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To still be angry 3 days later…

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Somethingintheheavens · 19/03/2026 05:58

I’m not even sure if I’m angry or if I’m still upset tbh.

I Have a golden retriever who is 2, they have a very rare medical disorder that took us nearly a year and nearly 10k to be diagnosed (thankfully they have very very good insurance).

Anyway after several different interventions we finally have a diagnosis (sort of, as it’s rare they don’t have a name for it but we know what the condition is and therefore now how to treat it, as a result she now has the medication and treatment - practically healthy - if she doesn’t have her medication she loses control of her back legs and is in significant pain.

her insurance has now ran out so I’m paying for the meds out of pocket for 3 months (most of the money was used up on MRI’s etc) - I went to her vets on Monday and got her new meds for the month - £390!! I had no idea they were that expensive as previously it had all been on insurance.

I paid and then got into the car and burst into tears - I don’t have £400 a month! And I sat there realising that after everything she’s been through, despite now being a ‘normal’ healthy dog, I might have to put her to sleep because I won’t have her back in the pain she was in before.

I then googled the prices of her meds - the medication that they had charged me £300 for a month is 15p a tablet (she is on 3 different types of mediation)

£15 for 100 tablets which is what she needed.

I went back into the vets (looking like an absolute wreck at this point) and demanded a refund, arranged a private prescription and the meds were delivered yesterday.

But I’m still seething. I have spent an absolute fortune (well the insurance company has) with these vets - I feel so let down and angry over it.

i knew meds were more expensive via the vets but that is insane - and now I am left with all those emotions (despite the situation being resolved) and I don’t know how to let go of it.

so AIBU to still be so so angry? And if so, what do I do to get rid of it?

OP posts:
Crazyfrog44 · 19/03/2026 06:20

the vets might not have the choice. They can be tied into contacts and HAVE to charge that price. They should, however, have advised you of this and told you how to get a private prescription.

Zanatdy · 19/03/2026 06:19

It’s always worth looking at a private prescription if paying out of pocket. I can get my dogs glaucoma meds from the pharmacy, as they are human grade, cheaper to pay the vet to write the prescription. Thankfully my dog is insured as he’s had so many health issues over the years. It’s such a worry but glad he is doing well. Hope your pooch remains healthy.

Buildingthefuture · 19/03/2026 06:13

I completely understand your anger op, I’ve been there. It’s dreadful the way SOME vets charge such massively inflated margins and it feels worse because of your emotional involvement - it’s not like being over changed for your car!
To overcome your anger, I’d look at what you actually did. You did not accept that you couldn’t afford this and your dog would have to suffer or be PTS. Even in the middle of all the stress, you got your shit together, went back in, and sorted it. You should be massively proud of yourself for advocating for you and your dog.
And, it goes without saying, but change vet. Is it a chain? I do find them to be far, far more expensive than independents.

InterestedDad37 · 19/03/2026 06:09

To help dissipate your anger, you could channel your thoughts into thanking the gods that we don't (yet) in this country apply this health model to people.
Wishing your pooch well.