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Male colleague keeps barging me and making comments about my appearance

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grumpyatwork · 20/03/2026 15:49

I started my job at the same time as this colleague. He is in his late teens, and to put it bluntly he is an awful worker. He spends most of his time in the toilet on his phone, and whenever he’s pulled up about this he gets incredibly stroppy.

In the last few days I’ve taken over a lot of his work. I don’t mind, it makes everything easier.

but in the last few days he’s picked up on this and he keeps going out of his way to barge into me. He shoulder barged me yesterday when walking past me, despite me having enough room behind me for him to not do that. Today he saw I was behind him and rolled his chair backwards to bump into me.

he also keeps making snide comments about my appearance - hair colour, weight, etc.

I think this is all related to the fact I’m getting praise for getting his work done, but AIBU to raise it?

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Norfolklass2428 · 20/03/2026 15:58

Call this little shit out on it every time op! He sounds ghastly!

Do not be nice about it either and also go to HR and your line manager.

KTheGrey · 20/03/2026 15:58

grumpyatwork · 20/03/2026 15:55

Just the entire situation.

hes young and this is his first job and it’s painfully obvious. But he’s just been so rude in the last few days, because I did actually refuse to do some of his work. It just feels like he’s being really childish.

Nothing like experience for learning. Report him to HR so he can learn that if he assaults people at work he will be in trouble.

Seriously, what advice would you give somebody else - hey, just let the work shy bloke assault you, or, expect your workplace to manage his behaviour when he is working?

CarlaLemarchant · 20/03/2026 15:57

Report, report, report. But also feel free to draw attention to it if/when it happens again. Find your confidence. “Ben, you’ve just shoulder barged me. It’s not the first time, stop it!” Loudly. And report again.

ColdAsAWitches · 20/03/2026 15:56

FFS. You're doing his work for him and he's assaulting you and insulting you. But you're here instead of HR.If you don't do something about it he'll keep doing it. Of course you complain!

ForPinkDuck · 20/03/2026 15:55

You need ti report him now to your manager.

mindfulmoaning · 20/03/2026 15:55

Report this immediately.
he can’t behave like this regardless of how good or bad he is at his work

grumpyatwork · 20/03/2026 15:55

KTheGrey · 20/03/2026 15:53

What reporting him to HR for assault? Not petty at all!

Just the entire situation.

hes young and this is his first job and it’s painfully obvious. But he’s just been so rude in the last few days, because I did actually refuse to do some of his work. It just feels like he’s being really childish.

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BessieSurtees · 20/03/2026 15:54

How old are you? Have you called him out on it? Spoken to him about it?

UnhappyHobbit · 20/03/2026 15:53

You should mind that you are doing his work. That’s what he is paid to do. You need to stop it as he clearly thinks he can walk all over you and in his mind, you’re letting him get away with being authoritative over you. It’s a recipe for disaster

KTheGrey · 20/03/2026 15:53

grumpyatwork · 20/03/2026 15:51

Not yet. It only started in the last couple of days.

It just all feels really petty.

What reporting him to HR for assault? Not petty at all!

Lostallhistory · 20/03/2026 15:52

Tell him to fuck off with his behaviour or preferably report to HR . If he does anything again, call him out on it, loudly.

grumpyatwork · 20/03/2026 15:51

GreyCarpet · 20/03/2026 15:50

Presumably you've reported this to your line manager?

Not yet. It only started in the last couple of days.

It just all feels really petty.

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Sherunswithwolves · 20/03/2026 15:51

Go straight to HR. That is outrageous. You are being assaulted.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 20/03/2026 15:50

He’s assaulting you.

What would you do if a man on the street assaulted you?

GreyCarpet · 20/03/2026 15:50

Presumably you've reported this to your line manager?