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AIBU to refuse aunt’s FWB claim on her estate?

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Sleepneededprettyplease · 18/03/2026 19:54

I am wondering if I am actually being unreasonable here. I obviously don't think I am but this could end up in court and I am worried.

I am executor for my Aunt's estate. She had no children herself but lived close to me and my sister and always considered us as hers. We actually lived with her for some years. Anyway as she was getting older she decided to sell most of her investments and buy a house in my name as an alternative way of investing hoping to avoid inheritance tax. The intent was always that half the value was my sisters but for other reasons she couldn't be on the deeds.

In the last few years of her life she reconnected with an old uni flame and asked me if he could stay in the house for a bit. I never really considered it mine so felt that if that's what she wanted then of course it should happen. She would visit him some of the time sort of FWB. She went out of her way to tell me that the house was for me and my sister and this changed nothing. She also told me ge wasn't in her will as she wanted us to inherit.

Unfortunately after a fairly short illness (6 months) during which she lived with me she died.

The FWB chap is now claiming he is her dependant and has a right to her estate. My lawyers tell me that legally his case is very weak and if he does contest the will they think that they can get it thrown out without even going to a full hearing as he is refusing to disclose vital information.

Am I in the wrong though? My Aunt would be devastated at the trouble this is causing.

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DameOfThrones · 18/03/2026 20:01

Yes I’m confused as to how a house in your name would have anything to do with her estate?

Hullabmoo · 18/03/2026 20:00

When did your aunt put the house in your name? Surely it’s just your house and nothing to do with her estate?

jollygoose · 18/03/2026 19:59

How dare he!!! Fight for what should belong to you and your sister. He is totally in the wrong

TaxBrain · 18/03/2026 19:59

Did he live with her? If he did then potentially he could have a claim for a life interest in the property. If he didn't live with her, then no chance.

Edited to say if the property was owned by you and not her then it's irrelevant.

DameOfThrones · 18/03/2026 19:59

What makes you think you might be in the wrong?

Hoppinggreen · 18/03/2026 19:58

But the house is yours anyway not part of your Aunts estate isn't it?

Cosyblankets · 18/03/2026 19:57

He's not a FWB he's a CF!

HJ40 · 18/03/2026 19:57

If, as you say, she went out of her way to say the house was still for you, then she obviously thought about it, and didn’t update her will when she could have done, so it seems pretty clear that YANBU.

amber763 · 18/03/2026 19:57

No. What a chancer! Not one penny

myusernamewastakenbyme · 18/03/2026 19:56

No of course you are not wrong....he is chancing his arm...do not give him a penny...your aunt made it clear she hadnt put him in the will.

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