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My nearly 4 year old doesn’t want to do nursery activities like dancing

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aidontknow · 19/03/2026 20:02

they had a Christmas play and he just stood there, picking his nose and putting his hands down his trousers at the back.

we had a Mother’s Day thing and he just sat there, refusing to sing or participate.

I have now been sent a video of them doing head, shoulders knees and toes and he’s just sitting there - then lies down at some point.

Is this normal ??

he’s bright and chatty and seems to have friends etc. nursery don’t have major concerns about him really, but I just think it’s a bit sad or are some kids just like this ?

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Thesnailonthewhale · 19/03/2026 20:05

Velumental · 19/03/2026 20:03

Some kids are just like this, however all the kids I know who are just like this have gone on to be diagnosed with autism including my eldest

How many kids are in your sample...?

I sat through dozens of nurseries and primary school performances.... It's really normal for kids to not always be engaged or interested in the show.

aidontknow · 19/03/2026 20:05

He used to be take part when he was younger - 2 and 2 and a half.

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Thesnailonthewhale · 19/03/2026 20:04

Very normal.

Remember...he's 3... Three.

Velumental · 19/03/2026 20:03

Some kids are just like this, however all the kids I know who are just like this have gone on to be diagnosed with autism including my eldest

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