AIBU to not rent a house to our relative?

Why on earth should OP give her money ?

Rent it out and chuck her a few hundred a month so your family cannot get snotty about it. If you rent it to her for nothing or cheap, you will be losing more than a few hundred a month.

Rent to her and she will be there forever and will make your life hell.

The trouble in the family if you say no will be as nothing compared to the trouble this woman will cause you in a tenant/landlord relationship. She’ll make your lives a misery and your hands will be tied because the law is mostly on the side of the tenant. Don’t do it in any capacity and certainly not at a knockdown price or for free.

What is the DC's father (ex partner) doing re. paying and providing for his children's accommodation and all their needs? Is he looking on the open market for a rental for them?
So what is her separation agreement? She needs to get enough to pay rent on the open market.
My experience is that family/relations do not usually expect to pay for something at full value if they can get it from their NOK. That may be why she wants your house - there must be other properties available at the going rate but she thinks she can get a house from you for less.
Also how long would it be for - till the children are 18? How much would you lose?
You will feel pressured to let her have it cheaply - not fair to you and your family.
Tell her you are operating a business with your properties for your pension and old age etc.

I’m a bit late to the party but, FWIW, I think you’re making the right decision.

Unless it’s my parent or child I would feel no obligation to house anyone who’s been an arsehole to me in the past.

I wouldn’t do it , she tries to belittle you whilst out in public about you renting houses.
She is just jealous of you , doesn’t matter what you do she’d try to have a go at you
Plus she woukd be a night as a tenant can you imagine 😡🤦‍♀️

No no no, fuck what the rest of the family think
if asked just say
“ I don’t want to discuss it thank you “. Or
” we decided years back we weren’t ever renting to family as we don’t wish to fall out with anyone “

The issue with the other family members is that they see you have a ‘free’ house so it’s ‘easy’ to let her rent for free. They don’t see it as income.

Would they give her money every month from their income? I very much doubt it so you need to be clear this is your income just like being paid every month and you need the highest rental price given that everything costs more. So no discounts and certainly not for free and therefore will be advertised to someone to rent for the MAX you can get (which isn’t her).

Stand firm say no with no explanation to her. If family members try and guilt you tell them they can give her money to rent another house in the area because you can’t afford to give away your income.

Hard No! Do not rent to her.

Does the property have a buy to let mortgage on it? If so, the terms are likely to say you can’t let to family members.

She will not pay rent nor will she get out when you want it back.
Say no - you have nothing available.
The one that is unoccupied is having work done and when the work is done it is already spoken for,
I am assuming it is your SIL.

You'd be bonkers to even consider it. You'd be opening up a world of pain for yourselves. She can refuse to pay rent and you'll have the same family issues with ever getting her out.

I'd say no.

Totally agree. Never, ever mix money and family/friends.

Why on earth do you need to ask? You already KNOW this woman is a nightmare and it will be a shitshow in the making.

Your rental properties are a business, and mixing family with business is always asking for trouble, even if she wasn’t a nightmare, but she is!

Would you give her money every month? Because that's what offering her a mates rate would be. Costing yourself to benefit her. I wouldn't do that.

And you couldn't evict her

Don't know how to answer the AIBU. But you are being unreasonable even thinking of renting to her.

Every single time I have done a favour involving money to a friend or a relative it has ended up costing me. Each and every time.

Absolutely say no. Don't rent to family, it won't end well. Let them live there for free is an absolute piss take and joke!

The other potential risk is that if for some reason, she becomes unemployed (breakdown of childcare, dickhead ex refusing to have contact, child's condition worsens), she'd have a hell of a job convincing Universal Credit that it's not a contrived tenancy, especially if you were already giving her a massive discount and there's an extra bedroom - and it would cost a fortune to evict (plus she'd have to stay until the bailiffs put her out on the street in order to qualify for social housing - as the local authority wouldn't lift a finger until then).

Pain in the backside for all concerned, really, even before you take into account her attitude/personality. Which is what managing a rental has to look at - risk, not personalities.

I would say no.

If she demands to know why, be honest: she's been nothing but judgmental and horrible to you and you have zero interest in renting to someone who treats you like shit, family or not.

DO NOT LET HER HAVE IT FOR FREE!

You could say yes, but charge market rate?

Oh god! Don’t do it @NewNameForThisWWYD You will be stuck with her! What happens if she refuses to pay even the reduced rate after a couple of months claiming that the fat-cat landlords can afford it. You will be stuck with a relative who you can’t get rid of and the rest of the family will gang up on you and DH.

She will have you fixing every tiny little problem which probably wouldn’t even bother most other tenants.

Families and businesses are not always a easy mix.