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She ate all the biscuits

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Imissmusic · 19/03/2026 21:24

I got a pack of chocolate chip cookies for today after dinner for everyone to have a few-Dd has a balanced diet but we don’t have a dessert or biscuits, crisps etc every night or in the house that often-more on weekends or if we bake something.
I hid the rest of the biscuits away for another day.
I went to have a shower, when Dd came up to bed, she told me she looked everywhere for them, found them and ate them.

Would you be cross? She’s 7

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gamerchick · 19/03/2026 21:49

I think it's more weird that she came and told you she had hunted them down and ate them all. It sounds like she doesn't know how to regulate her impulses and id probably try and get to the bottom of it before she turns into a teen and has her own money.

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Imissmusic · 19/03/2026 21:47

Bushmillsbabe · 19/03/2026 21:40

This! My mum used to hide food, was very strict that was 1 small piece of cake on a Sunday only. My Dad used to secret eat after she went to bed, I found his stash and used to secret eat too - I still do in my 40's. I do not hide food, I leave in plain site if get given a box of chocolates, but I will say to the girls that it is mummy's present and they need to ask if they want some. Then there is a mixture of healthy and less healthy snacks in the cupboard, they know it's 1 less healthy one per day except for special occasions, but at 7 and 10 they are old enough to monitor this themselves.

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Sorry you went through that but i’m not strict at all

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Imissmusic · 19/03/2026 21:46

WhatAMarvelousTune · 19/03/2026 21:38

Yeah I’d be cross. And I’m surprised so many people are saying OP needs to hide it better - I don’t hide food from my nearly 7 yr old. She knows not to eat entire packets of biscuits!

This is it I think…as a child I just didn’t do that, probably wanted to but knew I just couldn’t eat everything, i’d ask but probably wouldn’t get extra

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ISpyNoPlumPie · 19/03/2026 21:46

Yeah I’d be livid if it were my 7yo. But I find this a little strange. I know kids are all different but neither of mine would ever take anything that they hadn’t be given or been given permission to take. They’d even ask for an apple out of the fridge. They would never rummage through cupboards. I find that behaviour and the lack of impulse control unusual at 7. I once found my youngest eating his way through his advent calendar but he was 2 at the time!

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Imissmusic · 19/03/2026 21:44

Velumental · 19/03/2026 21:38

Why are you so bothered by her eating? And so aware of the food in that way? My youngest will head off with a packet of cream crackers or rich tea biscuits at 4 if they're left sitting out but I just roll my eyes and put them back in the cupboard. She loves biscuits.

You seem to have gotten into food as a battle with her, do you have eating issues?

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No eating issues at all but not particularly happy with her eating packets of biscuits..is that weird?

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HeyThereDelila · 19/03/2026 21:44

Don’t make a big deal of this. I’d tell her biscuits aren’t to be eaten all in one go. My 6 year old DS wouldn’t eat a whole packet, but would definitely sneak 2/3 when I’d said to wait for dinner etc.

You need to allow treat foods in the house else she’ll get food issues, but also say it’s 1-2 after school etc not a whole pack ot you’ll stop buying them.

firstofallimadelight · 19/03/2026 21:43

I’d be cross she took them without asking. I’d be clear if she wants a back she asks or there’s a consequence she can’t just take what she wants

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Imissmusic · 19/03/2026 21:42

Velumental · 19/03/2026 21:36

Ok, then why wasn't he supervising if the biscuits are a big deal?

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He was supervising but I can imagine she ran into the kitchen and wolfed them
all and thought it was funny. He had no idea where they were or that there were more most likely

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Franjipanl8r · 19/03/2026 21:41

I’ve always scoffed biscuits. I can’t just eat one or two, it has to be most of a packet at once. The issue is simply fixed by rarely buying them.

HoppityBun · 19/03/2026 21:41

WhatAMarvelousTune · 19/03/2026 21:38

Yeah I’d be cross. And I’m surprised so many people are saying OP needs to hide it better - I don’t hide food from my nearly 7 yr old. She knows not to eat entire packets of biscuits!

Agree 💯. It’s bananas to let a child think she can forage for food without asking and then wolf doesn’t a what packet of biscuits.

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Imissmusic · 19/03/2026 21:40

stealthninjamum · 19/03/2026 21:34

I would be cross, she can’t just help herself to anything. She’s deprived everyone in the house. When she’s a teenager you don’t want to have to hide your beauty products because she helps herself to anything. I wouldn’t turn it into a ‘biscuits are bad for you conversation’ but about not taking things that aren’t hers.

