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I would like to live in Brighton and Hove

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0hIdoliketobebesidetheseaside · 21/03/2026 11:01

Visited last weekend and I really think it’s the place for us. But I’m not sure we can afford it, is there anywhere like it?
Things we loved

beautiful shops in the lanes, seaside, so much to do, arts, live music etc. People seem friendlier than in a lot of places. South Downs for walks

But we have only £250000 and thinking of having a baby soon

any solutions or alternatives?

OP posts:
LibertyLily · 24/03/2026 13:56

I've visited Brighton and Hove frequently since I was a small child in the mid/late 1970s. Being arty and bohemian, I always found it a great, inspirational place to visit but even as a student/early 20s I never fancied living there (we were further along the coast, in Southsea, Hampshire).

DS went to Sussex uni and after a few years living in London post graduation, moved back to Brighton with his partner. They initially bought a flat in Kemp Town then, after starting a family (2 young DC now), bought a three bed house to the north of the city. We visit frequently (from West Sussex) and whilst there are loads of lovely houses/areas/things to do, I'm more convinced than ever I'd not want to live there!

DS's partner works in Brighton city centre and loves living somewhere she can walk to work. DS - who loved Brighton life as a student - absolutely hates it and deeply regrets buying there (although they've done ok as their house is now close to 500k). It's very dirty, druggy and run down in parts (same as most cities, obvs) and their experience of the schools (DC1 is 5) isn't great.

He can't wait to sell up and move to one of the surrounding towns or even a South Downs village which - assuming he can persuade his partner - they'll do before DC1 reaches secondary. They have friends in Seaford who love it there. Others in St Leonard's hated it and moved west to Southbourne (Bournemouth). Family in Eastbourne Old Town and Littlehampton outskirts have good things to say - although Littlehampton Town centre is dire and there are loads of DFLs moving in/buying second homes. There are so many better places to live/visit in the area than Brighton, imo, but I can see the attraction for someone who hasn't spent a lot of time there.

RosesAndHellebores · 24/03/2026 13:46

I agree 100% with @Cosimarocks whose comments about Margate deeply resonate.

Gini87 · 24/03/2026 13:29

0hIdoliketobebesidetheseaside · 21/03/2026 11:09

We would be hoping for a garden or at least a small outside space

For £250k on Brighton and Hove that would be nigh on impossible. We live over in Seaford and Brighton accessible by bus or train. Sadly, it’s not a very affordable place to live and there are also some not so great areas like Whitehawk and Moulsecoomb.

Cosimarocks · 24/03/2026 12:57

Brighton and Hove is a complex beast. Like many cities. Though Brighton, I think, really shows the extremes. I have friends in Hove with a family and they absolutely love it. There is a really community feel in some parts, some good independent shops and restaurants, different cultures; it’s arty and bohemian, it has music and good drinking places, and a beach and life. But it also has drugs and homelessness and crime. The beach is only accessed by crossing what is pretty much a major dual carriage way. It has independent shops but the high street is grim and struggling. It has some gorgeous period buildings, but so much of Brighton is a hideous concrete 1960s disaster. It’s beautiful in parts, and other bits are rubbish strewn and grim. Street parking is a nightmare and the multistorey car parks stink of piss and feel scary. Walk along the beach in the evening and it feels like Hollywood ( though good), with people skating and others making music and filled with vibrancy and excitement. But it’s filled with tourists and stag and hen dos too. It has desperate problems and poverty and yet has a strong, wonderfully liberal and caring community. It’s surrounded by glorious countryside and beautiful villages, but those towns and villages are filled with political divide. It’s on the commuter belt for London and so is a good opportunity for work and yet hideously expensive. The houses around Hove can be lovely, but it’s also got a slightly down at heel suburban feel of some of the less interesting parts of London like Wembley. It feels like a bubble and yet is very much symbolic of the rest of the UK at the moment. It’s London on sea in many ways.

I think to some the appeal lies in the mix. In the grim and concrete next to sea and Georgian gorgeousness. Personally, I wouldn’t want to live there. If I wanted such ugliness and squalor next to such beauty and fun and art and music, then I’d just go back to London. Or go somewhere else with a bit less traffic and concrete.

