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Paying to find young person a first job

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mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 08:49

Has anyone tried this, its not expensive £500 for coaching, CV analysis, career advice BUT no guarantee of employment at the end.
Its been a year now, DC is depressed and failing further and further behind

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MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 18/03/2026 12:22

Have just done the same for DS, with coaching specifically from someone in the field he wants to move into.

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 12:21

Parsley4321 · 18/03/2026 12:20

@mothersdaywoe you would be so surprised I was working in Bristol and the calibre of grads young people and companies were brilliant I’m a natural sales person and the batching I did was very self satisfying - nothing to lose !

I don’t doubt for one moment the calibre of the graduates, It’s the organisations that I would be dubious about
However, they have to sign on for universal credits for six months in order to be eligible for this support.
I think my daughter will actually kill herself if she has to engage with the job centre.
You have to have the skin of an actual rhino, The process is designed to deter people from using it.

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Parsley4321 · 18/03/2026 12:20

@mothersdaywoe you would be so surprised I was working in Bristol and the calibre of grads young people and companies were brilliant I’m a natural sales person and the batching I did was very self satisfying - nothing to lose !

Parsley4321 · 18/03/2026 12:18

@nongnangning why not ! It’s a total nightmare out there for young people and some of the grads I placed were bloody grateful for the really good jobs offered. The jobs were not basic they were good entry level these companies are not going to take on just anyone they want a good calibre so why not ?

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 12:17

user1492757084 · 18/03/2026 12:14

My daughter paid for a professinal to look over her CV and suggested rearranging a couple of things.

She was offered, and attended, a seminar on how to present well for a job interview and what things to study to prepare.
Where best to spend one's efforts and time.

DD thought paying for assistance was worth it.
She got more interviews immediately.
She got her desired job after fourteen interviews.

Thank you so much for your feedback. I really appreciate it.

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mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 12:17

nongnangning · 18/03/2026 12:15

@Parsley4321 Are you suggesting that grads with Russell Group degrees should sign on for 6 months to make themselves eligible for Govt-subsidised jobs under the new £3K scheme? 😮

And this is the problem.

I believe the organisations that are eligible for these grants are not going to be employers our children would choose to work for with conditions that they would grow and develop within.

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Heyhihobye · 18/03/2026 12:16

What about the civil service fast stream or HMRC tax specialist scheme? Or even just a bog standard civil service job at this point? Has she applied? They’re very supportive in getting through recruitment

nongnangning · 18/03/2026 12:15

Parsley4321 · 18/03/2026 12:05

@mothersdaywoe same situation here. I’m considering a coaching course for my son it looks quite good. Re UC I was a work coach in the pandemic with Kick start initiative I read what Pat McFadden was talking about yesterday you have to be claiming for 6 months to be eligible BUT when I was a work coach getting a Grad into a job in the sector they wanted was easy. There is an initiative that gives companies £3k to take on unemployed kids if you get a good WC whose switched on it’s a great way in

@Parsley4321 Are you suggesting that grads with Russell Group degrees should sign on for 6 months to make themselves eligible for Govt-subsidised jobs under the new £3K scheme? 😮

user1492757084 · 18/03/2026 12:14

My daughter paid for a professinal to look over her CV and suggested rearranging a couple of things.

She was offered, and attended, a seminar on how to present well for a job interview and what things to study to prepare.
Where best to spend one's efforts and time.

DD thought paying for assistance was worth it.
She got more interviews immediately.
She got her desired job after fourteen interviews.

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 12:14

Jellycatspyjamas · 18/03/2026 12:12

A relevant degree, experience in your target market and membership of a professional association are minimal really. It’s a lot to charge people who are unemployed. I’d want to see a clear offer in terms of concrete actions, how much time they’ll spend with your daughter and a personalised plan to support her employability for £500.

There is all of that and there are commitments on both sides but fundamentally we’ve got to get the horse to the water

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OrlandointheWilderness · 18/03/2026 12:13

Oh bless her @mothersdaywoe. Yes that’s a niche area and I can see the issue. To be honest if you are satisfied the credentials are in place then I suspect it’s worth trying. In the grand scheme of things it’s not a huge amount of money and a tailored and structured plan may help.

Uptightmumma · 18/03/2026 12:13

redskyAtNigh · 18/03/2026 10:00

"Shitty call centre jobs" are also often a good way to get a foot in an organisation. Once you are in, there are then more chances for progression for existing employees than outsiders.

The shitty call centre job i had between the ages of 18-22 lead me into my career, where I also met my now husband and now me and my husband run a successful financial advise firm.

@mothersdaywoe what industry does she want to work in? And is she still working her retail job whilst looking for work?

there maybe someone on this thread who can give hints/tips to get her on the ladder:

Holdmybeermoment · 18/03/2026 12:12

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 09:23

This is why she’s so disheartened she gets turned down for call Centre work and crappy shitty cleaning jobs. There’ll be nothing left over soon mentally.
This is a child with nine a star GCSE3 A’s are A-level Russell Brick university, What most people would consider a proper degree narrowly missed a first.

