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Stay signed off or job hunt whilst pregnant?

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PippyPipPop · 23/03/2026 11:51

I'm being threatened with a Performance Improvement Plan whilst pregnant (unfairly, I might add).

I have told my work I am pregnant, but only shortly AFTER the PIP was threatened, so I don't know if this makes any difference.

I am currently signed off sick, as pregnancy has been tough so far and I'm very stressed.

My options are:

  • Stay off sick with stress for as long as possible and try to take maternity leave as soon as possible, with no intention of going back. I'm aware I would have to forfeit my right to enhanced maternity pay (as have been there over the qualifying time period). However, this would lessen any gap on my CV and I can then job hunt when baby is a few months old.
  • Apply for other jobs now whilst pregnant with the risk that I would majorly piss off a new employer, by going off on maternity leave shortly after starting. I know legally I can do this, but it wouldn't get me off to the best start with a new employer. I am however scared of being unemployed for months with a new baby and with the job market being so bad.

Can anybody advise?

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InWithPeaceOutWithStress · 28/03/2026 19:10

They’ve not actually put you on a PIP yet. Have a conversation with your manager about your workload and what is and isn’t doable. Going off on extended sick leave because your manager isn’t happy with your performance is such a poor work ethic.

Gentlydoesit2 · 28/03/2026 19:05

Stay off sick

HateThese4Leggedbeasts · 28/03/2026 19:02

Definitely option 1. Even if you go back for a bit and they put you on a pip you will be able to ask for some accomodations and they will have to be cautious assessing you so they probably won't be able to manage you out before you finish for mat leave. Also they might not bother doing the pip process if they know you are going on mat leave soon.

There also might be a chance to negotiate getting enhanced mat pay and not returning if neither side want you come back.

At least you accrue holiday while on sick leave. You can use a full annual allowance including your bank holidays before you officially start mat leave too.

Job hunting when pregnant is utterly miserable and stressful too and honestly pretty unlikely to be successful. (I've had to do it when I was made redundant after announcing my pregnancy at work).

WTAFIsWrongWithPeople · 28/03/2026 18:50

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 25/03/2026 11:34

I’m sure they couldn’t sack you whilst you’re pregnant whether you’re on a PIP or not. It might be wise seeing an employment solicitor to talk through your rights, or CAB if they’re useful.

You may be “sure”, but you’d be absolutely wrong.

WTAFIsWrongWithPeople · 28/03/2026 18:49

Itsafactitsactual · 23/03/2026 12:01

Stay off sick - that pushes the problem back on to them. It won't end well for them if they sack a pregnant woman - how long have you worked there.

this is only true if there is any element of sacking her for being pregnant. Capability (non pregnancy related) or under performance (with evidence) would be valid routes to exit someone.

going off sick isn’t some sort of magic spell that protects you from HR processes.

OrangeTrees7 · 28/03/2026 18:40

They have to provide you the opportunity to work on the PIP so you’ve got a few weeks maybe up to 3 months to ‘prove yoursel’ by which time you’d be on maternity. I believe most company’s start your maternity leave for you if you’re sick at 36 weeks so 3 months or so? Stay on the sick a bit longer, go back, sick again and then start you’re leave

PippyPipPop · 25/03/2026 11:52

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 25/03/2026 11:34

I’m sure they couldn’t sack you whilst you’re pregnant whether you’re on a PIP or not. It might be wise seeing an employment solicitor to talk through your rights, or CAB if they’re useful.

Unfortunately they can still sack me, as long as they can prove their reasons are not related to my pregnancy. It does put them on risky ground though and they would have to be very careful.

I'm concerned as they mentioned the PIP just before I told them I was pregnant, but they have not put me on one yet. Since my pregnancy announcement, my manager has still been documenting all our meetings with follow-up emails and is still threatening the PIP, so it looks like they're still waiting for the right time to put me on it (probably when I'm back from sick leave).

