Couple brags

I’m FB friends with someone I went to school with. Every day was a different post about how amazing her husband was. She had some health issues and there were lots of posts about how he was her rock and how lucky she was to have him get her through it.

Then she had an affair, he left and their 2 kids chose to go with their dad. She is now single and he seems settled in a new relationship. Not so many smug FB posts now.

I find those who feel the need to share how amazing their relationships are, are usually the ones with the least amazing relationships and therefore don’t pay them any attention.

Yes pain in the arse. And I do think thank god, ALL the time 😂😂😂 but as relates to this thread, that doesn’t mean I think YOU shouldn’t love your kids and post about them if you want to!

I don’t brag about my husband but I know I’m really lucky to have him. He is my rock. But I don’t have a good relationship with any of my family so I certainly feel alone in other ways.

whats a pita?
oh is it pain in the arse? I love my kids but they can be pitas. I wouldn’t blame you for thinking thank god if you saw my house after a day at home 😂😂

I’m childfree by choice. If I felt like you do then any time one of my mum friends posted about how much they love their kids and how wonderful they are then I’d be thinking they need to shut up and their kids are actually a PITA. Luckily I don’t feel like that and I’m just happy for them that they love their kids and are loved in return.

All my friends hate their husbands haha. They usually say they’re wastes of space and expect them to do everybring and they don’t know how they’d manage if they became single fathers.

i would roll my eyes at it a bit as a newly divorced person but it doesn’t offend me. Most men are about as useful as a rock (hahahah)

hopefully now when you hear it you’ll remember me comparing men to rocks and snigger a bit 🙈😂

Part of me thinks they arnt quite telling the truth if im honest (just the ones who brag all the time) but ive met some couples who go on and on oooh I couldn't have done x without y by my side if they hadn't been there i dont know WHAT I would have done

I voted YABU, but when personal circumstances aren't as hoped for, it can take the patience of a saint to not feel at least a twinge of irritation. Don't go into a compare and despair loop though, as it's pointless and draining.

Life is too short to be bitter.

Better to be grateful for what you DO have.

Yes, I would’ve got through hard times alone and would still be here to tell the tale. However my DH has made life’s rollercoasters bearable and has helped me carry the weight. For example, when my mum died my DH helped clear her house. He truly is my rock and I can’t imagine life without him.

The same could be said about many things surely?

What about infertile people constantly hearing about how children are the only thing that matters. How in some situations people wouldn’t want to live if it wasn’t for their children. Their children give them purpose. That you never know real love unless you have children.

I’m also sure a very poor person doesn’t need to hear about how sad a rich person is and that money doesn’t buy happiness.

You wouldn’t be able to talk about anything if you were worried about upsetting people because they aren’t in the same position. I mean is it unreasonable to talk about my children in case I upset people who can’t have children? So on and so forth.
Who are you surrounded by? Maybe we should swap, most people I know in long term relationships are miserable and it makes me so glad I am single. I do know a few people who are in very happy long term relationships and I think it is lovely, sort of restores my faith in relationships a little bit. I love seeing other people happy.

What a nasty little post.

It also makes me feel a bit nervous for them. I got through the worst periods of my life alone and being resilient self reliant is very important to me.

One expression I don't like is "my other half". I'm in a very happy relationship but I'm still my whole self on my own, I was before him and should something happen I will continue to be so. No one should need someone else to "complete" them as it were. That's just my opinion though and wouldn't expect everyone else to share it.

I don't get it either tbh. Just highlights how reliant they are. Someone who doesn't have a partner should feel relieved that they don't need other people to survive!

My husband is bloody amazing, helped me through some serious health issues. He is the constant in my life and no I couldn't have done it without him. He is my rock.
No not bragging I know I am so so.lucky but so is he because as a couple we are a great team. Lesson from this is never accept 2nd best. There are amazing men out there

I get it. I know a couple who post that kind of bs on their social media profiles all the time but are horrible to each other in person. It's like what's the point? I swear they're only together because they both know how to swindle people so they don't pay for anything themselves. There's nothing wrong with genuinely loving your partner and sharing it, it's the over the top, over compensating stuff I can't stand!

My ex-husband referred to me as "his rock" he still cheated on me at every opportunity over a 20 year period. So whilst everything may look rosy from the outside, it doesn't mean that is reality.

This . The big long soppy posts on social media I’ve seen from people saying how much they love their OH are just stupid and fake . I remember a woman I knew posting one such post on Facebook years ago on her boyfriend’s birthday and confessing her undying love for the world to see. They broke up a month or two later .
Mentioning in passing that your OH has helped you and supported you through tough times I don’t see the issue with .

Sorry but this is just silly. Are you against people calling friends and family “rocks” as well. I mean for me several people in my life have helped me get through tough times and I would have been in an awful place without their support . What’s wrong with that ?

You sound bitter. Maybe get yourself out there.

It’s also massively patronising to suggest that single people give a fuck that someone else is in a relationship

Yes this is a good point. It’s never crossed my mind to patronisingly think oh my poor feeble lonely single friends will simply burst into tears the moment I mention my DH! That’s because all my single female friends are capable, confident adults who arent going to mentally collapse the moment they notice a couple out in public 🙄

If I was worried about that outcome then I would suggest they get some mental health support

I find people praising their partners in hyperbolic terms on social media a little bit cringeworthy, but I think you’re unreasonable to suggest no-one can praise their partner because it might upset someone who’s single. It’s also massively patronising to suggest that single people give a fuck that someone else is in a relationship.