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Daughter (13) has pierced own ears

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EllaMozarella · 17/03/2026 21:20

Hello MN,
Noticed this eve that instead of 2 earrings in each ear, my child now has 3…
Pierced her ‘3rds’ herself on Friday, used a needle which she cleaned with anti-bac gel. 😮
I was really angry & immediately confiscated her phone, cancelled her plans for after school tomorrow, made her clean the bathroom & have an early bedtime. Now I just feel really surprised that she did it herself & hid it for 4 days… HOW?
AIBU to be cross, & mega disappointed (I am also relieved she hasn’t had any infections…. Yet!?)

OP posts:
RoseField1 · 17/03/2026 21:28

Chill. Don't most teenage girls pierce their own ears? Kidding - I know not most but a huge number do, I did it several times at 14. My mum told me that was very silly and we moved on. You've overreacted massively and you need to get your thoughts in order otherwise when she does something genuinely awful you'll have nowhere to go!!

MrsMitford3 · 17/03/2026 21:28

I did mine with a bunch of friends-think I was around 15.

I would gently say you are overreacting.

Just keep it clean

RoniaCheetah · 17/03/2026 21:28

Ha! I did one of my own a little older than that and also did my sister's. We both lived to tell the tale

Watchoutfortheslowaraf · 17/03/2026 21:27

At the same age, my sister pierced holes all the way up her ear - I think she did about 5 piercings. I was both horrified and secretly impressed with her bravery. My mum was not so impressed and made her take all the earrings out and grounded her!

1990s · 17/03/2026 21:26

I did my own at a slightly older age. Yes worth a telling off but really it’s not the end of the world is it?

Isittimeformynapyet · 17/03/2026 21:25

That's a whole catalogue of punishments - I think you've made your point.

stickydough · 17/03/2026 21:24

I’m sure I’d be horrified too, but a part of me is actually impressed. She’s badass!

decorationday · 17/03/2026 21:22

Oh gosh, I am trying to think of something useful to say but I am feeling a bit queasy at the thought of that.

AnonSugar · 17/03/2026 21:22

It’s done. Just tell her not to be stupid enough to do it again.