Im not excited with announcement of the first grandchild

So many nasty people on here jumping to conclusions. This couple had already lived in a rented flat for two years. They've lately discovered she is pregnant. Give them some time to get their heads together and make a plan before sticking the boot in, yeah?

I can scarcely believe some of these posts are real. I am so glad my parents are not like this. I would never treat my dc like this. With mothers like these, who needs enemies?

Tbh if they are excited about having a baby (far too young and unprepared imo) then they must have a plan.

I'd allow the six months temp move as you've previously agreed to this but make it very clear that they spend the six months looking for their own home.

Its really entitled of them to think they can stay with you indefinitely.

Why married? This thread is bonkers.

I totally understand your feelings on not wanting to go back to a baby centred house. If you could be sure it was for a finite period it would be easier for you to see the positives. My parents very generously put us up with first DC while we relocated and waited for house to be finished. I am sure they were delighted to see us leave but they had a fantastic relationship with my child. Everything was agreed in advance, week about doing shopping and cooking, I didn’t look for any baby care but there were times when I was very glad of another pair of arms.
Set out the boundaries in advance, make them coming dependant on them applying for social housing, don’t be too available and go away for lots of weekends.

How do you know the circumstances.

I remember your posts from years ago and your MIL lived in a 1 bed flat with 4 DC. She also offered to turn her living room into a bedroom for your SIL and her family if they had wanted that. This is clearly a very selfless woman who does not mind giving up her whole (quite small) house for the betterment of her DC. That is very sacrificial, but not at all typical of the Mumsnet demograph at all. Most white British people would not offer these solutions unless their DC were in dire straits.

What a judgemental post.
Not sure if you have children but if you do, I sincerely hope that your children never need any support from you.

But it won't be you going through those first days this time around, it will be your DD and her partner. You will have the luxury of enjoying the good stuff while supporting your DD going through the early days, which any good parent would be doing anyway.

This^
They need their own stable home now they have baby in the way. Think how you can help them etc but living with you should be the very last resort not default option.

By the way you are absolutely right to feel that way about the situation. You are worried about them.

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why? because they put lack of contraception before housing?

They have taken quite a few risks and don't sound like fully fledged adults. That's a tough spot Op, I feel for you.
Maybe it's a 'be cruel to be kind' situation.
I think you need to have a difficult conversation and let them know you're not just there to enable all of this.

Yet calling women ''dragons'' because they aren't rolling over is very modern?

Honestly, I'd worry about this. I don't blame you for not jumping for joy!

I assume a discussion happens first which again, is very different. OP agreed that they would move in, not them and a baby would move in and instead of a discussion they just expect her to accept it.

I wouldn't be supporting entitled behaviour.

Hi OP
I feel for you and can understand why you were looking forward to some time to reconnect with your husband.
As parents, we don't know what is around the corner. I talk from experience.
I hope you can come up with a solution that supports you all.
There aren't any easy answers but I don't think it's fair or helpful of those posters who are questioning/criticising your daughter and partner's choices.
Nothing to be achieved by that.
Take care OP

What is this thing about being married. What era are you living in. Move out the dark agesm
It's totally acceptable for people not to be married today and it has no bearing in their ability to raise a child.
Judgemental much.

Why should the OP be excited when she’s clearly worried sick about the situation

Not how excited you are to be a grandparent and you hope the pregnancy goes well.🙄

They aren't actually pregnant. She is.

Wow

I think I'd be saying "Congratulations! Now how do you think this is going to affect your plans for saving for a house?"

I don’t know why posters are giving you such a hard time, I’d be heartbroken to have to deal with DD and a baby in my property right now. I’d help, sure, but it would probably severely affect my relationship and frankly if I wanted a baby in my house, I’d have another one myself.

In your case I would inform them they need to get themselves on the housing list or something along those lines. I don’t understand why they’re having a child they can’t really provide for and have just assumed you’re fine with it.

Yes if this was one of my children, I would support them but OPs daughter has acted in a very presumptuous and entitled way. OP’s daughter is young and she could have saved before starting a family.
Landlords like to have 2 working people to rent a flat to. The boyfriend is going self employed and the daughter is pregnant. They are going to find it very hard to rent anywhere.