AIBU to think this punishment is unreasonable?

Honestly, a face year old snatched flowers - are you seriously nursing a desire for retribution about this? Let it go.

Obviously your daughter got a sanction for hitting someone. School would be remiss if they ignored that - surely you agree?

I can't fathom what the "respectability" of your family has to do with it. Are we supposed to believe their opinions count for more, somehow, than those of the proletariat flower-snatching scum?

(I am being facetious, obviously, but also I think I have a point .....)

Please don't bother the teacher with this pettiness.
I'm sure the other child was corrected for snatching but the school likely has a zero tolerance approach to violence.
You can't expect the be told how the teacher deals with another child, only your own.

In the boxing community?!

OP has confirmed several times on this thread that the flowers were daisies and dandelions.

There does need to be a consequence for hitting so I wouldn't dispute that but on general I would be monitoring going forward because schools enable that shit from boys and then punish girls for reacting.

This.

Floristry.

Email the teacher and tell them your father is VERY well respected, and share his opinion on the situation. Let us know how you get on, won’t you. 😁

Oh, FFS, if a teacher is inclined to leave the profession because she gets a polite reply from a parent asking a reasonable question, the profession is better off without them.

OP, I'd respond saying something along the lines that you completely agree that hitting is not acceptable and you have reinforced this with your child; you hope that the other child has been told that snatching another child's things is equally inappropriate?

Even in a situation where one child hit and another hit back the second child still needs to know it's unacceptable to hit. When one child tells me someone hit them first I say then you move away and tell a grown up you don't hit back.

Hitting back is very nearly as bad as hitting first. Hitting due to other provocation is completely unacceptable and you should be teaching your child this.

No wonder the world is as it is,when so many parents support their child's 'right' to use violence.

I think that punishment is fine. Don't worry about the other kid, worry about yours, in this instance. Coming down hard on hitting and getting physical, sooner rather than later, is a very good idea, and means the message that we keep our hands to ourselves or we suffer severe consequnces is a good one to embed early and unamibiguously. I did with my DD when she was at primary, and unlike the other two little madams involved, mine did not go on to get herself in further trouble for getting physical.

What’s your family well respected for?

'You don't hit people. If you do you will be punished. Adults who hit eachother can go to prison over it. It's no joke. If you hit someone and they fell and knocked their head they could die.

No bunch of daisies is worth that.'

Tell her that.

(I hope they weren't daffodils or something from the school garden?)

Why was your daughter picking flowers unless they were daisies she should know we don’t pick flowers..

YANBU.
I’m an adult, and if someone snatched one of my possessions, or took a project I’m working on off me, I’d hit them and try to get it back if I had the chance!

He started it, she ended it!

He should’ve just been told it served him right and not to snatch in the future and that be the end of it.

I think it’s a bit messed up instead he got the message that a girl will be punished for responding appropriately when he does something bad, and that the girl now may feel less confident standing up for herself in the future.

Now we should be fining just turned 5 year olds who pick daffodils without knowing the botanical and financial repercussions?

Jesus.

She didn’t even pick daffodils anyway 😂

I’m in my 50s and if someone tries to snatch my handbag I’m going to hit them!

Of course it matters! Picking daisies/dandelions is probably more acceptable but picking daffodils is definitely not! Daffodils each have one flower, only flower once a year and are usually planted by councils so funded by the tax payer. It is absolutely not OK to pick them.

Picking daisies/dandelions in my opinion is also inappropriate for a raft of aesthetic and environmental reasons but that's probably more debatable. Daffodils is not debatable, it is illegal - it is actually classed as theft and you could and should be hit with up to a £5k fine.

True, but hitting and snatching flowers are not the same so the punishment needn't be the same. If I snatched a piece of paper form someone at work I'd expect to be verbally challenged on it; if I hit someone at work I'd expect to be sacked. Clearly it's not quite the same with five year olds, but the punishment should still be proportionate

@teamavenof course it makes a huge difference if they’re daffodils. Dandelions and daisies are weeds, which will grow back quickly, daffodils aren’t and will only flower once each year. If all the children picked daffodils, they would all be gone in no time.

Your AIBU was about your daughter's pinishment being too harsh.

And if it were a girl that did the snatching, would you similarly advocate she slap her also?

You are projecting.

Wait. What?! She's picking daffodils?! That's fucking disgraceful! They're planted for everyone to enjoy, not for you/your child to pick. Imagine if every family was that selfish. Please teach her not to do this.