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Anti valuers are dumb and pathetic

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Beautifulsiro56 · 18/03/2026 23:39

Anti-vaxxers shouldn’t even consider having children until they develop a basic sense of responsibility.

I’m beyond frustrated hearing about measles outbreaks again and again. I fully understand that some parents genuinely cannot vaccinate their children using live vaccines due to legitimate medical conditions that weaken the immune system, but outside of those rare cases, there is no excuse apart from being totally and utterly DUMB and people that are do dumb and irresponsible should not be reproducing..

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Ihatetomatoes · 20/03/2026 13:02

randomchap · 20/03/2026 11:59

But you don't need to study science, as long as you trust those who have.

I know nothing about how a theatre works for example, but if a stage manager was to explain something to me, I'd listen to them rather than some grifter on the Internet

Agreed you don't if you trust the experts in the field. The scientists that have spent years working in the area of immunology, vaccines and disease prevention.

However, many of those against vaccines don't trust the experts in the field, they trust snake oil salesmen who push books that play to their fears. Often they also believe some randoms on Tic Toc or YouTube when they rant on the subject (Russell Brand anyone) followed by many who don't appear to understand the rubbish he rants.

Ihatetomatoes · 20/03/2026 12:58

battairzeedurgzome · 20/03/2026 11:56

The response from someone who hasn't studied to a higher level.

Or any level, so far as the sciences are concerned.

Highly likely. Any old fool can write a book. If it appeals to people that don't understand the subject matter and are scared of vaccines; it will fly off the shelves making money for the author, whomever that was.

Then the poster with cheesy feet suggests a book written by an anonoymous author that has been debunked as evidence. Also suggests reading further get's expensive - that's because these anti vax pushers profit from selling books to individuals who have become terrified of vaccines to the extent that they don't allow their own children to be protected from diseases that they themselves would have been protected from when children. Make it make sense.

randomchap · 20/03/2026 11:59

battairzeedurgzome · 20/03/2026 11:56

The response from someone who hasn't studied to a higher level.

Or any level, so far as the sciences are concerned.

But you don't need to study science, as long as you trust those who have.

I know nothing about how a theatre works for example, but if a stage manager was to explain something to me, I'd listen to them rather than some grifter on the Internet

battairzeedurgzome · 20/03/2026 11:56

Ihatetomatoes · 19/03/2026 14:20

I just asked you to back up your claims with evidence. The teenage type reply 'find it yourself lazybones' speaks for itself. You have no evidence to back up your claims.

Pretty typical really. The response from someone who hasn't studied to a higher level.

The response from someone who hasn't studied to a higher level.

Or any level, so far as the sciences are concerned.

youbizarrehorse · 20/03/2026 11:52

AgentPidge · 20/03/2026 11:03

There were a few posts here on MN back in the day from mothers whose young DC had been very ill, and ones who seemed to regress - lost speech, for example, when previously they had been progressing well.
These are anecdotal, of course, but they do give you pause for thought when you're about to take your healthy child for a jab.

Oh yes, 2+2=5. Something happening around the time of having a vaccine doesn’t mean it was caused by it. But I do, of course, understand the worry. I’m from a generation who remembers children going deaf from measles and needing to walk with the aid of calipers due to polio. So I think that, while I understand parents’ concerns, the best place to find answers is from scientific research publications rather than Joe Blow on the internet, where many people appear to be turning for their information these days.

Owlbookend · 20/03/2026 11:47

AgentPidge · 20/03/2026 11:03

There were a few posts here on MN back in the day from mothers whose young DC had been very ill, and ones who seemed to regress - lost speech, for example, when previously they had been progressing well.
These are anecdotal, of course, but they do give you pause for thought when you're about to take your healthy child for a jab.

I would hope that the information i posted about encephalitis, SSPE and death resulting from measles gives parents pause for thought if they choose not to vaccinate their children against this disease. This information is based on rigourous peer reviewed research not anecdotes posted on a chat forum.

AgentPidge · 20/03/2026 11:03

youbizarrehorse · 19/03/2026 00:56

Has this happened to you? Or someone you know? It’s extremely rare.

