To think male posters get a hard time on MN?

Men posting fine. It's the ones who mansplain and sadly many do that are tiresome.

Meh, men still rule most of the world. I don’t think it’ll do any significant damage for a very small number to receive a “hard time” in a female majority forum. There are many many places on the internet they have total control.

Of course the response will be different, because they are coming from women with a woman's perspective. Which in both cases will be what the OP is seeking having posted on a woman's forum.
A man asking a bunch of women why his wife doesn't want sex with him is surely expecting those women to put themselves in her shoes and advise accordingly, whereas a woman posting to other women will be typically seeking support and empathy. So the comparison doesn't hold.
A better way to assess if MN is harsh when advising the opposite sex, would be to compare the responses a man got from women on here with the responses a woman got on a male forum posting this problem.

Also, in my experience, some of the most insidious behaviour I’ve dealt with (often at work) has come from men who present themselves as very “pro-women” or feminist, for example, taking up space at women in tech events, inserting themselves into women’s networking groups, or loudly advocating for equality while undermining women behind the scenes (like trying to get someone in trouble shortly after returning from mat leave). I think that probably shapes how I view men posting on here, fairly or not!

I’m not some frothing-at-the-mouth man hater by any means, but I’ll be honest, I do privately eye roll a bit when I see a man has started or replied to a thread on here, just because it slightly changes the feel of the space. There are so few female-only spaces both in real life and online.

I know Mumsnet says it’s a space for everyone, but the reality is most users are women and it’s always felt like a women-led space.

And while there’s plenty of lighthearted, interesting stuff on here for anyone to read and contribute to, a lot of the most active threads are women asking for help with really sensitive things— relationship problems, issues with partners or their children’s fathers, sex, or even situations like leaving a difficult or unsafe relationship.

I suppose my question is why some men feel the need to insert themselves into those kinds of discussions?

For me, it just feels easier to speak openly when I think I’m talking to other women. It’s not about attacking men, just about the kind of space I’m more comfortable in.

There are also quite a few 'Why won't my husband have sex with me?' threads posted by women, though.

The difference in responses is incredible.

When a man posts that his wife won't have sex with her, the replies are generally themed around:

• You probably don't do any housework or childcare
• You can't expect her to have any interest in you now that you've got kids, you're not important any more
• Leave her alone, she's not an object, if she doesn't want sex ever again you'll just have to have a wank (but not to porn and not when she's in the house)
• You probably don't do enough to make yourself attractive
• You probably aren't very good at sex
• You don't understand women's hormones, it's completely normal and reasonable for a woman to find sex repellent the moment they hit perimenopause, and so what if she's only 27, she should still be peri
• She's got a job and a child so she's probably too exhausted for a sex in a way that you as a man, despite also having a job and a child, could not possibly be
• Haha, poor little man, are we supposed to feel sorry for you just because she won't touch your sad little willy, fuck off

When I woman posts that her husband won't have sex with her, the replies are generally themed around:

• He's probably a porn addict, he'll be too busy looking at videos of underage trafficked girls being choked
• He's been masturbating incorrectly, the stupid fool, now it's the only way he can get off
• He can't expect you to agree to a sexless marriage, just leave him
• He's having an affair, trust your gut
• He's probably gay
• Or it's porn
• Did we mention it's porn
• Porn

Meh

Yep. It’s like AIBU to expect a blow job in exchange for loading the dishwasher or wanting a bloody medal for looking after their one kids for an hour

I've heard of him because his name comes up so frequently on threads discussing whether men should be on MN. And on this one I guess thats down to me! 😊

Yep. And we're all like 'leave her alone ya dirty fucker. Go have a wank'.

You wonder why they don't get the hint?!

The really annoying aspect of those is that they're always called something like 'How to understand my wife better' or 'How can I get my wife to communicate with me?' but certainly a significant number could simply be renamed 'What do I have to do to get my wife to have more sex?'

I always wonder what motivates men to post on a site called mumsnet.

I found this place after starting IVF about ten years ago. I was doing research and mumsnet threads always popped up so started reading them. Found the resources and advice on here way more helpful then what I was getting from the actual fertility clinics. Eventually registered so I could ask specific questions and people were really helpful. Ended up running down the AIBU rabbithole and kind of stayed here.

Yeah they shouldn't even really be in certain places on here. And when they make a thread it's always about how their wife doesn't want enough sex.

There was a time when there were quite a few men posting things along the line of 'I'm really, really wonderful, my wife isn't nearly good enough so I'm cheating/I'm thinking about cheating don't you all think that's perfectly reasonable?' I even remember one where a bloke was bragging that he'd been sleeping with men behind his wife's back through their whole relationship.

I always wonder what motivates men to post on a site called mumsnet. I believe the sex topic is particularly popular.

Sometimes it's fine or you wouldn't even know, sometimes women ask for a man's perspective, often I wish they'd just piss of to Reddit and let women have their own space.

The only times I have heard of Piglet John is in reverence over his supposed DIY skills. Odd really given that pretty much every aspect of DIY can be found on YouTube with easy to follow step by step guides.

Actually I find the opposite. A man only has to show up and be polite and vaguely supportive of women and he receives way more attention on the thread than other posters, more likely to be quoted and told what a great guy he sounds.
There was a bloke who'd post these long monologues about his life as a dad to test reactions for his book and honestly you'd have thought he was Oscar Wilde the fuss that was made of him. Then that Piglet John guy. I've never read a post from him myself, yet he must be one of the most spoken of posters on here. I've never seen a woman poster singled out like that.

No I do not

Practically the rest of the internet caters for their needs and egos so I do not care if they wonder on her and feel unwelcome

Yabu, they're fine

I don’t like it. I come on here to discuss with other women - the clue is in the name!

After starting off saying what a great husband and father they are and how they do their fair share of the chores.

It depends. There are some lovely men on here who post constructively.
However the ‘man here’ ones who announce themselves as such before launching into an explanation of why their opinion is so important deserve the eye rolling.

And there are at least 2 regular male posters than I’m aware of whose comments literally drip with misogyny. 1 in particular is constantly on the relationship boards lecturing women on why they shouldn’t hade any standards or boundaries.

Quite a lot of them on YouTube, of course they aren't called Incel Boards, but that's pretty much what they are.
Very difficult world we live in, both men and women seem to be full of hatred and being "hard done by" over past years.

As a comparison, I once spent a fair amount of time on a now-defunct male oriented forum.

On here, I have been called a cunt, a moron, an idiot, a terrible terrible person, a fucking weirdo and one person once said she couldn't believe I had children because I was so awful. (Topics were things like boudoir photography, reclining seats on aeroplanes and gardening, if you're wondering.) Very nice.

But on the male forum I was called similar and worse, threatened with rape and death on more than one occasion and one man tried to locate me in real life. They also seemed to think that the absolute worst thing they could call me was fat and sexually unattractive to men.

They weren't all like that, of course, in fact I am now real life friends with a couple of them, and most of them were decent. But if I'm going to compare the worst with the worst of each, then I know where things bottomed out.

Which Incel boards are these? Im not on ticktok or Instagram so kind of not tuned into the stuff Louis Therouix was documenting!

This

Men often expect women they’re not even related to to provide emotional support and this site attracts that type of man. I’m not doing any more work for them.

Plus they invariably write stupidly overlong first posts.