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Unseasoned food

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ChangeAgainAgainAgain · 20/03/2026 10:57

I've eaten at a few other people's houses in the last couple of months, and I've really noticed the absence of seasoning, and no salt or pepper mills on the table.

I grew up in the 80's, where salt was added in cooking to everything, so obviously it's great for health that we're no longer adding salt to vegetable water etc.

I don't generally add salt to cooking, but I always put salt and pepper mills on the table, and would generally add some to my plate.

I've recently been served meals such as grilled salmon, boiled baby potatoes, steamed veg, with no seasoning, no herbs, not even butter or EVOO on the potatoes. Or a roast dinner, no seasoning added in cooking at all, not even on the potatoes. No salt and pepper mills on the table. Honestly to me, these meals taste super bland.

Now, I'm an old fogie, and the people hosting me have been various ages, but all younger than me. Is this just how it is now? People's palates have changed?

So, AIBU to say that whilst not adding excessive salt in cooking is a great thing for health, it's normal/polite to have salt and pepper mills on the table?

IANBU - bring on the salt and pepper
IABU - times have changed. Cruet sets have no place in the modern world!

OP posts:
Ohpleeeease · 20/03/2026 12:16

I haven’t boiled a vegetable in years, I only ever steam them, so salt gets added later if at all. We eat plenty of cheese based meals though so we get a fair amount of salt that way. Salt and pepper are always on the table. Sauces, however, aren’t.

BettyBoh · 20/03/2026 12:15

Personal preference. Salt and pepper should definitely be on the table.
you can’t undo salt and pepper once they’re on the food. Hence why I hate it when theres too much, or when a chef thinks they know what level of seasoning you want.
i don’t really eat much salt or pepper but my husband does. It’s so simple - just let people do their own.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 20/03/2026 12:15

Oh and most people (particularly on MN) seem to think they are excellent chefs and season everything perfectly and get offended if you dare imply you want salt etc, when in reality seasoning is down to individual taste.

Part of the reason I don’t eat at other people’s houses.

Krakinou · 20/03/2026 12:12

YABU for moaning about a meal someone has cooked for you, especially if it’s only bland and not actively disgusting. Be effusive and grateful. I hate people who moan about food. It ruins the meal for people who are enjoying it. Eating together is about community, good conversation and caring for each other. The food is the least important part.

Also, just ask for salt if you want it.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 20/03/2026 12:10

ManyATrueWord · 20/03/2026 12:08

British food has suffered since the "salt is bad" message went out. Not eating salty processed food all the time is healthy, never putting salt in home cooking is odd. It's one of the five tastes, why wouldn't you use it, even if it's not to the same extent as the post war salting of tough vegetables? I still prefer my cooked carrots salted, I must confess.

Surely it better to let people season their own food how they like it? That seems to be the easiest way

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 20/03/2026 12:09

Vodka1 · 20/03/2026 11:32

I don't like salt, I never add it on top of my food, I remember when my mum used to get chippy teas and try tell me there wasn't salt on the chips, then moan when I couldn't stomach them. She used to tell me theres no way I could taste it.

I think so many foods, pre packet foods mostly are already salty enough that no one really needs more, or everything just tastes like salt.

HOWEVER, to my surprise, at my kids birthday party a few weeks ago (5 & 6 year olds) soo many kids asked for salt for their chips / pizza / burger. (Including one of mine!!)

So I guess lots of families absolutely still do salt.

I'm a garlic girl, I'll add garlic to almost anything though! Vinegar too.

Ah another vinegar fan!

Not garlic though - nothing worse than working with people who eat garlic all the time!

ManyATrueWord · 20/03/2026 12:08

British food has suffered since the "salt is bad" message went out. Not eating salty processed food all the time is healthy, never putting salt in home cooking is odd. It's one of the five tastes, why wouldn't you use it, even if it's not to the same extent as the post war salting of tough vegetables? I still prefer my cooked carrots salted, I must confess.

steinwayto · 20/03/2026 12:07

saveforthat · 20/03/2026 12:06

Yes, I'm sure it's meant to be an insult because it's fine to lump all the millions of white people in the world together and assume they only eat bland food. Is enjoying spicy food Basic Black People'ing?

