Man I’m seeing has just told me he has genital herpes.

Tell him he's a piece of shit for not disclosing he had herpes before having sex without a condom.

That's informed consent! He knows better. Asshole.

Would you have had unprotected sex if you knew he had herpes? If not, he violated your right to consent by not telling you he had a STI.

That's big. I'd nuke him for that shit

Asymptomatic shedding is a thing and he should have disclosed, especially before not using a condom. What a pos.

Go get tested specifically for herpes.

If he's a doctor he should know better. I'd dump for receipt.

Yes to contraception, but condoms don’t always protect against herpes.

I’d be annoyed too, but it was a very silly risk to take. Do you believe that he’s on the medication?

He’s a bastard to not tell you before. I couldn’t forgive that. It’s not for him to say it’s not a big deal. It doesn’t have to be and it may not be for him, but you should get to decide that for yourself.

Standard STD tests won’t test for herpes, including at a clinic. You need a specific blood test for that or any sores need to be swab tested.

It can still be passed on even without an active outbreak and when on antivirals.

I would dump him because of the deceit.

He should have told you before you slept together. That was out of order. However, go to official webaites and read up on facts. I found out i had it almost 20 years ago. I am married with children and it isnt the sentence i thought it was at the time.
However it wasnt disclosed to me at the time so i can understand your anger. On the other hand, you may already have it with no symptoms.
It is wrong that you weren't told

Get checked and and use contraception i cant beleive you need to be told

I have this, I always always disclosed BEFORE any sexual activity. I wasn’t given that courtesy by a cheating ex, which is how I ended up with it myself, so I get a real bee in my bonnet over this

You can’t ever be certain with it as there’s a lot of people have it and have no idea, it’s not included in standard STI screening and can only be reliably diagnosed during an active outbreak or a specific antibody blood test. Then there’s the fact that oral herpes can spread genitally too and many people don’t consider this.

If he knew he’s positive, he should inform you before, no excuses. I’d bin him over this. Not because of the heroes, for the dishonesty.

if he’s genuinely on antivirals the risk is low, but still isn’t zero. It’s very unlikely so don’t stress too much over it, but any signs over the coming weeks you can get tested if you should develop symptoms

Hope this helps

yes you are right to be annoyed he didn’t tell you.

I would really really try not to panic I’ve had two partners with herpes who were honest and used antivirals the chance of transmission is very very low when using meds and no outbreak.

and won’t show herpes FYI. Only a specific blood test would give this result and due to the incubation time is likely not to show regardless.

https://herpes.org.uk/