I hate strip clubs

I think you can judge a man the company he keeps.

I don’t really have any moral objection to strip clubs but I also have zero respect for men who visit them because it’s utterly tragic to need to pay money to see some tits. Whenever men talk about going to strip clubs I just think ‘Are you 12 or something?’

I couldn’t ever be attracted to the sort of man who was into anything that naff.

Is it the same for women who go to see things like the Chippendales ( or whatever the modern equivalent is)

Exactly this
your husband needs to ditch these “friends”
or you need to “ditch”
him it’s gross they’re in your family home.

What and OP should be pleased that her DP is not averse to paying money to ogle you and lust after your body?

You think it's acceptable for a bunch of guests to come into her home and discuss their plans to go and pay to lust after women's bodies? OP and her DC's deserve more respect than that

If you enjoy showing your body off to a crowd of misogynistic men then fair enough but don't expect the wives and partners of these guys to be OK with it.

Any reunion of men where a strip club is an option for the entertainment definitely means they have done it before as a group. It's either an established activity or It's not. You don't meet friends you haven't seen for a few years and just casually suggest this as a new interest for the group.
There is no way either of us would permit our house to be used to accommodate anyone who finished their evening off at a strip club. Absolutely no way.
As others have said, it's not an inexpensive choice of activity so a hotel should be well within their means if they are budgetting for strip clubs.
Even thinking of a group of strange men arriving at our house after going to a strip club is making me feel nauseous.

Be really frank about it with them to their face in a way that will be uncomfortable.

Explain that this is a family home with children in bed upstairs. It is not appropriate for a gang of strange men to go into an environment with the intention of becoming sexually aroused and then come back to your home in a sexually aroused state. Deadpan ask if their plan would be planning to w*nk off in your home later that night with you and your children just metres away or will they be paying for a hooker to finish them off before staying in your home?

Explain that neither of those options is appealing and that they will need to stay in a hotel. I would also be telling my partner to grow a pair of balls and tell his friends that’s not acceptable if he really isn’t into that sort of thing.

“Ok dear. Whilst you are out watching some woman jiggle her bits around, I am also going to be enjoying myself. I’m going to invite a male stripper round and have him shove his cock in my face. I’ll invite some mates round too so we can all egg each other on and I may or not pay extra to take him to a back room and grope/shag him.
Look me in the eye and tell me you’d be fine with that”.
Idiot. These men just don’t think about anything but themselves.

I don't know what your point is.

I'm not defending women watching male strippers. It's degrading for the men stripping and degrading for the women watching them. Similarly it is degrading for women strippers and for the men paying money for their bodies. I merely pointed out that the sex industry catering for men is massive compared to the one catering for women.

What has hen parties watching male strippers got to do with these disgusting misogynistic men coming into OP's home and talking about going to a strip club? So totally disrespectful and inappropriate.
And the fact her H hasn't told them he is not interested reveals he is also a disgusting misogynistic creep.

This is what you need to tell your DH. And that they're all grim if they think strip clubs are harmless.

@ anyone who is arguing with the OP. People are allowed to find things unacceptable that you might not give a shit about. Frankly it's none of your business.

Strip clubs and lap dances are a deal breaker for a LOT of people. It's tough shit if you don't agree with that!

My husband wouldn't be staying in our house if he went to a strip club let along his mates! I hate them, it makes me feel terribly jealous so it would really hurt me if he decided to go knowing how it would make me feel.

This!!

You do realise that women are encouraged to touch male strippers whether or not they want to be touched whereas there's a massive barrier and then a large amount of floor and security between us and the men that come to watch us.
Male strippers are twice as likely to be sexually assaulted as female strippers!

What kind of creepy fucks stay in a woman's home and suggest taking her husband to a strip club?

Biggest ick ever!!

It's your DH's house too! Surely he gets a say?
And why are you shaming women for their choice of job?
Yes I'm a striper, no I'm not degraded, abused or anything like that at all - I love my body and showing it off!

Literally every thread about strip clubs and stag dos somebody without fail trots out the "what aboutery" line about women and hen dos watching male strippers.

So predictable.

Personally I find the thought of women watching male strippers pretty gross as well but the extent to which the sex industry caters for and provides entertainment to women in the firm if male strippers pales into insignificance compared to the big business of providing men with the strip clubs and bars and lap dancing clubs etc where women can be ogled and bought.

It's weird to stay in someone's family home and encourage their husband to go to a strip club.

Due go the power structure in our society and the difference between the sexes physically I think they’re quite different.

Dont actually care about the arguments/ justifications. We are entitled to our opinion that they are grim misogynistic and seedy and to judge men that go and op is within her rights to say so. And also to withdraw her hospitality as she doesn’t want to facilitate this.

Yes. And what about women that go to hen nights etc to watch male strippers? 🤷‍♀️

Strip clubs are so last century. Men ogling at women taking their clothes off 🙄

Neanderthals R Us.

Id judge any "friends" harshly. If your DP is not stating his position clearly about them it's because he'd go along if you weren't there. Ego he's as bad as they are!

Ewww OP. Have you not discussed this with P before having kids together???

If he’s even thinking about it it’s defo a red flag. I would not personally accept it and it would be a absolute relationship deal breaker to me

My stepson offered to take my son to a strip club. He's a total scumbag

I hadn't even noticed OP's user name until I read your post!

I can’t believe you’ve chosen that as your username!