There were a few posts here on MN back in the day from mothers whose young DC had been very ill, and ones who seemed to regress - lost speech, for example, when previously they had been progressing well.
These are anecdotal, of course, but they do give you pause for thought when you're about to take your healthy child for a jab.

GardeningMummy · 20/03/2026 11:02

Butchyrestingface · 20/03/2026 10:45

Not that I agree with anti-vaxxers, but what an unfortunate typo in the headline of a thread dedicated to calling people with dissenting views, "dumb and pathetic". Grin

A typo is nothing to do with intelligence….

GardeningMummy · 20/03/2026 11:00

It’s usually people with more than average empty space between their ears, if you know what I mean……

randomchap · 20/03/2026 10:55

Wonderknicks · 20/03/2026 10:43

That's weird, because I was in a clinical trial of the vaccines.

So was I. The Novavax one

Butchyrestingface · 20/03/2026 10:45

Not that I agree with anti-vaxxers, but what an unfortunate typo in the headline of a thread dedicated to calling people with dissenting views, "dumb and pathetic". Grin

Wonderknicks · 20/03/2026 10:43

MrFluffyDogIsMyBestFriend · 19/03/2026 15:26

It still wasn't tested on humans and you know full well it wasn't. That can't be rushed through...

That's weird, because I was in a clinical trial of the vaccines.

Owlbookend · 20/03/2026 10:39

A local population survey in Germany showed that children under 5 who had measles had a 1 in 1700 to 1 in 3300 chance of developing SSPE. Children under the age of 3 faced a nearly twofold increased risk. In California, children under 5 had a 1 in 1367 risk, and those under the age of 1 had a 1 in 607 risk of postmeasles SSPE (Mekki et al. 2019).

Read upthread about whst SSPE is. Vaccination prevents measles. If you choose to vaccinate you can reduce the risk of SSPE post vaccination to almost 0.

Subacute Sclerosing Panencephalitis: Impact on Public Health, Current Insights, and Future Perspectives - PMC

Subacute Sclerosing Panencephalitis (SSPE) is a rare complication of the measles infection. SSPE is a chronic disease of the central nervous system (CNS) that causes encephalitis, leading to the demyelination of neurons in the brain. It affects the ...

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11808179/#brb370292-bib-0033

PaperMachePanda · 20/03/2026 10:38

randomchap · 20/03/2026 10:37

Wrong thread?

Oh yes sorry haha

randomchap · 20/03/2026 10:37

PaperMachePanda · 20/03/2026 10:34

Ignore this, posted on wrong thread.

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Wrong thread?

PaperMachePanda · 20/03/2026 10:34

Ignore this, posted on wrong thread.

Owlbookend · 20/03/2026 10:24

I would absolutely agree that it helps no one to label people who do not give their children vaccines dumb, stupid etc. Nobody ever hears this and thinks 'yes - I have been stupid i must go out and vacinate my child'. Instead it angers people, they feel persecuted and they stop listening.

However, there is no doubt that scientific evidence supports the UK childhood vaccination schedule. The benefits of standard childhood vaccines far, far outweigh the risks. If you have concerns discuss them with your GP who has years of medical training and can access your child's nedical records. They are best placed to advise you.

I do not apologise for post this information about measles again.

A child with measles will have to spend about five days in bed and could miss two weeks of school. Even in wealthier countries such as the UK, around one in every 15 children with measles will develop more serious complications.
These can include:
ear infection (otitis media) in about 8% of measles cases (about 1 in 12 people)
pneumonia in up to 6% of measles cases (up to 1 in 16 people
diarrhoea in about 8% of measles cases (about 1 in 12 people)
encephalitis (inflammation of the brain): 1 case for every 1000-2000 cases of measles. Encephalitis can lead to permanent brain damage.
In countries like the UK, measles causes death in about 1 in 5000 cases.
In rare cases, measles can lead to a condition called SSPE (subacute sclerosing panencephalitis). SSPE is a persistent viral infection, a devastating complication of measles which leads to a progressive destruction of the central nervous system. Symptoms can develop years after the initial infection. It results in dementia, loss of motor control, epilepsy and eventually death.