Yes it’s more that and that she knew they were put away for tomorrow/another day and for other people to have

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Velumental · 19/03/2026 21:40

Imissmusic · 19/03/2026 21:39

She has things when out at the cafe, her dad brings something home on a Friday night, we bake and have things at the weekend, she gets something if we go food shopping. Treats haven’t been made a big deal of or an issue, I just can’t get any and leave them casually out or in the cupboard as she eats them all 😬

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But you HAVE made them treats. You've placed value on them as different to just food. Once you do that they are a prize and that fuels binging on them. You need to rethink your attitude to food I thinj

Bushmillsbabe · 19/03/2026 21:40

TheyreAllLikeThat · 19/03/2026 21:30

It sounds like your strictness about food, hiding food etc is causing issues. Relax the rules a bit and she won’t see this food as a big deal. You’re going to potentially make her have a bad relationship with food if you continue.

This! My mum used to hide food, was very strict that was 1 small piece of cake on a Sunday only. My Dad used to secret eat after she went to bed, I found his stash and used to secret eat too - I still do in my 40's. I do not hide food, I leave in plain site if get given a box of chocolates, but I will say to the girls that it is mummy's present and they need to ask if they want some. Then there is a mixture of healthy and less healthy snacks in the cupboard, they know it's 1 less healthy one per day except for special occasions, but at 7 and 10 they are old enough to monitor this themselves.

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Imissmusic · 19/03/2026 21:39

sploshsplash · 19/03/2026 21:34

Unfortunately I feel like this is the result of making treat food such a big deal.

She has things when out at the cafe, her dad brings something home on a Friday night, we bake and have things at the weekend, she gets something if we go food shopping. Treats haven’t been made a big deal of or an issue, I just can’t get any and leave them casually out or in the cupboard as she eats them all 😬

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WhatAMarvelousTune · 19/03/2026 21:38

Yeah I’d be cross. And I’m surprised so many people are saying OP needs to hide it better - I don’t hide food from my nearly 7 yr old. She knows not to eat entire packets of biscuits!

Velumental · 19/03/2026 21:38

Imissmusic · 19/03/2026 21:33

Good, she eats fairly well but would eat everything junk if I bought it and all in almost one go, that’s why I can’t get a lot

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Why are you so bothered by her eating? And so aware of the food in that way? My youngest will head off with a packet of cream crackers or rich tea biscuits at 4 if they're left sitting out but I just roll my eyes and put them back in the cupboard. She loves biscuits.

You seem to have gotten into food as a battle with her, do you have eating issues?

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Imissmusic · 19/03/2026 21:37

mynameiscalypso · 19/03/2026 21:32

Why do you hide food? It doesn’t sound like it’s the first time.

Eats it all in one go

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Imissmusic · 19/03/2026 21:37

TheJoyousHiker · 19/03/2026 21:32

I wouldn’t be cross but would have a think why she might have eaten them - would it because there’s so seldom biscuits, crisps, etc in the house ? Do you make a thing out of not having them in the house and what a treat it is to have them ? You mention hiding them away - why would that be ? You know there’s no harm in a biscuit or some other sort of sweet food item once a day if they have a balanced diet, exercise, etc.

Yes but she eats the whole pack, if there’s bday cake, she eats it all day etc

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FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 19/03/2026 21:37

Cross no, concerned that she'd looked everywhere to find and eat them? Yes.
Perhaps by not just having this kind of food in the house you are making it into a big deal.

Velumental · 19/03/2026 21:36

Imissmusic · 19/03/2026 21:30

She was downstairs with Dh, I had a shower then called her up for bedtime

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Ok, then why wasn't he supervising if the biscuits are a big deal?

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Imissmusic · 19/03/2026 21:35

TheyreAllLikeThat · 19/03/2026 21:30

It sounds like your strictness about food, hiding food etc is causing issues. Relax the rules a bit and she won’t see this food as a big deal. You’re going to potentially make her have a bad relationship with food if you continue.

She eats a fair amount of chocolate, cake, crisps etc but I hid them because if left out she just eats the entire pack

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stealthninjamum · 19/03/2026 21:34

I would be cross, she can’t just help herself to anything. She’s deprived everyone in the house. When she’s a teenager you don’t want to have to hide your beauty products because she helps herself to anything. I wouldn’t turn it into a ‘biscuits are bad for you conversation’ but about not taking things that aren’t hers.

sploshsplash · 19/03/2026 21:34

Unfortunately I feel like this is the result of making treat food such a big deal.

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Imissmusic · 19/03/2026 21:33

PickledElectricity · 19/03/2026 21:29

I wouldn't be cross, but you clearly are.

What's the rest of the family diet like?

Good, she eats fairly well but would eat everything junk if I bought it and all in almost one go, that’s why I can’t get a lot

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mynameiscalypso · 19/03/2026 21:32

Why do you hide food? It doesn’t sound like it’s the first time.