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AIBU to not rent a house to our relative?

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NewNameForThisWWYD · 18/03/2026 10:33

We have some properties that we rent out. A couple of relatives have always had a problem with this and have taken every opportunity to tell us that we are terrible for adding to the issues with housing.

Now one of these relatives has split from her partner and is looking for a house to rent. She has asked us if she can rent from us and asked if she can do so at a cheaper rate or free to help her out. We have a property empty currently as we are having some work done on it. It will be ready in a couple of months so this relative could in theory move in then. Other relatives are putting pressure on us to help her, one even said we should let her stay in the house for free and completely ignoring the fact that this woman has been horrible to us over the years.

I want to say no. It’s a relative on my husband’s side and he is happy to say no but doesn’t care either way. Neither of us like this relative very much, she is very opinionated and has picked the fight about landlords with us many times at family events making a scene. Every time we see her she makes digs and negative comments. She has also made it known that she disapproves of other choices we’ve made and is generally just very judgemental. We see her at family events to keep the peace in the wider family but really wouldn’t care if she wasn’t in our lives.

She works in a career that pays well above average wage and has 2 children. The house she wants to rent from us has 4 bedrooms.

What would you do? Say no? Rent to her at market rate? Rent to her at a lower rate? Obviously my preference is to say no but I think this will cause issues with some other family members.

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BillieWiper · 18/03/2026 10:39

She wants you to give her a house to live in for free? After calling you money grabbing slumlords or whatever. It's laughable really.

Just remind them what they said about landlords and that you wouldn't want to make the family relationship worse by them thinking it directly about you. While you'd be the one doing them a favour.

Alittlefrustrated · 18/03/2026 10:38

Firm no - you have paying renters ready to move in when work is finished. Work is taking longer than expected. What a shame.

TwinklyRoseTurtle · 18/03/2026 10:38

Absolute no

TheNavyReader · 18/03/2026 10:38

Say no .Absolutely no way would I get involved in the drama that will come from saying yes .

WeepingAngelInTheTardis · 18/03/2026 10:37

Just say no you have a tenant lined up ready to rent when it’s ready. If you rent to her she’s going to expect free rent and give you a massive headache

BigGapMum · 18/03/2026 10:37

I would advise not to rent at all to her. It sounds like she is going to cause you problems in the future.

Rizzz · 18/03/2026 10:37

After the write-up you've given her I'm really not sure why you're asking?

justthecat · 18/03/2026 10:37

I’d say you have nothing available, I imagine she’d become the tenant from hell and she’d never be truly grateful

SJM1988 · 18/03/2026 10:36

Don't rent to her. She can't disapprove of your choice to be landlords then try and use it to her advantage.

Milkwomen · 18/03/2026 10:36

I wouldn't rent to her at all.

Newusername0 · 18/03/2026 10:35

Id say no!