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Hankunamatata · 25/03/2026 11:51

Imo your better off going back when your ready and being put on pip now while your pregnant. They will have a hard time sacking you even on pip with being pregnant
Get onto acas for some advice

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 25/03/2026 11:34

PippyPipPop · 25/03/2026 10:56

Unfortunately if they put me on a PIP now and sack me, or I am forced to resign soon, I would then be pregnant and out of work with months of looking after a young baby ahead of me. I've firmly made up my mind that I don't want to work there anymore, but would like the option to quit whilst on maternity leave, so that I don't have such a large gap on my CV and no money coming in for months.

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I’m sure they couldn’t sack you whilst you’re pregnant whether you’re on a PIP or not. It might be wise seeing an employment solicitor to talk through your rights, or CAB if they’re useful.

PippyPipPop · 25/03/2026 10:57

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 24/03/2026 09:46

Are you public or private sector

I am private sector.

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PippyPipPop · 25/03/2026 10:56

ExtraOnions · 24/03/2026 07:47

Let the put you on a PIP, you are leaving, why would you give a toot? Work out how to get the most out of them financially, work only your contracted hours, safe in the knowledge you are planning your exit. Emotionally detach from it all.

Unfortunately if they put me on a PIP now and sack me, or I am forced to resign soon, I would then be pregnant and out of work with months of looking after a young baby ahead of me. I've firmly made up my mind that I don't want to work there anymore, but would like the option to quit whilst on maternity leave, so that I don't have such a large gap on my CV and no money coming in for months.

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PippyPipPop · 25/03/2026 10:51

reversegear · 23/03/2026 13:21

As a small business owner who had a woman do this to us I’d say stay, if you do choose to job hunt go for big corporations who can absorb the cost, it crippled us and it was a deliberate move on her part. As a women I understood and supported her but it was difficult.

Thank you for your perspective on this. That must have been a very difficult situation for you.
Whilst I know pregnant women are protected by law in this respect, I'm aware it would create a huge problem for a small employer, especially in the current economy and would also not get me off to the best start with a new employer.

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PippyPipPop · 25/03/2026 10:46

Thank you so much everybody for your replies. I was in such a muddle about what to do, but all your responses have given me the clarity I needed to know what to do. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

I always try to do the right thing and I feel very guilty that I have to 'play the system' in this way, but my employer has caused this problem and left me with little choice. I know going back to work right now would make me even more stressed and anxious, which would be no good for me or the baby, so I do feel justified taking some time out. I have a history of depression and anxiety, so know all too well just how bad things can get.

I'm now worried about how I can make it through to July, because that is a long time to be off sick, but I know I can go back for a while and then go off again if they put me on a PIP. I just wish so much that I could just enjoy my pregnancy and not have this hanging over me.

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 24/03/2026 09:46

Are you public or private sector

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 24/03/2026 09:45

How do you know that being off sick for so long will be an option surely the gp won’t keep you signed off until July if you’re not actually sick?

I would keep the job if I can and do the maternity leave year, go back for the three months but be interviewing actively elsewhere at the same time (or even just before end of Mat leave) so that you can give your notice almost immediately - they won’t bother Doing a pip while you’re on notice period.

Viviennemary · 24/03/2026 09:01

PippyPipPop · 23/03/2026 12:11

A number of colleagues have been put on or threatened with PIPs or disciplinaries after speaking up about unmanageable workload (hence unfair). This is what has now happened to me also. The place is toxic.

I am stressed about the workload, especially as this pregnancy is very draining and I physically cannot do the unpaid overtime expected to keep up with it all. Being threatened with a PIP whilst pregnant is stressful in itself.

Stay off sick. I wouldnt normally advise this but in your circumstances its the best thing Imho. Especially with the large workload and toxic atmosphere.

WhatAreYouDoingSundayBaby · 24/03/2026 08:59

Also, you likely won't qualify for SMP if you move jobs now as you need to have worked somewhere for 26 weeks by your 'qualifying week' - you my be able to get maternity allowance instead but that will be all.

I'd definitely try and stay at your current employer for as long as possible and look to leave after you've had your maternity leave.

WhatAreYouDoingSundayBaby · 24/03/2026 08:53

I would stay off sick as long as possible and then start maternity leave, as others have said.

