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To cringe when middle class women swear

257 replies

dopaminego · 21/03/2026 12:19

On Mumsnet at least they use embarrassing words like 'cockwomble' and think it's edgy. Only working and upper class people sound right swearing.

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Right2BareArms · 21/03/2026 13:08

Spinningnewbie · 21/03/2026 12:21

Anyone who identifies themselves as middle class is cringeworthy fullstop.

What am I fucking supposed to identify as if I cunting am middle class?

Arlanymor · 21/03/2026 13:07

Knickerbockergrolia · 21/03/2026 12:52

I mean why? Do you not accept that different classes exist? Or that people are able to allocate themselves to one?

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That all said - why are we still supporting class system? It’s the most gross thing going. Get rid of it.

Bristolandlazy · 21/03/2026 13:07

Oh dear, your post didn't land well.. Maybe you can delete it. I'm embarrassed for you.

PoppySaidYesIKnow · 21/03/2026 13:07

I start my week at work all professional and determined not to swear. As the week goes on I become almost Adele level of potty mouthed.

godmum56 · 21/03/2026 13:06

Atatwalker · 21/03/2026 12:19

Well fuck.

this. I don't swear to sound edgy and never have. I use the vocabulary that I wish to use.

Happyjoe · 21/03/2026 13:06

Well, I think it's rather amusing when someone with a plummy accent swears.
I think your post is a bit nonsense and also... why only women that you have an issue with?

Blueunicornthistle · 21/03/2026 13:05

Spinningnewbie · 21/03/2026 12:21

Anyone who identifies themselves as middle class is cringeworthy fullstop.

Only middle class is cringeworthy? Not working class or upper class?

I can understand disliking classes in general but it seems a wee bit unfair to single out the middles.

No one would look at my life, or that of my parents and say we were working class. My grandparents were very poor and had manual jobs but their parents were very much fancier.

There no landed gentry in the family tree so we definitely aren’t aristocracy.

How would you prefer to identify me? Or prefer I identify myself? Definitely wouldn’t want to activate your “cringe” response.

Whosthetabbynow · 21/03/2026 13:05

Right2BareArms · 21/03/2026 12:56

Maybe there could be a Mothersnet, Mamasnet, Mummysnet, Mamsnet, Momsnet etc to appeal to certain types.

I'd be in the Fishwifesnet.

I’d be in Cuntnet

PrincessofWells · 21/03/2026 13:05

Do fuck off - this is snobbery at its worst.

Whosthetabbynow · 21/03/2026 13:04

LakieLady · 21/03/2026 12:52

I'm from Croydon, and will sometimes swear in a Croydon accent, just because it sounds so much ruder than in my normal RP voice.

My SIL (also Croydon born and bred) pisses herself laughing when I say "cunt", she reckons it doesn't sound rude when the terminal T is pronounced properly.

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Aah but sometimes the hard ‘T’ can be used for emphasis ie someone is a complete cunT

Blueunicornthistle · 21/03/2026 12:59

dopaminego · 21/03/2026 12:29

What's with the grin? What that poster said wasn't funny. That's kind of what I mean. It's all so 'look how clever I am' and it's not.

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It wasn’t funny to you…

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 21/03/2026 12:59

Knickerbockergrolia · 21/03/2026 12:52

I mean why? Do you not accept that different classes exist? Or that people are able to allocate themselves to one?

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I’m probably working class but due to education private possibly middle class but lower.

Lugol · 21/03/2026 12:57

Ah another middle class woman bashing thread.

2/10.

RunMeOver · 21/03/2026 12:56

Spinningnewbie · 21/03/2026 12:21

Anyone who identifies themselves as middle class is cringeworthy fullstop.

Why?

Right2BareArms · 21/03/2026 12:56

Maybe there could be a Mothersnet, Mamasnet, Mummysnet, Mamsnet, Momsnet etc to appeal to certain types.

I'd be in the Fishwifesnet.

ThreadneedleRoad · 21/03/2026 12:53

dopaminego · 21/03/2026 12:38

I didn't say I had a problem with swearing though. I just find some people don't it in an embarrassing and performative way. Especially on here.

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Gosh, those self-consciously performative middle-classes, eh? What a shame they aren’t as authentic as viscounts and Cockney market traders unthinkingly calling one another cunts.

tartyflette · 21/03/2026 12:53

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 21/03/2026 12:51

Perhaps after one's username one should have to show the NRS grade.
e.g. A, B, C1, C2, D or E.

Then with some simple tweaking, the Mumsnet site could automatically restrict certain words and phrases depending on your social class.

This feature could also offer a filter facility so that one could read just the postings of, say Posh People Only or the Lower Classes depending on your mood that day.

Ooh, I’d use those filters!

LakieLady · 21/03/2026 12:52

Whosthetabbynow · 21/03/2026 12:34

I’m a South London Cockney. Swearing in that accent is my unique selling point.

I'm from Croydon, and will sometimes swear in a Croydon accent, just because it sounds so much ruder than in my normal RP voice.

My SIL (also Croydon born and bred) pisses herself laughing when I say "cunt", she reckons it doesn't sound rude when the terminal T is pronounced properly.

Knickerbockergrolia · 21/03/2026 12:52

Spinningnewbie · 21/03/2026 12:21

Anyone who identifies themselves as middle class is cringeworthy fullstop.

I mean why? Do you not accept that different classes exist? Or that people are able to allocate themselves to one?

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 21/03/2026 12:51

Perhaps after one's username one should have to show the NRS grade.
e.g. A, B, C1, C2, D or E.

Then with some simple tweaking, the Mumsnet site could automatically restrict certain words and phrases depending on your social class.

This feature could also offer a filter facility so that one could read just the postings of, say Posh People Only or the Lower Classes depending on your mood that day.

Alconleigh · 21/03/2026 12:51

No one has ever written the term cockwomble thinking it was edgy. If you think that you’re definitely not getting the tone of the place.

InNewYorkNoShoes · 21/03/2026 12:50

Swearing is for everyone. It gives us joy and it’s free. Can’t say that about many things nowadays.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 21/03/2026 12:49

Actually my nana (who considered herself middle class) rarely swore, or else it wasn’t within our earshot, so as not to affect our delicate ears.

tartyflette · 21/03/2026 12:47

dopaminego · 21/03/2026 12:19

On Mumsnet at least they use embarrassing words like 'cockwomble' and think it's edgy. Only working and upper class people sound right swearing.

So it’s ok for working class and posh women?
You can fuck right off with your classism.

LBFseBrom · 21/03/2026 12:47

You can't hear people on Mumsnet. Don't be a snob!

I recommend a very good ITV series which I binge watched (all 3 series of it), on ITVX recently. I was enthralled. It's called, 'The Affair' and stars Dominic West and Ruth Wilson. I noticed S1 E1 was on ITV last night.

They use the words regularly and beautifully with far more class and style than DH Lawrence ever did.