Mean gym lady made me feel like shit

Laughing at this nearly woke my baby up. Love it

Personally, I try to avoid people like that. They harsh my mellow!. Life's too short to engage in conflicts with a-holes.

OP, I can completely empathise. I too am a people pleaser and I would not have said anything at that time like you. I actually had a client when I used to work in construction who actually pushed me physically in a kitchen and I apologised that went oops! Silly me for standing in your way when you need to get to the kettle I just can’t believe it now when I look back

I wouldn't be rude. The world doesn’t need more people being rude. Just say, ‘ oh Thankyou! I’m fine here! ‘ and carry on doing what you need to do. If she persists, suggests she clarifies things with gym staff. “ confused about the space here? Perhaps ask the staff! “

Are the two people who share the space usually friends? I do think there’s a bit of a difference if it’s a workout buddy rather than a stranger.

I'd say oh this is actually a sharing space, and two or 3 people often use it, but don't worry, I'm not doing a long workout and I'll be out of the way soon

Your response.
“ OK cunty chops off you fuck.”
She’ll know you’re an MN’er and not to upset you.
😉.

There's normally room for two in here, but guess you need space for your attitude.

I think you’re over thinking it, there was no little dispute or anything, there could be reasons she wanted to be alone, and if you’re happy to move, what difference does it make, she explained she wanted to stretch out, she clearly felt uncomfortable with the physical proximity, just let it go. Give her space next time,

If you want to be non confrontational you can affirm your boundaries by just saying something like , I am only doing 20 pressups and will be done in a minute, then just carry on. If you want to noise her up , call her princess, she will be livid and you won't have been sweary or vulgar.

Firstly, the term people pleaser is sometimes seen in a negative light, however I bet youre the person that brightens someone’s day, encourages them and is popular. Don’t let people buff your shine. However there is of course a balance.

Sometimes people just need a nudge in being told not to be such a cow and this is one of those times.

Liked the manoeuvre, next time say “oh 2 people use this all the time you need to move over”. Follow this up and get someone who works there to put a sign up it is for two people.

mIf is probably someone who feels uncomfortable being close in a small room with a stranger, amd probably sounds like a bit of a moody …..

Fully ignoring someone is also an opinion. Possibly no need to engage with her at all.

It's kind of beside the point if there's room or not, it's her shitty attitude towards you

Next time I'd say just 'no, it's fine'. Death stare.

If she persists I'd be tempted to tell her to get to fuck.

Exactly!

You don’t have to be a people pleaser in order to respect other people’s space and boundaries.

“I can’t see where I have contradicted myself on this”

Now you are saying there are 3 people who use the room after saying that you’ve only seen 2. This is after saying that if you were in a certain position when stretching that you could have touched them.

In this situation I would just not attempt to use the space when she is. She might have reasons for not wanting to be too physically close to other people. I think I'd respect that and wait.
Im not a people pleaser btw.

“So there are two different places to stretch/do pushups etc. One is fairly small but got a sort of ladder to stretch out your back/legs etc. Normally you always see two People sharing that space. One woman likes to put herself in the middle as to prevent someone else using the space. There is still room but you have to go further to the side which I did. Plenty of room still- she couldn't touch me while stretching all over.

“Unless I would have started to stretch out my legs towards her- then our feet would have met.”

“Oh, she did say that she went to another space when I was there last time (which I don't care about- I hadn't asked her). I do get that you don't want people too close but this is not the case here. And I'm fairly quick so don't want to bother going to the other room (where all the men doing heavy lifting can watch you stretch).”

First you say the room is small. Then you say she couldn’t touch you. You later go on to say that if you are stretching in a particular position than your feet would have met. But then you will also go onto to say that is not the case here when talking about people being too close. Which one is it? Because I would suggest that if anybody is stretching and they could touch me then by default they are standing too close.

How big is this room? Because from your comments it seems pretty small.

There are also assumptions here about the other person being in the wrong. Just because you have seen two people fit in the space, it doesn’t mean that that is suitable for everybody. The other person was in there first, they have placed themselves so they can do their own stretches, I can’t see that taking a long time. Why could you not have just waited? You are more than capable of going to another room, but you chose not to because it made you feel uncomfortable. That is understandable. But have you stopped to think that maybe you were making the other person feel uncomfortable? They have placed themselves in a way to avoid company. You could either go in another space or wait. But instead you felt entitled to use that space at the same time regardless of the other person’s need for space. And now you want to start an argument about it.

Why can’t you just wait your turn?

“I was here first”. 🤣How old is she? 8.

Just laugh at her and carry on. ...

It's too late now but in future, ignore her.

I had a gym twat approach me when I was on a machine, asked me how many sets I had left (perfectly reasonable question). I replied 'One'. He asked if I could get off as he was 'doing supersets' and was using the machine before me 🤨 Stood there and glared at me. I told him I didn't care if he was training for the fucking Olympics, he could wait 30 seconds until I'd finished.