The mix thing can be good. Certainly we should celebrate different cultures and people. BUT, as someone who grew up in the poor East End of London and went to a rough school there, filled with poverty and immigrants who had just arrived from desperate places, I find that sort of middle-class, ‘it’s so cool being part of such a mixed area’, slightly condescending. I went to a cool art university, in a very rough art of London that was starting to attract an influx of well-educated middle classes, with family funded deposits and other family support, drawn (really) by the dirt cheap property. I remember our introductory lecture spoke of the ‘wonderful multicultural area, full of character and interest’, and the lecturer then went on to tell us that she had chosen to live in a tower block in the area to ‘really experience the vibrancy of the area’. It’s called poverty tourism and it’s awful. Now I don’t think every middle class professional in Brighton is like that, but there is certainly an element. You cannot experience something if you don’t live it. If you can close your door on it or drive off to the hills whenever you choose or hop on a train back to mummy and daddy in the Cotswolds. Eyes down and ignore the problems. Same with places like Margate in Kent. A small area filled with independent shops and galleries, but go 30 seconds down the road to Boots and the methadone queue is out the door. The trouble with areas that are gentrifying is that they don’t help anyone but those who can afford it, they just push the poor into smaller areas with fewer opportunities.

Brighton is great. But its also awful. In terms of your question though, your budget will get you sod all and it certainly won’t enable the rather lovely dream you have of living there. For one, Brighton and Hove is massive, and if you were able to find somewhere there it wouldn’t be anywhere near the things you loved about the place when you visited.

Yuja · 24/03/2026 05:59

We lived in Brighton for years and moved out when the kids were small. It’s very expensive and the secondary schools are not amazing - there are a lot nicer places that are only 10-15 mins away by train

swimsong · 24/03/2026 04:54

0hIdoliketobebesidetheseaside · 21/03/2026 11:08

We are in the midlands. We can get jobs in our field anywhere. I have not been to Worthing but I associate it with old people which is kind of the opposite of Brighton and Hove

This was way back in the 80s so it might be different now. A comedian at the Zap Club in Brighton said "My young son asked me what the difference between life a death is? I replied: Well, remember when we used to live in Hove?" Got a huge laugh.

(He was followed by a guy who sang Wild Thing by The Triggs - but substituted Worthing for Wild Thing in the lyrics).

TakeALookAtTheseSwatches · 23/03/2026 18:03

Bigearringsbigsmile · 21/03/2026 11:40

Where in the north? I also live in the north and you certainly wouldn't get all that for that price here? Nowhere near!

County Durham

PurpleFlower1983 · 22/03/2026 20:02

Efacsen · 22/03/2026 17:00

Brighton & Hove are bang on average for 'diversity' - like most towns in the UK it's more than 85% white - people from ethnic minority groups live in big cities

Yes, I just expected it not to be. Don’t know why!

Efacsen · 22/03/2026 17:00

PurpleFlower1983 · 22/03/2026 08:00

I wonder why. It’s always something that has baffled me since I started visiting 25 years ago.

Brighton & Hove are bang on average for 'diversity' - like most towns in the UK it's more than 85% white - people from ethnic minority groups live in big cities

Girasoli · 22/03/2026 16:48

I'm surprised @ACynicalDad we are looking round secondary schools now and there are 4/5 I would send DS1 to (getting in another problem).

DesperatelySeekingHelp · 22/03/2026 15:56

@TakeALookAtTheseSwatches do you mind me asking where you live as we are also looking to relocate ?

Steelworks · 22/03/2026 14:43

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · 22/03/2026 08:09

Faversham is definitely estuary, not sea. I like Deal, but I’m not sure it has the Brighton vibe.

One of my DDs described Folkestone (and Margate) as WannabeinBrighton.

True, Faversham is an estuary, and wannabeBrighton is an accurate description. But that’s also a positive, as they have the vibe which Brighton had twenty years ago (and is still living off), but I think Brightons honeymoon period is over.

Goldenbear · 22/03/2026 12:40

Sartre · 22/03/2026 07:12

I’ve only been to Brighton a couple of times and not for a few years but yes, this is the vibe I got from it too. It changes when the lights go down, to quote Arctic Monkeys who I believe were describing sheff which is quite hilarious because Sheffield is one of the tamest cities I’ve visited in the U.K. Brighton is a bit dodgy and like a lot of coastal cities, kind of dead. I think it’s popular because it’s close enough to London to commute and people like being close to the sea but pebble beaches are hideous.

Brighton is not 'Dead', you have to live there to realise that Brighton isn't West Street.

