organisations we were visiting. Occasionally I’d actually get some down time, but having spouses or partners there would have seriously changed the dynamics.

I think they wanted to get rid of partners going and this was their best opportunity falling from heaven.

They are being unreasonable. We're talking spouses here, not crack and hookers. I would ignore them.

Why should the evening be spent with colleagues?

If the room being paid for by the company is a double, I can't see how they can object to someone else staying over with him. I did this regularly when my DH went away with work, and the kids were grown up.
You asked her if she wanted to join you, and she refused. Would she have refused if it had just been your DH?
I don't think the company can police after-hours socialising.

Good on her for getting this totally unprofessional custom changed! How come you are free to tag along on your husband's trips so often, do you not have a job yourself?

Ultimately they have stopped you doing it, so decision made.

But they can very much dictate what they are willing to pay for and rooms they are paying for an occupancy of - and they can take control of that

it isn’t your lifestyle though is it it is a working environment not a trip away