Vaccines protect children from these side effects. They prevent deaths and lifelong disabilities.

youbizarrehorse · 20/03/2026 00:22

Labelledelune · 19/03/2026 20:39

It’s not ‘extremely’ as rare as you think. I’m not an anti vaxxer as you are calling it, but I won’t have a covid shot as they told my son that his boys were in no uncertain terms to get it ( both have cystic fibroses) that was enough information for me.

I didn’t call anyone an anti vaxxer. And I’m not sure I understand what you mean about your grandchildren with Cystic Fibrosis. It is recommended that children who are physically vulnerable or immunosuppressed have the Covid vaccine. Why would that advice stop you from having it?

Cerezo · 19/03/2026 23:03

“Anti vax folk are all Morons” is the same as “all brexit voters are racist”.

I mean the Venn diagrams for anti vaxxer/moron and brexit/racist are pretty close together; but they fundamentally also show a dissatisfaction with the current system to meet their needs, and that I can empathise with even if I think those people are being misled by charlatans.

Additup · 19/03/2026 22:53

Frequency · 19/03/2026 21:26

I think the difference is that one "point of view" is backed up by decades of medical studies, and supported by people who have studied disease and vaccines for decades, while the other is backed up by YouTubers who have a loose grip on reality.

It's not so much one POV vs another as it is fact vs fiction. I have no respect for anyone who believes their "research" makes them more qualified than scientists and medical professionals who have spent their entire adult lives studying one topic.

You wouldn't trust some randomer on the dark web to perform surgery on your child, yet thousands are willing to trust their children's lives, and the lives of those unable to be vaccinated through no fault of their own, to randomers on the internet. It would be funny if it weren't so dangerous.

I'm not thinking of people who use YouTube for medical advice though. I think when you think of anti vaxers and when I think of anti vaxers we're considering 2 different types of people.

You see all anti vaxers as the sort of people who learn about the world through YouTube, tictok etc which I agree is unhealthy in all sorts of ways, not just for health advice.

I imagine many, not all anti vaxers are people who are worried and scared to do the wrong thing for their and their children's health. The reason they are scared is because of past experience such as pandemrix, government mandates, well documented issues with the covid vax and lack of understanding about these concerns.

I don't believe that all anti vaxers think in the same way or have the same motivation. That's what I mean by different points of view.

Drippingfeed · 19/03/2026 22:41

Beautifulsiro56 · 18/03/2026 23:39

Anti-vaxxers shouldn’t even consider having children until they develop a basic sense of responsibility.

I’m beyond frustrated hearing about measles outbreaks again and again. I fully understand that some parents genuinely cannot vaccinate their children using live vaccines due to legitimate medical conditions that weaken the immune system, but outside of those rare cases, there is no excuse apart from being totally and utterly DUMB and people that are do dumb and irresponsible should not be reproducing..

True but I think you need to ask MNHQ to edit your header...

JohnofWessex · 19/03/2026 22:35

Many years ago now one of the Scandinavian countries conducted a risk/benefit analysis of vaccines.

I understand that it came down very strongly in favour of vaccination but I have no idea where to find it.

LadyFlumpalot · 19/03/2026 22:33

I’m allergic to penicillin. If I took it I would be very ill or could die. Would that mean that all antibiotics are bad and no one should take them, or just that I, a singular person, had a bad reaction to one particular type.

Vaccines themselves are not bad, but doubtless some people will have reactions to them. Vaccines are responsible for saving millions of lives, as are antibiotics. Just because I’m allergic to one antibiotic doesn’t mean everyone else shouldn’t take them. Just because some people react badly to vaccines doesn’t make them inherently unsafe.

Calendulaaria · 19/03/2026 22:11

Additup · 19/03/2026 20:46

I agree. It's ridiculous and only serves to get people's backs up.

My children all received all their vaccines and some extra private ones but it hasn't stopped another poster accusing me of being anti vax. All because I said I had some sympathy for anti vaxxers because of the pandemrix debacle, covid vax injuries etc. ie some sympathy, I can see why some would feel like that, not I agree with them wholeheartedly.

It's as if some people can't comprehend 2 different views at the same time without short circuiting 😂

Exactly. There's a middle ground and compassion for those who are perhaps injured or metabolise differently and can't have certain shots. It's good to see someone else on here with a more balanced view!