Loads of places are commutable to London that are way cheaper so it isn't just that it is commutable to London. It has always had issues with drugs, you wouldn't live in Brighton if you want wholesome community vibes.

Goldenbear · 22/03/2026 12:33

PurpleFlower1983 · 22/03/2026 08:00

I wonder why. It’s always something that has baffled me since I started visiting 25 years ago.

I think because it is one of the most secular places in the country so it's not very diverse.

IsabellaCoral · 22/03/2026 11:55

Sun also. The weather is better - like yeah I am sure by Newcastle IS much nicer. But it is much colder and will rain more.

brighton micro- climate as between the sea and the downs, sandwiched in.

also why it is so expensive- sea or nation park, there is just not much housing stock

Screamingabdabz · 22/03/2026 10:08

0hIdoliketobebesidetheseaside · 21/03/2026 14:55

Um I don’t think I was pious. Someone said that I shouldn’t go there if I have an issue with trans people and I said that I don’t. Truthfully I’d rather be somewhere where people are accepted for whoever they are and I am assuming somewhere like Brighton has less racism than I’m used to as well, but I don’t want to start a debate

If that was me, you have completely misrepresented what I said. I said nothing about trans people.

‘Accepting people as they are’ is exactly what gender realist people are advocating for. Unfortunately Brighton and Hove want all children indoctrinated against biology reality and this particularly harmful for women and girls. I’d be concerned about my DC going to a school under that Local Authority because they appear to have no regard for the safeguarding of girls.

Artyblartfast · 22/03/2026 10:02

Lucia573 · 22/03/2026 08:17

It’s expensive because it’s commutable to London. Your budget puts Brighton itself out of reach I think. If you don’t need daily access to London for work, why pay the premium for it? There are other cool seaside towns: Tynemouth springs to mind. It’s much less scruffy than Brighton! I visited friends there recently (well they actually live in Monkseaton - also lovely) and was really taken with it. Charming town; great bars and restaurants; beaches; surfing; wild Northumberland hills nearby; on the metro/underground line to Newcastle and the airport.

Tynemouth is fabulous but it doesn't have the weather! Good shout though. Wonderful area.

ACynicalDad · 22/03/2026 09:43

Friends who live there think very little of secondary schools

Bubblefun70 · 22/03/2026 09:39

I would agree with other PP about Portslade. I grew up there. Lived there for 16 yrs. Good transport links to B&H as well as direct trains to London. Also worth considering all the mainline stops between Portslade and Worthing - Southwick, Shoreham, Lancing - all direct trains to Brighton in less than 30 mins I think.

Hotcrossed · 22/03/2026 08:21

you can get a 4 bedroom house in Bexhill for £270

Gettingbysomehow · 22/03/2026 08:20

hattie43 · 22/03/2026 08:06

Consider the Hastings / St Leonard’s area. Smaller version of Brighton without the price tag .

Hastings certainly has a very lively vibe. Green man festival every year. Personally Id much rather live there than Brighton.

Hotcrossed · 22/03/2026 08:18

how about Bexhill, you can take a train to hastings, a train to brighton

Peachmarmalade · 22/03/2026 08:18

Brighton and Hove is lovely and very safe. I lived there for two decades and had to move for work reasons abroad but as soon as I have the chance I will be moving back.

Nowhere in the UK even comes close in my opinion. Love it there

Lucia573 · 22/03/2026 08:17

It’s expensive because it’s commutable to London. Your budget puts Brighton itself out of reach I think. If you don’t need daily access to London for work, why pay the premium for it? There are other cool seaside towns: Tynemouth springs to mind. It’s much less scruffy than Brighton! I visited friends there recently (well they actually live in Monkseaton - also lovely) and was really taken with it. Charming town; great bars and restaurants; beaches; surfing; wild Northumberland hills nearby; on the metro/underground line to Newcastle and the airport.

hattie43 · 22/03/2026 08:17

LIZS · 21/03/2026 17:18

Hastings is horrid! Lots of tattoo and vape shops, high level of deprivation and generally feels run down. Sad as used to visit family there. Eastbourne is definitely preferable.

Hastings is not horrid . Parts are really nice . No town is without tattoo / vape shops and areas of deprivation. You have the beach and countryside on your doorstep . The town centre is run down but you don’t have to go there .
The old town is lovely , around the park is lovely , there are massive numbers of small independent shops and lots of creatives . The OP would get a lot for her money in Hastings and they have a council trying really hard for the communities they serve .