One thing to be aware of is I know that at my company if you are off sick for a prolonged period after a certain point in pregnancy (not sure how many weeks) then they can choose to put you onto maternity leave early, which obviously means you lose out after the baby is born as you might already used, say, 2 months of your leave before it even arrived because of this.

Not sure if that's just my company or whether it's a universal thing, but worth checking your company policy for that just in case as I'm guessing you'd want the max time off possible once the baby arrives.

acorncrush · 24/03/2026 07:50

OrangeTrees7 · 23/03/2026 12:42

If you will still get full pay, I’d go back and then get signed off again, state stress in the sick note that’s all they need to know, or if you’re crafty ask the gp to state it’s pregnancy related if possible so perhaps causing undue stress to the baby etc. they can’t penalise you for pregnancy related illness, play the system! Bugger the PIP, if you know you have to go back for x amount of weeks then sign off sick again do it, play the game, don’t let the PIP Stress you out if you know it won’t do anything to you given your plan for sick leave and maternity

Smart.

Pregnant women are always getting a bad deal. Do not feel bad, do what is needed for your and your baby’s best interests.

ExtraOnions · 24/03/2026 07:47

Let the put you on a PIP, you are leaving, why would you give a toot? Work out how to get the most out of them financially, work only your contracted hours, safe in the knowledge you are planning your exit. Emotionally detach from it all.

acorncrush · 24/03/2026 07:42

Itsafactitsactual · 23/03/2026 12:01

Stay off sick - that pushes the problem back on to them. It won't end well for them if they sack a pregnant woman - how long have you worked there.

This.
If you go back then that might be taken as you saying you are now well enough to work and then they can hold your performance against you. If you stick to the fact that pregnancy is making it too hard to work, how can they possibly fire you? That would be a huge risk for them.

SevenYellowHammers · 23/03/2026 19:00

PippyPipPop · 23/03/2026 12:35

Thank you for all your replies, oh wise Mumsnetters. It's really helping me.

The earliest I can take maternity leave is mid-July, which seems like a long time to be fighting this and being off sick, as I'm already off sick now.

I know I could go back for a while and then go off sick again. It feels awful having to be so strategic about this, but I feel like I have no choice up against such a toxic workplace.

The question is do I go back for a while at the end of my current sick leave and go off again if they put me on a PIP, or just stay off now for as long as possible?

I don't feel in the right head space to go back right now and I'm struggling with this pregnancy, but don't know if I should try going back for a while and then get signed off again.

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Don’t feel bad. Just get signed off until mat leave. They don’t deserve you to go in . Baby needs you unstressed.

SevenYellowHammers · 23/03/2026 18:56

Option 1. Fit note every two weeks. Then go on mat leave. Then go back to work for as long as you have to to get mat pay. Then leave. Or raise a grievance and try and get a severance or ND payment out of them. Make sure you get a reference too.

reversegear · 23/03/2026 18:27

Itsafactitsactual · 23/03/2026 13:36

How did it cripple you? I thought it was the government that paid SSP and maternity pay?

It’s a cash flow impact firstly as we have to pay and reclaim SMP, we then have to interview again, and employ and cover the role which is a costly process for a small team. We had to pay recruitment fees twice, train the replacement, and in the gap has to cover overtime.

it’s also a loss of productivity and knowledge, we than keep benefits pension and holidays accrual, manage return to work etc so the admin and HR bills.

For what was a small 5 person business it’s significant and not impossible but still has costs.

I employ women, I am a woman and I am a mum, so not moaning etc it’s just a giant ball ache when someone comes on board and has lied to you, it also erodes trust.

Itsafactitsactual · 23/03/2026 13:36

reversegear · 23/03/2026 13:21

As a small business owner who had a woman do this to us I’d say stay, if you do choose to job hunt go for big corporations who can absorb the cost, it crippled us and it was a deliberate move on her part. As a women I understood and supported her but it was difficult.

How did it cripple you? I thought it was the government that paid SSP and maternity pay?

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