Need help from you women who know how to be bitchy affirm boundaries. I go regularly to a gym and had a little dispute with a woman there my age (40s) and first I need to know if I'm unreasonable. If not then I need help to "tell her off". People pleaser who can only affirm boundaries when it's something to do with my children- for myself I'm completely useless. My two good friends who are very different told me to "tell her to shut the fuck up" and "just go to another room and wait for her to finish". None of those advice appeal to me.
So there are two different places to stretch/do pushups etc. One is fairly small but got a sort of ladder to stretch out your back/legs etc. Normally you always see two People sharing that space. One woman likes to put herself in the middle as to prevent someone else using the space. There is still room but you have to go further to the side which I did. Plenty of room still- she couldn't touch me while stretching all over. So she told me to go to the other room because she was there first. Like a mug I just said sorry and did. I just wanted to do 20 pushups then use the ladder/bar that was there.
I felt so humiliated afterwards that I let her just decide where I should go because she wanted to be on her own. I need something to say that is almost rude but yet dignified and makes her feel eembarrassed for bossing me around. Any advice?