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DP says I'd look younger with hair and make-up, AIBU?

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CurlingChamp · 19/03/2026 23:50

I’ve been out this evening and was chatting to two much older men (70s/80s) that I’ve known for some time. My age was mentioned along the lines of “well you’re younger than my youngest son, and he’s 44. You’re about 42 aren’t you?”

As a soon to be 48 year old who runs on 4 hours sleep with 2 young children and a full-on job, I was pleased with the compliment…

…until I told my DP, who thought about it and said “just imagine if you did your hair and make-up, you’d look maybe 37”.

How would take that comment from your DP?

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piscofrisco · 20/03/2026 06:33

Well in fairness most people look better (if not necessarily younger) when they do their hair and stick a bit of slap on. Whether that’s something you aspire to is up to you I guess. But he isn’t wrong. He might be wrong to want you to look like that, but factually he’s probably correct.

firstofallimadelight · 20/03/2026 05:21

And if he did his hair and makeup so would he!!

MissPrismsMistake · 20/03/2026 05:16

If you had a husband who loved and respected you enough to ensure you got a full night’s sleep you’d probably still look 25.

Just saying …

MummySleepDeprived · 20/03/2026 03:22

You very well may look younger.... but so would he with more hair and less paunch. Seeing as how we are offering unsolicited advice.

GoneBackToTheWorld · 20/03/2026 03:00

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PollyBell · 20/03/2026 02:55

I dont comment to husband if I have specific ways I need him to reply

FrauPaige · 20/03/2026 02:48

Alternative view - he appreciates that curation is an art form and that 'glowing up' can transform a woman.

The idea that curated women roll out of bed looking that way sets an impossibly high standard and increasingly overwhelming societal pressure on us to conform to.

I would have perhaps suggested that you could look 27 with 4 hours more sleep every night - and that you'll be reassigning the household chores to facilitate.

GoodVibesHere · 20/03/2026 02:44

Farewelltothatid · 20/03/2026 01:01

I'd wonder if he was a bit miffed that these older guys had been talking to you and complimenting you and so he felt the need to bring you down a peg by saying something unpleasant.

This

DinoLil · 20/03/2026 02:29

His nose would be attached to my fist! Lighthearted, I don't condone violence. But what a flipping cheek!

StarryStaryNight · 20/03/2026 02:25

Some people don't get it.

Farewelltothatid · 20/03/2026 01:01

I'd wonder if he was a bit miffed that these older guys had been talking to you and complimenting you and so he felt the need to bring you down a peg by saying something unpleasant.

Eenameenadeeka · 20/03/2026 00:56

Id take it as a bad joke that he didn't think through before he said it.

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CurlingChamp · 20/03/2026 00:54

Mimsea · 19/03/2026 23:54

Badly

Thank you, I thought it might just be me.

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Mimsea · 19/03/2026 23:54

Badly