Now that would be considered racist, go figure.

Tings · 20/03/2026 12:07

saveforthat · 20/03/2026 11:56

WTF is Basic White People'ing?

It's racism.

LittleArithmetics · 20/03/2026 12:06

saveforthat · 20/03/2026 11:56

WTF is Basic White People'ing?

I think the implication is that food from many other (non European) cultures tends to include a lot of strong flavours such as chilli, soy sauce, garlic, ginger etc, making specific addition of salt less relevant. Something like a plain boiled potato, which arguably needs salt added, wouldn't really be a thing in these cultures.

saveforthat · 20/03/2026 12:06

steinwayto · 20/03/2026 12:00

I think it’s meant to be an insult but it’s so stupid I cannot be sure.

Yes, I'm sure it's meant to be an insult because it's fine to lump all the millions of white people in the world together and assume they only eat bland food. Is enjoying spicy food Basic Black People'ing?

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 20/03/2026 12:05

Caspianberg · 20/03/2026 11:03

We never put salt and pepper on the table although it’s available if someone wants.

We do however season our food whilst cooking with herbs, spices and salt as needed. We tend to use a lot more seasoning now than growing up. My parents only used salt and pepper. We use everything from fresh herbs, soy, miso, spices, ginger etc so food is generally much more flavoursome at home and out and about.

Dh mother over salts everything imo. She will automatically add salt without even tasting first which I find really bizarre, even at her own house, in restaurants etc. when we asked her if the food was unseasoned in a restaurant once as he hadn’t even tasted she tried first and was like ‘ oh it’s actually nice without’.. but still usually salts everything which I find bizarre as she has no idea if it’s already over salted.

I salt everything. I hate herbs and spices on most things (and can’t eat anything that has had pepper in it because I can taste it) and I prefer to put my salt (and usually vinegar) on. But I’m AuDHD so odd about food.

Lovesplasticstraws · 20/03/2026 12:04

Pre-packaged food contains no where near as much salt as it used to. Baked beans, tomato soup, ketchup are really low now. Even crisps. When abroad can get beautiful salty crisps.
Not rude to ask for basic condiments. Not as you are asking for moonlight harvested single batch estate sea salt.

EEHHH · 20/03/2026 12:02

A home without salt is just not in my books.
Salt in my home is for eating cleaning and the odd medical emergency.

Sapphireandsteel2 · 20/03/2026 12:02

DancingLions · 20/03/2026 11:24

Why didn't you just ask for salt and pepper? That would have been the obvious solution.

There's very little savoury food that I don't put salt on so I always just ask if it's not provided, because I'm not going to enjoy the meal without it.

My relative brought up her children not to add salt, so when we went for lunch e.g. a roast there was no salt on the table and everything seemed bland. I asked for salt, it was reluctantly provided, and the kids got excited and wanted to add it too. So I didn't ask again as I felt disapproved of. It was clear the kids were used to adding salt when not at home.

StarsShiningOnANighttimeSea · 20/03/2026 12:01

The amount of gravy I like on a roast dinner usually sorts me for salt intake. 😆

I can't really add it to cooking as my husband has chronic hypertension and needs to cut down on sodium. But I always have the salt and pepper grinders in the table.

steinwayto · 20/03/2026 12:00

saveforthat · 20/03/2026 11:56

WTF is Basic White People'ing?

I think it’s meant to be an insult but it’s so stupid I cannot be sure.

UrsulaBelle · 20/03/2026 11:59

It's a actually healthier to add salt at the table rather than in the cooking process as 'surface salt' on the food impacts a much saltier taste than when used in cooking, so much less salt is needed to give the same flavour enhancement.

