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She ate all the biscuits

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Imissmusic · 19/03/2026 21:24

I got a pack of chocolate chip cookies for today after dinner for everyone to have a few-Dd has a balanced diet but we don’t have a dessert or biscuits, crisps etc every night or in the house that often-more on weekends or if we bake something.
I hid the rest of the biscuits away for another day.
I went to have a shower, when Dd came up to bed, she told me she looked everywhere for them, found them and ate them.

Would you be cross? She’s 7

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k1233 · 20/03/2026 20:12

You have said multiple times you don't care for sweets. Your daughter obviously does. I remember being a kid and dreaming of working and spending all my pay on chocolates or whatever. Of course you don't do that as an adult, but it seems feasible as a kid.

As an adult I don't have biscuits etc in the house as you pick away at them because they are there, not because you are actually hungry.

However as a child mum always had cakes etc for morning tea. We never gutsed them. Same with biscuits. You see kids with food restrictions at birthday parties and they crowd the food table as they never get it at home or it's severely restricted.

When you cook on the weekends, do you reduce the amount of sugar in recipes, or use use sugar substitutes, becauseyou think the recipe is too sweet?

You need to teach your daughter to self regulate. You shouldn't be hiding food because she'll guts it. Creating a scarcity mindset makes whatever is scarce valuable. You need to speak to your daughter about her inconsiderate behaviour. She can have a biscuit, she can't have the whole pack as others want to eat some too.

How many biscuits did she share with her father and how many were left in the packet?

Spaghettifountain · 20/03/2026 20:01

I actually think it's weird to give a bowl of biscuits completely. What's wrong with one or two max? No one needs more than that. I think you're encouraging binging.

Wildefish · 20/03/2026 19:57

Imissmusic · 19/03/2026 21:24

I got a pack of chocolate chip cookies for today after dinner for everyone to have a few-Dd has a balanced diet but we don’t have a dessert or biscuits, crisps etc every night or in the house that often-more on weekends or if we bake something.
I hid the rest of the biscuits away for another day.
I went to have a shower, when Dd came up to bed, she told me she looked everywhere for them, found them and ate them.

Would you be cross? She’s 7

Maybe you need to have more biscuits in general. As long as she eats a balanced meal.

Dontfuckingsaycheese · 20/03/2026 19:53

Lol. I can’t be trusted around biscuits either. Ask my colleagues 🙄 I downed a packet of these last weekend. All on my own. In a hotel room. I know how to live 🤗

She ate all the biscuits
OrdinarySloth · 20/03/2026 19:44

People here just like to be contrary here, OP. If you say she rarely has treats, they’ll say you’ve put them on a pedestal and she craves them. But if you say she has treats all the time, they’ll say you’ve encouraged greed/poor eating habits. If you left them out, they’ll say you shouldn’t have tempted her. If you hid them, they’ll say she stole them because you’ve made it a forbidden treat.

I’d be cross that she openly doesn’t see an issue in taking food she knows you’ve put away and don’t want her eating now. And I’d be cross that she’s eaten all of them without any thought for other people. I wouldn’t be angry but she’d certainly know I was disappointed in her for being selfish and sly. My 4 year old understands “if I put these away, they’re not for eating now”.

diddl · 20/03/2026 19:35

But surely they have "been made" into treats because they are?

Nothing wrong with everyone having a couple & then them being put away for another day.

I thought that that was usual?

Solost92 · 20/03/2026 19:35

"You shouldn't hide food, my kids know not to overeat sweets or take food without asking."
OK. But OPs daughter doesn't. She will eat an entire birthday cake in a day. She will search high and low for the rest of a pack of biscuits she's already eaten half of.

I think you need some specialist advice on how to parent kids with this particular relationship with food because she'll end up making herself ill.

Also, these people saying its perfectly normal to eat a full pack of biscuits, how many have always maintained a healthy weight? I'm overweight with a sweet tooth but couldn't eat a full pack of biscuits or cake in one sitting. Binge eating isn't healthy.

Dolphinnoises · 20/03/2026 19:26

I think it’s a bit of a straw man argument to say chocolate is only gorged because parents present it in the wrong way. Chocolate (biscuits) send your taste receptors into a state of bliss, that’s the point. Some people find that harder to resist than others. If your DD is really drawn to scoff the lot I would set clear consistent rules. No more than 4 biscuits, say (depending on size - I’m thinking Bourbon size but a cookie might be one). When something is bought for the whole family, remember only a quarter of it is up for grabs or you’re eating someone else’s portion

pinkstripeycat · 20/03/2026 19:26

Imissmusic · 19/03/2026 21:46

This is it I think…as a child I just didn’t do that, probably wanted to but knew I just couldn’t eat everything, i’d ask but probably wouldn’t get extra

As a child I’d never have done this. My sister would. Even now (in our 50s) I can have 2 biscuits and leave it at that but my sister will eat a whole packet (even if she doesn’t like them!) Greedy

DearGoldBee · 20/03/2026 19:20

Imissmusic · 19/03/2026 23:19

Not at all. My issue is should I be stronger with boundaries and the fact she should not have just taken them…or accept she’s little and it’s tempting for her and let it go

She's little, they're tempting, let it go.

Personally I'm surprised how many people seem to keep things under lock and key, one poster said their children wouldn't even take an apple from the fridge without asking! It seems so joyless and punitive to me. This is our shared home, my children don't need permission to eat an apple or grab a little treat.