Maybe part of the problem is her attitude of “crappy shitty cleaning jobs.” I’d not be hiring someone who sneered at the job they applied for.

Jellycatspyjamas · 18/03/2026 12:12

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 12:07

That sounds like a lot of qualifications for £500 though I would expect somebody with that CV to be charging significantly more

A relevant degree, experience in your target market and membership of a professional association are minimal really. It’s a lot to charge people who are unemployed. I’d want to see a clear offer in terms of concrete actions, how much time they’ll spend with your daughter and a personalised plan to support her employability for £500.

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 12:12

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 18/03/2026 12:10

I would expect someone charging £500 to have these qualification as a minimum!

But hey, if you're happy paying all that money without the guarantee that they're actually qualified then that's your call. I'd want a qualified professional though.

Ok

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HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 18/03/2026 12:10

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 12:07

That sounds like a lot of qualifications for £500 though I would expect somebody with that CV to be charging significantly more

I would expect someone charging £500 to have these qualification as a minimum!

But hey, if you're happy paying all that money without the guarantee that they're actually qualified then that's your call. I'd want a qualified professional though.

Parsley4321 · 18/03/2026 12:09

@Redhairandhottubs who did you use ? I have looked at my professional hat

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 12:08

Redhairandhottubs · 18/03/2026 12:06

I paid for my son to have some online interview coaching. I think it was about £200 and worth every penny. It really boosted his confidence and meant to he could go into interviews feeling prepared. He got the first job he interviewed for after the coaching and is always recommending it to friends.

its all stuff I could have told him or got from ChatGPT, but like many young people, he doesn’t like listening to his Mum and really benefitted from interaction with a real person rather than just reading stuff.

Amazing thank you. This is what I was hoping to achieve from the thread. Really appreciate your response.

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Jellycatspyjamas · 18/03/2026 12:07

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 11:57

Again, though that’s not going to be helpful to her if she sits in the corner refusing to speak to anybody, we’re just not at that stage yet.

If she’s not at that stage yet, is she going to be able to engage with a coach? It’s a lot of money to spend if she isn’t able to brush her teeth at the moment? I know as a parent we want to support and open as many doors as possible for our kids but it sounds like your daughter has issues that need to be resolved first, to enable her to benefit from coaching.

Spanglemum02 · 18/03/2026 12:07

Has your child seen GP for help with their mental health? That is something you could tackle and might make the job coach have more impact.

I would suggest carrying on with the Tescos part time or signing on for UC, for the NI credits if nothing else.

'Coaching ' seems to be very popular at the moment. They will be of variable quality Given your daughter has a science background but doesn't fit lab work, a coach with that sort of background would be helpful.

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 12:07

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 18/03/2026 12:05

I would expect them to have a specific qualification in career guidance or career development. This should be a minimum of a level 6 qualification ( degree level) or ideally a level 7 qualification ( postgrad).
In terms of experience I would like to see that they have significant experience working with university students and recent graduates.
I would want them to be members of the Graduate Futures Institute ( formally AGCAS)

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That sounds like a lot of qualifications for £500 though I would expect somebody with that CV to be charging significantly more

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Redhairandhottubs · 18/03/2026 12:06

I paid for my son to have some online interview coaching. I think it was about £200 and worth every penny. It really boosted his confidence and meant to he could go into interviews feeling prepared. He got the first job he interviewed for after the coaching and is always recommending it to friends.

its all stuff I could have told him or got from ChatGPT, but like many young people, he doesn’t like listening to his Mum and really benefitted from interaction with a real person rather than just reading stuff.

BrickBiscuit · 18/03/2026 12:06

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 11:57

Again, though that’s not going to be helpful to her if she sits in the corner refusing to speak to anybody, we’re just not at that stage yet.

I mean this constructively, but that mindset is the barrier. You both seem to have it. You will get nowhere until it changes. Even if you attend a relevant event - many are free - and speak to nobody, you can soak up information, ideas and contact details. Seeing how the landscape of the sector lies can help you target your development. Stop moaning and do something.

Parsley4321 · 18/03/2026 12:05

@mothersdaywoe same situation here. I’m considering a coaching course for my son it looks quite good. Re UC I was a work coach in the pandemic with Kick start initiative I read what Pat McFadden was talking about yesterday you have to be claiming for 6 months to be eligible BUT when I was a work coach getting a Grad into a job in the sector they wanted was easy. There is an initiative that gives companies £3k to take on unemployed kids if you get a good WC whose switched on it’s a great way in

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 18/03/2026 12:05

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 11:55

What qualifications would you expect to see?
And no, they aren’t sector specific but again I think that’s fine on the basis that they’re signed posting rather than promising. If you do my course you will get X. It’s more of a coaching company that give them the tools to fish for themselves
Which I would prefer over somebody coming over to her and saying there’s your fish
That seems a short term solution

I would expect them to have a specific qualification in career guidance or career development. This should be a minimum of a level 6 qualification ( degree level) or ideally a level 7 qualification ( postgrad).
In terms of experience I would like to see that they have significant experience working with university students and recent graduates.
I would want them to be members of the Graduate Futures Institute ( formally AGCAS)