Male colleague keeps barging me and making comments about my appearance

No, this is serious harassment and physical violence, once is enough. Write down everything he's done, when and where and keep a detailed record. Report him to your line manager and to HR immediately. I'm so sorry this disgusting man is abusing you like this, it must stop.

Thank you so much for paras 1 and 2. I feel I have got that off my chest too by proxy.

Personally if he did this to me, and there were other people around, I would say in a loud voice 'John, I know this is your first job, therefore you may not realise that shoulder barging someone in the work place, or deliberately running into them with your chair, is classed as assault, this is not the first time you've done this to me, but let it be the last, or I WILL report it to HR (or boss, whichever is most appropriate in your set up). Or, if his next attack is name calling, or insulting you, making sexist comments, etc., then say, 'bullying in the work place is not acceptable John, you may not realise that because this is your first job, but it is a dismissible offence, so pack it in now, or I will report your behaviour to HR along with the fact that you've also shoulder barged me, and deliberately run into me whilst pretending you need to move your chair.

However, the right thing to do, as so many have already told you, is to go straight to your line manager or HR and report. Either way though, you really DO need to do something to put a stop to this disgusting behaviour.

If you wont report it then have a set response.

"Did you mean that to be rude"
"That was a nasty comment"

If he barges you then you say in loud voice "stop touching me"

"James, if you make one more offensive comment to me, or 'accidentally' barge into me one more time your feet will not touch the ground. I am reporting your current behaviour to HR and am telling you straight not to speak to me again. I appreciate that this is your first job so I'm making it really clear to you that your behaviour is absolutely unacceptable. Hope you've understood'.

And walk away and report him. You can tell them you've raised it with him and that you expect them to make sure he understands it is not acceptable.

It's his first job

He doesn't do the work and instead spends his time in the toilet on his phone

You do his work, at the request of higher-ups

He asks you to do even more of his work, and physically and verbally abuses you when you refuse

You have a duty to yourself, your workplace and the useless young man to put a stop to this.

Please stop telling OP to report to HR FFS!

It’s the line manager it needs to be reported too, as they are the ones responsible for MANAGING this person, investigating and then running the discipline process. HR are there to ‘support’ the manager to do this. HR are not there to do the managers job on their behalf. MANAGERS are paid to MANAGE.

Right, now I have got that off my chest - OP you need to write everything down - dates, times, what he said, what he did, if he hurt you when he barged you. Get as much detail in writing as possible. You then E-mail it to your manager and ask for a meeting. As others have said, this is assault and he should not be getting away with this.

You could copy in HR, so they can support the manager through the process.

Either that or just give the little shit and f**king good punch in the face 😂 Just don’t get caught!

Actually it's unfortunate for you that you didn't understand my obviously deliberately disingenuous response to your disingenuous question about whether the OP had reported the issue.

If you're so deft at assimilating and analysing the OP's situation why not just recommend she report it, or offer some other useful advice, rather than asking "obviously pointed" questions and feeling smug at your own cleverness?

If it was me id totally call him on it the next time he does it. His behaviour and attitude are shocking and im surprised he hasn’t been sacked. If this has gone unnoticed by management please do speak up for yourself and stop him in his tracks. It’s totally unacceptable and he needs to grow up, learn some manners and how to behave like an adult.

Note down every instance of when he does something, no matter how small. It may escalate and you need to be prepared. Keep dates, times and a description of what happened. If he's deliberately bumping into you, it is assault, and if your employer wants him to go, this will make it easier to get rid of him.

Report him for physical assault and verbal harassment.
It sounds like your company will be begging for a reason to sack him anyway.

Keep a diary listing every incident. A contemporaneous record carries a lot of weight if the matter should escalate

😅 of course read it (and understood that she both hadn't reported it and would he resistant to reporting it).

My obviously pointed question was to highlight that the most obvious course of action to take would be... reporting it.

It's unfortunate for you that you didn't understand that.

Totally aside from anything else, this is sexual harassment. He wouldn't do it to a man.

Exactly this. Completely pointless thread

OP - you asked if you would be unreasonable to report him. Everyone, absolutely everyone, is telling you to report him. And you are arguing with them, explaining all the reasons why you don’t want to.

So what was the point of asking the question, if you’ve already made up your mind not to report him?

You need to stop doing his work for him. If he leaves you’ll be stuck with it and it will become part of your job. Sometimes you have to let people fail, otherwise they won’t learn, and they won’t improve. You need to write everything down - the barging, the comments, the intimidation- it all matters. I know it’s his first job and it’s painfully obvious, but most people don’t behave like dicks in their first job. Tell your manager he needs more training at the very least. You have your own work to do.

You think he should be sent into the military with an unblemished record to train alongside young women?

I’d give them all a heads up. Nothing wrong with that. This is gross misconduct territory.

Little bastard needs a life lesson
Report to HR
The fucker needs to realise working life is fuck all like school life.

I’ve already posted on another thread about being shoulder barged by a man in the street a few years back - so hard it popped out a rib. If someone did that to me in the workplace I would go full attack mode. Please report this guy so he learns from his actions.

It sounds like there’s a big age gap possibly? So in a way you’re treating him like a toddler/10 year old pushing people around in a bad temper. But this is an adult man. How would you feel if you saw him doing the things he does to you to someone his own age or younger? I think you’d make a complaint?

Then you best report it incase he's back working with you permanently.

That'll be a whole new thread.

You do need to report even if he's leaving. I remember having an older lady doing this when I was 18, it was awful, she just decided she disliked me and repeatedly barged me with her chair. Eventually managers couldn't ignore and she was given a warning. He won't last 5 minutes in the army with that attitude (my DH is ex forces) but you do need to document the issue

Its his first job but most people in their first job don't do this.

He's assaulting you. It's not childish to report it. This will escalate. No one, young or not thinks it's okay to barge or push people.

Raise it asap.