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AIBU? Bus driver refused to let me on the bus

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tulipkisses · 20/03/2026 17:12

Where I live buses can be infrequent and often delayed due to awful traffic. We also don’t have tap on/off, we have to show the driver our tickets or purchase one as we get on.

I work about a five minute walk from the bus stop. As I got to the bus stop this evening the bus was just pulling away, I checked the app and there was another one coming three minutes later.

It turned up and I put my arm out to hail it. It pulled in, someone got off and I stepped on. The driver refused to let me on because I “should have been on the earlier one”. He said if I walked onto the bus he wouldn’t pull away and would wait for me to get off, and he didn’t care about sitting there for hours to see if I’d stay on. He said he knew I was “only getting on this one for a faster journey” because it was empty compared to the one in front.

I have never experienced this in my life, I have no idea what to do? I have the number plate and I’m considering reporting it but this is just totally bizarre, should I have waited for the one after this one?

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SecretChipmunk · 20/03/2026 19:17

This doesn’t make sense. Once again OP - how did he know you didn’t get on the first bus if he came 3 minutes later?

gamerchick · 20/03/2026 19:05

I'd go to SM first and complain publicly. They're usually quick to ask you to take it private. But either way you need to complain.

butterpuffed · 20/03/2026 19:05

Womaninhouse17 · 20/03/2026 18:29

Even if you were just 'getting on that bus for a faster journey', so what? You're allowed to pick whichever bus you get on for any reason! (Though maybe next time avoid any bus that driver is driving!)

But there must be more to it .

How would the driver know she missed the first bus, Op said he didn't arrive till three minutes later .

Alpacajigsaw · 20/03/2026 19:02

I’d have just got on and sat down. Would have been a bit counter productive for him if he was hoping to get to his destination quicker if he’d sat there and not moved.

poetryandwine · 20/03/2026 18:58

Hi, OP -

Just …. Wow. Please report.

When you do, it will help to be clear at the start that your pass was valid for the weird driver’s bus. My first thought was to wonder whether you were trying something against the regulations, even if accidentally. Your answer to PP’s question cleared that up.

The bus company’s rep will be thinking the same way.

Good luck with this!

Beachtastic · 20/03/2026 18:52

That's mad OP, honestly I opened the thread expecting you to have been scoffing a bucket of KFC or something!!!

Guy's a nutter

PropitiousJump · 20/03/2026 18:49

Ariana12 · 20/03/2026 18:35

Im seriously wondering about the 2 % who think OP is unreasonable?!

The bus driver and his best mate 😆

faithfultoGeorgeMichael · 20/03/2026 18:47

He thinks you knew the bus behind was less full? Are you a witch? A psychic? 😂

BananaSkinShoes · 20/03/2026 18:41

That’s bizarre. I’m not normally one to say ‘report’, but he’s clearly bonkers so perhaps needs a meeting with HR.

PumpkinSoupIsBetterThanYouThink · 20/03/2026 18:39

I have had similar once. There are two buses that pass my house but one of them is designed in a way that really inconveniences everyone if you don't get off at the end of the line (which I don't).

It only has a front door and it gets very busy. So you get shoved down the back of the bus to let everyone on and then all those people have to get out of the way to let you off when you get to your stop. Whereas the other is a double decker with a back door so even if it is very full, you can always get off pretty easily with minimum impact on others.

The buses come from different places but from where I am, they both do the same route with the same terminus, just different bus designs.

Anyway, when the two buses pulled up at the same time, I walked past the front one-door one and took the double decker behind which would disrupt the journeys of all the other passengers less. The bus driver let me on but he was really furious about it and questioning my choice, even when I explained. It was the strangest thing. I probably should have complained, too, I was quite shaken by it.

Mapletree1985 · 20/03/2026 18:38

Bizarre behavior. This man should not be driving members of the public around in multi-tonne death machine. Report.

Ariana12 · 20/03/2026 18:35

Im seriously wondering about the 2 % who think OP is unreasonable?!

OneFunBrickNewt · 20/03/2026 18:35

This is when you need to start live streaming, or at least video.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 20/03/2026 18:34

CheckPain · 20/03/2026 17:13

He sounds quite unstable. Report asap.

He does, he sounds unstable!!

Yanbu sorry girl x

PropitiousJump · 20/03/2026 18:33

Bonkers!

SleepingStandingUp · 20/03/2026 18:31

I know most of our drivers so I'd be inclined that make conversation.

Thank god you let me on, the last driver said I wasn't allowed in his bus because it was too empty!!
. And def report

Friendlygingercat · 20/03/2026 18:30

He sounds like some kind of fruitloop.I too would have got on the bus and sat there and called his bluff. But then I can be a bitch.

I imagine the other passengers would soon have got angry and pressured him to move. So long as there is room the driver doesnt get to say who gets on or which bus they should have got.

steinwayto · 20/03/2026 18:29

Confused that you detailed the need to buy a ticket when you have a bus pass. What is the relevance of the ticket purchase method?

AgnesMcDoo · 20/03/2026 18:29

What an arsehole - yea report him to his bosses

Womaninhouse17 · 20/03/2026 18:29

Even if you were just 'getting on that bus for a faster journey', so what? You're allowed to pick whichever bus you get on for any reason! (Though maybe next time avoid any bus that driver is driving!)

Doingtheboxerbeat · 20/03/2026 18:27

The only time I will even think about complaining about anyone is to bus companies for the horrendous way they have treated me. I mean I have seen some terrible customer service in my 50+ years but I generally don't take it to heart, and just go on with my day.

Bus drivers are an entirely different breed and I'm not about to listen to ♉💩 excuses about how uniquely stressful their jobs are - I don't want to hear it.

I'm friendly, polite, laid back and empathetic but these arseholes don't differentiate - because I live in a poor , high crime area, we are all scum to them , regardless.

teletubbyy · 20/03/2026 18:26

I got kicked off the bus once when I was younger because I accidentally dug out yesterdays day saver out of the bottom of my bag instead of that days… said I was trying to pull one over on him and get off, even though I then produced the right ticket to him 🤣

Winewolfhywls · 20/03/2026 18:23

GnomeDePlume · 20/03/2026 18:22

I wonder if he was hoping to speed through to take a break further on.

Good thought.

Womaninhouse17 · 20/03/2026 18:23

Definitely report - immediately if possible.

auserna · 20/03/2026 18:23

tulipkisses · 20/03/2026 17:25

No, I have a bus pass.

I think he’s grumpy because he has a relatively empty bus and could probably get through most of his route quite quietly.

But the purpose of a public bus is to get passengers to their destinations, not the vehicle! I mean you could probably get through the whole route really quickly without any passengers at all, but that would be a bit pointless, wouldn't it?!

What a strange chap.