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AIBU to leave tutor and 9-year-old to work at kitchen table?

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Isanybodyouttherehey · 18/03/2026 21:57

How does it work for you?

Due to start 9 year old Ds with a tutor to help with his writing. She will come to our home.
I’m thinking they can work on our kitchen table, I will provide a drink, maybe biscuits, have his work and pencil case ready and disappear to give them some quiet?
Does this sound about right?
Do you chat with your tutor or just let them in and leave them to get on with it?
I’m feeling quite anxious as Ds has some behavioural problems.

This is all new to me.

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Isanybodyouttherehey · 18/03/2026 22:14

lolacherricoke · 18/03/2026 22:11

I drop my son at his tutors, come back 50mons later towards end of lesson. We have a quick debrief and head home. He works better if I am not there, so I would offer a drink and head upstairs to leave them in peace x

Do most people drop at the tutors home? I know she does offer this and I do feel bad about her driving to us and the petrol. I realise teachers don’t get paid much.

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Sunflowermoonbeam · 18/03/2026 22:14

Our tutor arrives, quick chit chat and then leave the tutor and my DC to it while I work upstairs for another hour. I come down 2 or 3 mins before the session ends and potter while they finish up

Sparky888 · 18/03/2026 22:13

Yes they work at our kitchen table. I offer a drink, a quick chat, and then sit in another room with the door open to be on hand if needed. It will go fine I’m sure. With 1:1 input I’ve always been surprised how compliant kids will then be.

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Isanybodyouttherehey · 18/03/2026 22:12

GentlyGentlyOhDear · 18/03/2026 22:10

My DS goes to the tutor's house and we just catch up at the end.
I would just invite in and leave them to it but say you are just next door if she needs.you?
Does she know about the behavioural issues? Maybe ask if she would like you to stay or leave?

She does know, but seems quite laid back about it. Definitely think I should probably make myself scarce.
Should I offer refreshments and have his work and learning things out and ready (he’s not very organised to do himself)

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lolacherricoke · 18/03/2026 22:11

I drop my son at his tutors, come back 50mons later towards end of lesson. We have a quick debrief and head home. He works better if I am not there, so I would offer a drink and head upstairs to leave them in peace x

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Isanybodyouttherehey · 18/03/2026 22:10

2026Y · 18/03/2026 22:09

I don’t but, bumping for you

Oh thanks, due to start tomorrow

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GentlyGentlyOhDear · 18/03/2026 22:10

My DS goes to the tutor's house and we just catch up at the end.
I would just invite in and leave them to it but say you are just next door if she needs.you?
Does she know about the behavioural issues? Maybe ask if she would like you to stay or leave?

2026Y · 18/03/2026 22:09

I don’t but, bumping for you

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Isanybodyouttherehey · 18/03/2026 22:07

Anyone else have a tutor and what’s your routine?
I want to be welcoming and helpful to her

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