Daughter (40) sadly estranged. My only child and I totally spoilt her. I take full responsibility for that.
She was being bullied by her husband. For example, blocking her phone to cause her anxiety whilst she was in a high risk pregnancy and had suffered previous miscarriages, telling her he hated the pregnancy and it was ruining his life, she went to hospital on her own as baby had not moved - and husband was still cruel afterwards. She would say she could not speak for him shouting at her and she could not let him help with hormone injections for fear of him hurting her as he was always so angry.
I was on call to help her 24/7 and transferring lots of money as was told they would lose their house.
She said she would leave him. When the baby was born and husband shouted, causing little one distress and said baby hated him, I brought things to a head - saying I would tell everyone. Overnight he became father of the year and she stayed with him and turned against me.
Previously daughter had ‘hated’ our extended family members and not seen them for 10 years. She started sending videos and photos to them of my little grandchild - but not to me (which broke my heart). They also invited them into their home which shocked me.
There is a long history of sexual abuse in my sister’s family which my daughter was not aware of and it is causing me anxiety. My sister’s husband molested me in the past and they are now trying to gain access to my grandchild. He was sacked from his teaching job for gross misconduct (sexual) and my sister was suicidal at rumours of his groping. His brother was sent to prison for 10 years for abusing young boys and his father is currently on bail for molesting a 10 year old girl and attempted rape, plus molestation of other young females. Two of sister’s grandchildren have reported rape by others - plus she forced her own daughter into an abortion (which my daughter knows about).
No surprise that I am estranged from my sister. She has always known about the abuse and ignored it.
Triggered recently by our new neighbour sharing that he knew my sister’s husband from workplace and had concerns about him. Other people have also been in contact to share concerns about sister’s father in law being a ‘pervert’.
I believe my daughter’s husband has only struck up a relationship with them to hurt me.
Or, am I being unreasonable and my thinking is distorted by not seeing my grandchild? It is all so awful and will soon be in the press. The ten year prison sentence monster already is.
Should I apply to try keep my grandchild away from these people?