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If potentially seeing your ex husband after 15 years, would you be sure to look good?

31 replies

lettuceeat · 18/03/2026 17:53

As per title, I may see ex husband after 15years, I almost want to look my best but why? I left him!! It's so odd

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HeirOfSlytherin · 18/03/2026 18:04

Of course I would. I left him because he was a cheating cunt. I now see him on the school run every day. Unfortunately for him, he traded down. I traded up massively. Oh, and I'm a whole lot hotter and richer than when I left him. Bitter? Not me 🤣. Just a bit of karma.

Lengokengo · 18/03/2026 17:59

Maybe you want to show that you thrived without him. An outward sign of a successful decision.

i had the chance to see an ex recently at a reunion evening, and even though I have definitely thrived without him, I have put on a lot of weight, which had more bearing on my decision not to go than I would have liked. I definitely don’t have feelings for him, but I would have wanted to show him that I was doing well without him.

BlessicaBlimpson · 18/03/2026 17:59

Yes I would, in an effortless way 😄

Ponderingwindow · 18/03/2026 17:57

I have absolutely no feelings for my ex. I left him. I am happy in my marriage. I am glad he is happy in his life. I would still want to look good if we met up. It would just be a way to show that I am doing well. It would be a way to show that I am succeeding without him and I made the right choice to leave.

I would think it’s akin to wanting to show up to a school reunion looking your best. You want to show all those people how well you have done in life.

Batties · 18/03/2026 17:54

No I wouldn't because I don't care what he thinks of me. The fact that you do suggests there's some feelings still there.

DancingDelli · 18/03/2026 17:54

Hmm I think I would. But I can’t work out why😂