AIBU to expect neighbours to keep loud kids indoors before 9am?

At least ther outside and not stuck on screens.

I find it more annoying when drunk adults start cackling and hollering on a summer's evening. Luckily, we don't live near enough to hear that sort of noise nowadays.

I'd perhaps ask if they'd be willing to keep the noise down until 8ish, they don't need to be inside, just making sure they aren't too loud.

There absolutely are "ways around" your kids screaming. How inconsiderate of your neighbours and terrible parenting. You scream, you get brought back inside. If i can train my dog not to bark in the garden im pretty sure you can teach your kids not to scream.

I absolutely love spending sunny summer days on my sun lounger with a good book and glass of chilled Viognier or a jug of Margaritas in the garden.

Only way to enjoy it is noise cancelling headphones linked to my phone, sometimes playing samba, sometimes not.

I no longer hear:
(a) Kids screaming like maniacs during a bear attack.
(b) Trampoline springs going for hours on end.
(c) Hedge trimmers; lawn mowers; jet washers, leaf blowers, etc.
(d) Chavy mums constantly bellowing obscenities at their toddlers.
(e) Mr DIY Powertool and his angle grinder.
(f) Teens playing the same rap song to the neighbourhood on repeat.
(g) Yappy mutts.

Such is Intercity living.

I don’t think I’d object to children playing outside before 9. Normal playing sounds are fine but they shouldn’t be screaming. I think you’ll have more luck asking the neighbours to encourage them to keep the noise down than asking them to keep them inside completely. I discourage my daughter and her friends from screaming at any time of day! Two times ‘keep the noise down please, no screaming, or you will have to come inside’ is usually sufficient.

I know it’s not your responsibility to manage the disruption, it’s the parents’, but I would recommend a good white noise machine.

I think kids going out to play is reasonable from about 8am.

Kids screaming continuously is not reasonable though, at any time really.

You sound like a right joy

I lived with a large play park behind me for 22 years (put in after I moved there), the noise in summer was horrendous, I eventually moved to the country and have no neighbours, absolute bliss 😂

I think everyone has a responsibility to be mindful of their neighbours. Everyone. That includes noise before and after certain times of the day. That includes children, it includes asshole dog owners who don't bother to train their dogs and think everyone wants to hear them barking all day every day, it includes machinery.

Everyone also has a responsibility understand that children are children and they will make noise. Is it annoying sometimes, undoubtedly. But too bad, as long as it's reasonable noise at reasonable times.

But children screaming is absolutely not a natural communication mode, come on to fuck off that. Noisy, yes, shouting, yes, screaming, no.

10am was my rule when they were small. Lazy parenting chucking them outside. Go to the park

And adults also have the right to enjoy their rest and their gardens. I don’t get why parents allow their kids to scream so much these days. Mine were brought in immediately if they started doing it - at any time of day not just mornings.

Good God, I’m glad I don’t live on your street. Learn to parent.

Because the only choices they have are screens or screaming in the garden. Obviously. 🙄

It's not the playing out which is the issue. It is the screaming and shouting and volume of the playing. As a rule I generally keep my DC out of the garden until 9ish.

It was difficult in those toddler years when they wake at 5am and by 8am have turned into destructive noise demons and nothing is open. But it's on the parents to keep noise levels down or bring them in if they get rowdy.

Have they had a garden before? Just I have a friend who moved to a house with a garden after years living in a high rise flat and she was a bit of a nightmare the first summer with letting her children out in the garden at all hours because it was a novelty and "why we bought the house". Her neighbours did complain and she brought it up when we were chatting as a group and we all explained that letting your children out at 8am to play football or on the trampoline isn't really appropriate. We also told her she had to tone down the hot tub usage and constant lighting of her fire pit. She wasn't been malicious with it, she was just over excited at having a garden for the first time and having lived in London in blocks of flats her entire life she was clueless with garden etiquette. She had bought a detached house but still had neighbours.

Some people however are huge CFs and use the garden as a free babysitter and will shove them out there at 8am and expect them to stay out until 9pm so they can have peace in the house and not care about the noise they make.

If you live in a city or area where houses are close together there will be noise.
We have cars all night going past should I suggest cars stop during hours of darkness.
What is the definition of screaming, what I call screaming others may feel they have loud voices when they are talking. If they are doing it all the time you will get accustomed to it and fall asleep again.

Have the immediate neighbours complained?
Children been outside reminds me summer is here, should we not celebrate end of winter and longer days.
We were all children at one point and as we did these children go through a phase.
My view I hope they are having fun.

I wouldn’t allow my children to run around screaming as it would absolutely do my own nut in, never mind the neighbours! Children make noise and that’s absolutely fine but constant screaming? Nope! It’s annoying but there’s not much you can do about it really. I live right next to a primary school so I think I’ve learned to tune out the irritating screeches.

Everyone immediately jumping on the kids “screaming” element. It’s entirely possible this is a bit of hyperbole on OPs part and really the kids are just occasionally loud at times when playing.

8am is fine as long as they’re not screaming. My child doesn’t scream when she plays. I disciplined her once when she tried to copy another child at playgroup.

Screaming kids hits me like nails down a blackboard.

I used to give my kids one warning when they were little and if the screaming continued I hauled their arses back inside.

Laughing and playing is fine. Being a bit loud is fine, they are children and children make noise. But when it tips over into yelling and ear piercing screaming? Too much. They have to be taught that's not ok.

Nope.

No need for them to be screaming though

I didn't use to let my children scream generally - obviously excited playing sounds and the odd shriek totally fine. But if they actually started screaming I'd bring them in to calm down for a little bit.
We also used to say quiet play in the mornings - save ball games etc for a bit later.

Yanbu op. Any unnecessary noise before 9am or after 9pm is just bad manners.

My DS has ASD and he is much better behaviour-wise and has better general wellbeing if he gets sunlight soon after waking up. The winter is tough for this reason.

I do try to keep him quiet, but it can be hard sometimes as he is a very loud child. Trampoline is not permitted at that time of morning, but he squeals if he sees a hoverfly, etc 😂

I'd be gutted if my neighbour complained about us being in the garden in the morning as it's a lifeline for us. I do bring him and DD in (we have a one out, all out policy) if they are getting rowdy, but it's not like I can demand they whisper.

I don't think 7:30 is extremely early, either, but my perception may be skewed by having a child who is up by 5am every day.