ChangeAgainAgainAgain · 20/03/2026 11:58

BlackCat14 · 20/03/2026 11:43

No I don’t think this is “just how it is now,” i think it’s your friends and family. Well, from my experience anyway, no one I know does this. My partner is in his 20s, I’m in my 30s and we both use a lot of herbs, spices, flavoured oils, lemon and lime juice etc in our cooking. My group of six girlfriends and I have a rotating “Dinner Club” where we take it in turns to host once a month and they all cook and season beautifully. So does my mum in her 60s. Went on holiday with my boyfriend’s friends who are in their 20s and we took it in turns to cook in groups. All meals were lovely and seasoned.

I use all those things, herbs, spices, juices etc. I'd add salt & pepper too.

When I say I don't season in cooking, I'm more talking about the teaspoonful of salt my mum would add to anything boiled - potatoes, veg, pasta, rice etc. I will lightly season other stuff (e.g a roast chicken would have fresh thyme and a cut lemon shoved up it's bum, salted butter rubbed under the skin of the breast, and a crack of black pepper over the top. I'd then have s&p on the table too, for people to add according to their taste.)

OP posts:
DappledThings · 20/03/2026 11:58

Iamgucciyouarecrocs · 20/03/2026 11:47

I would always expect S&P on the table and would always provide it. I season everything too, it’s weird to see unseasoned food. I found out the other day that my friend cooks his (unseasoned) chicken by boiling it and I wanted to cry for him🤣

salt & pepper is down to preference. I don’t use a lot of it as I have small children but often add my own to certain dishes after cooking

I mean it's not how I would choose to cook chicken but I have done it that way occasionally for young children or the dog and it's fine. It tastes of chicken by itself. It's not an enhanced taste and not how I would leave it for myself but it's not tasteless.

saveforthat · 20/03/2026 11:56

wordywitch · 20/03/2026 11:26

Seasonings beyond salt and pepper exist too - I have a cupboard absolutely full of spices, herbs, sauces and other condiments to make my food taste good. Boiled, bland, unseasoned food is peak Basic White People’ing 😄

WTF is Basic White People'ing?

Jellycatspyjamas · 20/03/2026 11:54

I always use salt in my cooking, it enhances the flavours of everything else. I really couldn’t be doing with plain chicken, potatoes and vegetables - food is a pleasure as well as fuel and well cooked, well seasoned food is a joy. I do provide salt and pepper at the table because tastes vary but the food comes to the table seasoned.

steinwayto · 20/03/2026 11:52

I also grew up on the 80s and thank the gods of becoming a young adult in the 90s that i was able to manage my own foods. I absolutely hate salted food, I don’t taste ‘enhanced’ I taste salt - I like my food to taste exactly as it does unseasoned. I don’t really know why anyone else cares tbh. You do you and all.

Iamgucciyouarecrocs · 20/03/2026 11:47

I would always expect S&P on the table and would always provide it. I season everything too, it’s weird to see unseasoned food. I found out the other day that my friend cooks his (unseasoned) chicken by boiling it and I wanted to cry for him🤣

salt & pepper is down to preference. I don’t use a lot of it as I have small children but often add my own to certain dishes after cooking

Tings · 20/03/2026 11:46

BlackCat14 · 20/03/2026 11:43

No I don’t think this is “just how it is now,” i think it’s your friends and family. Well, from my experience anyway, no one I know does this. My partner is in his 20s, I’m in my 30s and we both use a lot of herbs, spices, flavoured oils, lemon and lime juice etc in our cooking. My group of six girlfriends and I have a rotating “Dinner Club” where we take it in turns to host once a month and they all cook and season beautifully. So does my mum in her 60s. Went on holiday with my boyfriend’s friends who are in their 20s and we took it in turns to cook in groups. All meals were lovely and seasoned.

'Seasoned beautifully' for you and your friends but that's because you all have similar tastes.

Once person's 'beautifully' can be another person's 'under seasoned' or 'over seasoned'.

There are no rules when it comes to personal taste.