I hate strip clubs

Did he go to the strip club?

I would tell them to go somewhere else even if no children were involved but there’s zero percent chance I’d let them come back from a strip club and stay the night with kids in the house.

Although, saying that, I’d be against a group of drunk men stumbling into the house in the early am whilst my kids were asleep anyway to be honest, regardless of where they’d passed the evening.

These are men who are paying to look at a woman’s tits. And possibly more. I don’t think respect for women is high on their agenda, whatever they might say publicly.

I’m not saying I’ve never known a man who has been to a strip club, I’ve known many, just not any who have stayed in a family home with someone’s wife and kids and suggested that as an activity to do together. Unless they knew the wife/girlfriend was ok with it it does seem a little disrespectful and not something that’s the norm while staying with friends with partners and kids.

The cynic in me says you absolutely do know a man, or many men like this. They are just smart enough to keep the conversation away from you.

There isn’t a man I know personally who would think it was ok to stay in someone’s family home and suggest going to a strip club as something to do together.

Is it really any different from the porn that they all watch?? Men are visual creatures and whilst I don’t particularly like it I wouldn’t stop my dh or divorce him for going to one!
The question about staying at yours after…. Yeah I’d probably say “get a hotel room”

Bloody cheek staying with you and talking about strip clubs. I would personally have made them leave. I wouldnt care who was offended.

That kind of thing can haunt you when you have finished uni and are trying to get a job though. Or even if you get a job and colleagues find out about your past.

Because women's needs are completely different to men's. A male stripper on a hen night is a one off for a laugh, we don't really get off on looking at men prance about etc.

If it’s so empowering why aren’t men doing it to the same degree? The whole thing seems very old fashioned and weird. Surprised these places still exist. None in our city anyway.

Like it or not, men are visual creatures fact! I worked in strip clubs when i was younger. It was amazing money and flexible (pun intended) working hours. The majority of men who go to strip clubs were married in my experience and they were almost always there because they weren't getting their needs met at home.
Most of the time I was paid to just sit and chat!
Why the hate? I never met a dancer who was forced or trafficked to be there they all did it by choice and were living their best lives.

They might have felt empowered but the blokes who saw them were not only taught to view them as objects but that it is empowering for the 'objects' to be treated as objects.

I agree with this to some extent. As a married woman, if my husband went to a strip club I would really reconsider my marriage.

however I used to work in a strip club when I was 18 (not as a stripper, I worked behind the bar) but it was woman owned and the women that worked there felt empowered and earnt thousands per night on a busy night. I don’t agree that they are degrading to women. Lots of the women there are happy and feel very empowered and are paying their way through uni or whatever.

but as an adult, it’s not a place for a married man or woman

They're disgusting. I don't know why they're legal.

Also the men that go to them - they're almost always sex work is work brocialists / left wing men who call themselves feminists

Ew... what are they horny teenagers that can't get laid or something?

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Why would you presume that? That is your own prejudices making that assumption. I am not saying there are not strippers with issues - there may well be. But you don’t know that. Don’t assume on behalf of other women simply because it isn’t a career you would pick yourself. Their body, their choice. And they are boobs. Men are fascinated by boobs. And most don’t go to look at boobs they go with their mates for the banter

Do we still call people “prudes” in 2026? Sounds positively Victorian!

Did they go?
did your husband shut it down?

This is what I wonder too

Ah the old prude word, if my husband cant respect himself he doesn't respect anyone else

I get why 14year old boys giggle about I saw boobies but grown men? Seriously they need a hobby

Degrading or not i would presume the strippers aldo have other issues going on

It’s not prudish. Totally agree with Grimly. I just find the whole thing quite tragic and embarrassing for all concerned. If DH went I wouldn’t be jealous (?!) / angry but I would think who are you?! Do I even know you?! I would also be worried he’d had some kind of brain injury as it would be totally out of character for him.

I made him go on my friends DH stag years ago in a grim town and they went to a strip club. He didn’t go in neither did a few others. Locals threw bottles at them. He still hasn’t quite forgiven me for making him go to that!

For those saying that strip clubs are degrading to women - get a grip - the women choose to work there and lots make very good money that they use to pay for their kids/college etc. It is their choice and who are you stuck up lot to decide on their behalf that it is degrading???? For men that go - it is usually a lads night out and who cares? They are boobs. Stop being so prudish. I guarantee the majority of ALL of your husbands and partners have been to one and if you are a massive prude they just won’t tell you

Have to agree. It's no touching and no anything else. So basically they are paying to see women's breasts and maybe their legs apart (sorry but that's what it is) at a distance or pay again and the tits are near you but still no touching.
I mean, seriously, what grown adult over 12 thinks this is a great way to spend an evening.
Unless of course, it's about demeaning the women and a power trip about buying access to see those tits (even at a distance). Which it is, of course.

exactly, but just as much as MN loves a a juicy ''you are just jealous'' I have zero jealously when it comes to sleazy strip clubs but would get my head examined if I found out I was married to a man who went to one just because of the gross factor sure the women say they have self respect but no one does in those places no matter side you are on