Male colleague keeps barging me and making comments about my appearance

It’s assault x

YABU to think like this and not to report him to your manager

Hi op you cannot let a kid assault you because he doesn’t like what’s going on. His issue should be with his senior staff you need to tell him one more comment or touch your reporting him to hr and the police for assault if necessary scare him. He can’t go around doing what he wants a toddler acts like this. Op don’t take this shit from anyone especially in the workplace. He sounds like he needs to grow up he won’t get away with this in the army.

Complain about it by email over weekend and ask them to act on it immediately, also ask them to put up a camera as this is assault as well as a behaviour that they should dismiss him for.

I have known a lot of teens while they have had their first job. NONE have acted like that and assaulted me or anyone else.

You are allowing yourself to be bullied by a teenaged twat waffle. He needs to learn the rules of life. Now.

STOP making excuses for him and stop thinking you will be the one who looks bad.

Absolutely not petty, you could pull him up on his behaviour but that might risk a show down in the middle of the office. Speaking to your line manager may be a better option. Do you have any witnesses? Also record everything, this is assault and needs nipping in the bud now.

Stop making excuses! I agree with the previous poster, you seem to be coming up with all sorts of reasons why you will do nothing. Which is pathetic.

He could say anything. The impression you're giving of him hardly screams integrity & maturity.

It’s not being petty and stooping to his level to speak to your line manager and HR - this is exactly what you should do. You need to take this kind of thing seriously otherwise he will continue or it will escalate. Think better of yourself and don’t just complain anonymously on the internet, tell someone and don’t put up with it.

If this was happening to another young colleague, your sister or your daughter, what would you tell her - it’s petty so put up with it and don’t complain?

You are doing his work while he sits on the toilet on his phone.
He rewards you for this by physically assaulting you?
Are you serious?
He needs to be sacked.
Report him for every shoulder barge and every misogynistic comment and every hour he wastes on his phone when he should be working.

Stop doing his work.

He's assaulting you. You need to report this.

Do you not get he's escalating? He's stepped up from verbal abuse to physical.

What is your reasoning for not reporting assault??

Why on earth have they kept him on?

of course you must report him

It’s really coming across like you’re not going to do anything about this, for reasons that are genuinely unclear.

In which case, YABU for accepting this.

Physical assault and making derogatory comments about a colleague's appearance to their face I'm sure would be classed as gross misconduct which is immediate suspension/dismissal.

So you will let him continue in this behaviour and it goes unchecked for his next workplace - but since it doesn't involve you, its ok? Thats an appalling way to behave on your part OP. If it was where i worked - he would be immediately asked to leave.

Assaulting a member of staff is gross misconduct. He could be dismissed immediately. Speak up for yourself and stop letting him think that he can get away with potentially hurting you.

What he is doing is assault. It wouldn’t be childish to report that, it would be responsible. You’ve mentioned a couple of times that he is quite young. Even so, he should already know not to touch someone aggressively. But he doesn’t so needs to be taught that now, have it nipped in the bud. Think of it as doing him a favour as that type of behaviour can escalate and lead to criminal charges.

I am saying that because I am trying to understand your perspective. Personally I think his behaviour is appalling and he deserves any consequences that can be thrown at him. He isn’t assaulting you because he is young, he is doing it because he is a nasty little thug.

He gets away with it because he is allowed to. You're not reporting him to get him sacked, you're reporting him to protect yourself.

ETA: physical assault in my workplace would result in him being escorted off the premises immediately. They wouldn't need to go through normal notice periods.

He could lie..?

You're assuming an unreasonable person is going to behave reasonably.

It is childish. But if he reports you for something first, you'll likely be out of a job so start taking it more seriously & deal with it professionally. His age & number of jobs won't make a difference if he decides to engineer a grievance against you & takes it to HR. You'll make excuses & allowances for him at your peril.

This, OP.

You need to act to protect yourself. You don't know him but you know enough about him to know that he isn't a reasonable person.

He's not at school now. And he won't get away with behaving like this in the workplace.

If you don't say anything and he does, you might well be the one looking for a new job. You've got to protect yourself. You owe him nothing.

Report this to HR immediately, there's no excuse for not doing so.

When he does it again ( and he will because you are letting him get away with it ) , make it clear to him you know what he is doing and why and that you have reported him for bullying both physical and verbal.

How long were planning on putting up with this? it's your workplace not Y7 at school.