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AIBU to find 'feel free to still go' rude and condescending?

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Crazystupididea · 20/03/2026 19:05

Not sure if I’m just being over sensitive but my friend & I had arranged to go for a day out with our kids tomorrow. I messaged her to confirm the time we would meet and she replied back saying she had double booked but to ‘feel free to still go without her’

Am I the only one who finds it really rude and quite condescending when people say that?!?

Like I don’t need her permission to take my kids on a day out that I’ve already booked and paid for just because she’s bailed.

AIBU? Not the first time she’s done this so maybe I’m just being sensitive.

OP posts:
Angelic999 · 20/03/2026 20:06

It's a fairly common phrase I wouldn't read too much into it but I would be irritated at being bailed on.

Laiste · 20/03/2026 20:00

It's not the best is it OP. Will you go?

Rumplestiltz · 20/03/2026 19:59

It’s rude and condescending. Where is the apology?

YouDriveMeCrazyButICanDoThatMyself · 20/03/2026 19:56

I’d just take it to mean ‘don’t wait until I’m free to go, I won’t be upset if you go anyway’, but then my friends aren’t arseholes, and I like them, so I wouldn’t feel the need to take offence and assume I’m being given ‘permission’ to go.