I understand it's the issue is biscuits, you wouldn't have minded if it was something less unhealthy, but beyond a 'darling you know you're not supposed to eat that many biscuits in one go' i could not get worked over something like this.

Solost92 · 20/03/2026 19:18

Yeah sorry I don't think this is good behaviour or normal. Its more than having a sweet tooth. She's gone hunting through the cupboards becuase she knew they were in the house and couldn't control herself and has eaten a whole packet. She knew she wasnt allowed them, thats naughty, plain and simple. Its like an alcoholic. If I gave DS a full packet of biscuits there is a chance he would eat the whole lot, not a guarantee. We're currently sat watching a film and I have bought dessert for after dinner and DS has a tub of sweets in view and an Easter egg bought days ago. My kids have big sweet tooths, sometimes I worry about it. Ain't no one begging for sweets, or sneaking them. I don't think it's normal that you can't have anything sweet in the house or she'll eat it all.

Beachtastic · 20/03/2026 19:17

Imissmusic · 19/03/2026 21:57

She probably came to tell me as she knew she shouldn’t have. I don’t know…is it so strange for a child to want to eat chocolate chip biscuits and to be massively tempted? Probably not

The trouble is that food manufacturers know how to get us hooked. Taste sensations! It's hard enough for adults to cope with the onslaught, let alone children.

Zerosleep · 20/03/2026 19:16

TheyreAllLikeThat · 19/03/2026 21:30

It sounds like your strictness about food, hiding food etc is causing issues. Relax the rules a bit and she won’t see this food as a big deal. You’re going to potentially make her have a bad relationship with food if you continue.

Exactly what I thought!

Hedgehogbrown · 20/03/2026 19:09

Velumental · 19/03/2026 21:40

But you HAVE made them treats. You've placed value on them as different to just food. Once you do that they are a prize and that fuels binging on them. You need to rethink your attitude to food I thinj

Because they are bad for you! Kids shouldn't be scoffing entire packets of biscuits. T-hey are full of sugar and emulsifiers which damage the lining of your bowel and give you bowel cancer. Why is everyone acting like it's strange to hide junk food? She's not hiding the fruit.

Gwenhwyfar · 20/03/2026 19:07

DashingDinosaurs · 19/03/2026 21:52

Have you never wolfed down sugary treats? I have and still do…because it’s satisfying and deliciously rebellious when I should be eating healthy food. Okay, so the packet of biscuits were meant for others on another day, but this is a minor issue. No, I wouldn’t be at all angry with her. I’d chuckle and move on.

Me too. A pack of biscuits will go quickly so I only buy them occasionally.

diddl · 20/03/2026 18:56

Please don't deprive your dd a sweet treat.

She wasn't deprived!

She'd already had some & then decided to have the rest!

Weeelokthen · 20/03/2026 18:54

This so reminds me of what I did with my boys. I was always paranoid about their teeth, so they wouldn't get fizzy juice or anything, just water/milk or a wee drop diluting juice. When my oldest started earning his own money it was bloody sweet energy drinks he was buying, still does 10yrs on.
Please don't deprive your dd a sweet treat.
Heed my error 😁

BernardButlersBra · 20/03/2026 18:53

Velumental · 19/03/2026 21:27

Not really. She's 7, left to her own devices and there were biscuits left out, she clearly didn't think it was off limits as she told you about it. If shed sneaked them and said nothing I might be concerned. You say she came up to bed like she was just wandering round by herself and appeared upstairs not like she was brought up to bed.

Biscuits were hidden, not out

Surgz · 20/03/2026 18:49

Errm no ,shes 7

PistachioTiramisu · 20/03/2026 18:47

Well if she's sick, that will teach her a lesson,

OutwiththeOutCrowd · 20/03/2026 18:45

Perhaps there's a bit of a feast or famine dynamic going on which makes it harder to self-regulate? Not that I can talk about biscuit wisdom. I never did manage to teach DS not to disappear into his lair with the remainder of a packet of biscuits.

Do you have squirrel ancestry, by the way?

Runningtokeepstilll · 20/03/2026 18:44

diddl · 20/03/2026 18:40

When I was a kid (I'm in my 60s now), we asked for food, and I was similar with my kids.

A lot of people scoff (ha, ha) at this, but no one ever ate a full packet of anything.

Some stuff-fruit, yoghurt, bread-have what you want.

But even then consider others as well!

Yep, me too. We were allowed one chocolate biscuit and one digestive a day and we had to ask, not help ourselves.

godmum56 · 20/03/2026 18:43

Eenameenadeeka · 19/03/2026 21:28

I think making it something you rarely have, makes it more desired and then end up with situations like this, whereas if it's more normal to have a biscuit semi regularly they don't seem to do things like that. I wouldn't be mad, but it would tell her that it wasn't great to eat them all at once because it might upset her tummy.

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diddl · 20/03/2026 18:40

When I was a kid (I'm in my 60s now), we asked for food, and I was similar with my kids.

A lot of people scoff (ha, ha) at this, but no one ever ate a full packet of anything.

Some stuff-fruit, yoghurt, bread-have what you want.

But even then consider others as well!

Sharptonguedwoman · 20/03/2026 18:39

Happyjoe · 20/03/2026 18:25

She didn't eat a whole packet of biscuits though.

Was replying to another poster who was talking about her child.

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