To think male posters get a hard time on MN?

Rapists, Child Abusers, Domestic Abusers, Violent Criminals, Drug Dealers. Murderers, Muggers etc … it’s majority Men every time.

97% of young women sexually harrassed
71% of women of all ages harrassed
25% of adult women sexually assaulted

That’s why men get a hard time…

I think posters are generally hostile to most people who post to be fair!!

Just an observation. Whenever there’s a comment on a thread or a thread started by a man it seems to be viewed with suspicion or the poster gets a hard time/is always disagreed with etc. It seems some MNers are pretty hostile towards men on the site. Made me wonder, what do you think of men who post on here?

I agree, it would be a terrible world and a sad website if we restricted users to one sex.
Some posters need to remember, in the words of @Gloriia , MN users like men!

Latest stats from AI -
Based on recent traffic analysis, Mumsnet's audience consists of approximately 27.2% male users, while 72.8% are female.
While the platform is primarily targeted towards parents and is popular among women, the user base is not exclusively female, with men making up over a quarter of the audience in 2026 data.

MN HQ are adamant that Mumsnet is open to all. I think 20+% of users are men. There is a myth promoted by some posters that it is for women only. Not true

https://www.mumsnet.com/i/netiquette

Note it says open to ALL. Posters who are persistently anti men should be reported.

I think the problem is that when someone asks a question about men or a man, and all the replies are from women, the OP can be left with a massively skewed and unhelpful impression. There are so many threads on here where I see other women very confidently advising an OP about men based on zero real insight into them. In fact, on a lot of threads, some genuine male perspectives would be very useful if the OP actually wants to understand or solve their problem (rather than just saying ‘my husband’s shit’ and having lots of people validating her).

The same would apply in reverse. If a man had a relationship problem and wanted to try and solve it, I’m sure we’d all roll our eyes and think “Your male friends don’t have a clue about women, you need to speak some actual women about this”. And we’d be right. I think it’s a positive thing for men to ask women for advice about women. And vice versa.

Don’t get me wrong, I think some male posters are absolutely awful. I can think of one in particular who is a weird, contrarian little incel-adjacent office bore who is clearly massively threatened by women. He’s an uptight prick. I have no time for men like that turning up and they can fuck off. But I also see men posting in good faith looking for genuine advice from women because they would value a female perspective, and I think those men do often get some truly vile replies - particularly on the rare occasions when a man is clearly being abused by a female partner.

And this exactly what I mean. Blanket judgements based on stereotypes that don’t actually help the OP at all.

A couple of women asked this on the male oriented forum I mentioned earlier, and while there were some sensible and sensitive responses, several of them suggested the husbands were gay (with varying degrees of respect) and there was plenty of "you must be fat", "your vagina must stink" and "have you tried doing absolutely all the housework and childcare while paying 50% of everything and being permanently available whenever he wants without any desires of your own".

Does that help?

Tbf it often is a black and white as this.

Men will have sex with anyone given the opportunity so if they don't want sex with their dp it will be becaue they are getting it elsewhere either irl or via porn whereas with women we need to feel connected and loved generally to want it.

She yes men get off pornhub and wash up would be my top tip .

Of course the response will be different, because they are coming from women with a woman's perspective. Which in both cases will be what the OP is seeking having posted on a woman's forum.
A man asking a bunch of women why his wife doesn't want sex with him is surely expecting those women to put themselves in her shoes and advise accordingly, whereas a woman posting to other women will be typically seeking support and empathy. So the comparison doesn't hold.
A better way to assess if MN is harsh when advising the opposite sex, would be to compare the responses a man got from women on here with the responses a woman got on a male forum posting this problem.

I don't think so. I've been on here better part of 20 years and have very rarely gotten a hard time.

I can think of twice I hady arse absolutely handed to me, and both times I've absolutely deserved it. Most of the time though, I'm treated just like any woman on here.

There are also quite a few 'Why won't my husband have sex with me?' threads posted by women, though.

The difference in responses is incredible.

When a man posts that his wife won't have sex with her, the replies are generally themed around:

• You probably don't do any housework or childcare
• You can't expect her to have any interest in you now that you've got kids, you're not important any more
• Leave her alone, she's not an object, if she doesn't want sex ever again you'll just have to have a wank (but not to porn and not when she's in the house)
• You probably don't do enough to make yourself attractive
• You probably aren't very good at sex
• You don't understand women's hormones, it's completely normal and reasonable for a woman to find sex repellent the moment they hit perimenopause, and so what if she's only 27, she should still be peri
• She's got a job and a child so she's probably too exhausted for a sex in a way that you as a man, despite also having a job and a child, could not possibly be
• Haha, poor little man, are we supposed to feel sorry for you just because she won't touch your sad little willy, fuck off

When I woman posts that her husband won't have sex with her, the replies are generally themed around:

• He's probably a porn addict, he'll be too busy looking at videos of underage trafficked girls being choked
• He's been masturbating incorrectly, the stupid fool, now it's the only way he can get off
• He can't expect you to agree to a sexless marriage, just leave him
• He's having an affair, trust your gut
• He's probably gay
• Or it's porn
• Did we mention it's porn
• Porn

There are also quite a few 'Why won't my husband have sex with me?' threads posted by women, though.

The difference in responses is incredible.

When a man posts that his wife won't have sex with her, the replies are generally themed around:

• You probably don't do any housework or childcare
• You can't expect her to have any interest in you now that you've got kids, you're not important any more
• Leave her alone, she's not an object, if she doesn't want sex ever again you'll just have to have a wank (but not to porn and not when she's in the house)
• You probably don't do enough to make yourself attractive
• You probably aren't very good at sex
• You don't understand women's hormones, it's completely normal and reasonable for a woman to find sex repellent the moment they hit perimenopause, and so what if she's only 27, she should still be peri
• She's got a job and a child so she's probably too exhausted for a sex in a way that you as a man, despite also having a job and a child, could not possibly be
• Haha, poor little man, are we supposed to feel sorry for you just because she won't touch your sad little willy, fuck off

When I woman posts that her husband won't have sex with her, the replies are generally themed around:

• He's probably a porn addict, he'll be too busy looking at videos of underage trafficked girls being choked
• He's been masturbating incorrectly, the stupid fool, now it's the only way he can get off
• He can't expect you to agree to a sexless marriage, just leave him
• He's having an affair, trust your gut
• He's probably gay
• Or it's porn
• Did we mention it's porn
• Porn

Men posting fine. It's the ones who mansplain and sadly many do that are tiresome.