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Daughter (13) has pierced own ears

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EllaMozarella · 17/03/2026 21:20

Hello MN,
Noticed this eve that instead of 2 earrings in each ear, my child now has 3…
Pierced her ‘3rds’ herself on Friday, used a needle which she cleaned with anti-bac gel. 😮
I was really angry & immediately confiscated her phone, cancelled her plans for after school tomorrow, made her clean the bathroom & have an early bedtime. Now I just feel really surprised that she did it herself & hid it for 4 days… HOW?
AIBU to be cross, & mega disappointed (I am also relieved she hasn’t had any infections…. Yet!?)

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50NotFat · 17/03/2026 21:47

Fair play to her….I feel a bit faint just reading that! I knew of girls who pierced their own noses by sticking freeze pops up their nose then shoving a safety pin in. 🤢 I’m not sure if I’d be horrified or impressed if any of mine had done that!

Laiste · 17/03/2026 21:46

I must have been living under a rock for 40+ years because i know of no one who has pierced their own ears!

BellaVita · 17/03/2026 21:45

My best friend did my second piercings in my ears when we were about 14 (I am now 60). My mother got over it eventually 😆😆.

Notashamed13 · 17/03/2026 21:45

Not what you want to hear but fair play to her! Wish id had the guts to do mine myself! 🤣

youalright · 17/03/2026 21:43

I pierced my own nose at this age after being told i couldn't have my nose pierced. I used my mums gin to sterilise it she was not happy 🤣🤣

MysticHalfWitch · 17/03/2026 21:43

TEMU and SHEIN sell piercing guns, my daughter did her thirds with a pal at 14. I wasn’t particularly amused but no harm no foul. She got fed up of them and took them out. No infections or anything ensued.

apricotdreams · 17/03/2026 21:43

Yep, pierced my own (seconds and thirds ) and several of my friends at school! Went further than ears and did my nose using ice cubes to numb it 🤣 that hurt! I think mum probably just said that’s a daft thing to do. I survived to tell the tale

Fleurdalys · 17/03/2026 21:41

So she’s already got two in each ear?
Massive overreaction from you as you allowed those?

sunsetsites · 17/03/2026 21:40

Isn’t at home piercings why potatoes were invented? 😂

sunsetsites · 17/03/2026 21:38

The idea of punishing this to such a degree is weird.

MargotMoon · 17/03/2026 21:38

My DD did this when she was 14 and I was slightly horrified but mostly impressed.

Porkpieandmustard · 17/03/2026 21:38

I did this, around the same age.
Actually my friend did it for me. She brought a flask of ice from home to numb my ears 😂

It was because my mum wouldn’t let me have my ears pierced.

There was a fuss, my mum went mad, we all survived.

I can see now it was a bit stupid, in terms of hygiene. (We did it at school in the toilets).

Dontpretenditssuchamystery · 17/03/2026 21:37

If she already has two in each ear then what is the issue with having a third ?

NewZebra · 17/03/2026 21:37

Huge overreaction.

Diversion · 17/03/2026 21:37

Not uncommon back in the 80's, lots of us did the same. I do think that your punishment was a little over the top and we know that lots of teenagers will rebel even more once they know that their parents do not approve of their dress code. Encourage her to keep the piercings clean and encourage her to get them done professionally at a recommended piercing studio in future. As a Mum with piercings, this was my rule, none of my children really bothered, one had her navel pierced and that was it. Do remind her though that school may not allow multiple piercings and that this is a rule which needs to be respected until she is at least at college.

ReadingCrimeFiction · 17/03/2026 21:35

Yeah, I think you're over reacting here. I'm quite impressed she used anti bacterial gel actually. shows some forethought there.

Telling off, yes. But in the bigger scheme of things, not that big a deal.

holidaymay · 17/03/2026 21:33

i Pierced my own ears at the age of 14. 3 in each ear, using ice cubes and a needle I had burnt over the stove to sterilise it 😂.

my mum just nodded and said ‘oh lovely’.

I’ve still got my ears pierced and I’m senior in a professional industry. ears piercings have never come up as a topic of conversation in all my years.

what are you disappointed in?

Endofyear · 17/03/2026 21:31

When I was 14, my friend pierced my ear with one of her studs that we 'sterilised' with a lighter, while we were sat on the school field! When I got home my mum was furious, made me take it out and cleaned it with iodine which bloody stings! I didn't do it again 😂

WhatAMarvelousTune · 17/03/2026 21:31

The idea of doing my own ears makes me feel queasy.

But for an ear piercing I don’t think I’d be that angry. Yes it’s a bit stupid because of the infection risk, but if she has two in each ear clearly you don’t have an issue with piercings themselves, so I don’t think she’s particularly done anything wrong.

Are you able to explain why you’re so cross?

ColdAsAWitches · 17/03/2026 21:30

Why are you disappointed? She already has piercings and tried to be clean. Lots of kids do this. Sorry, I'm another that thinks you're overreacting.

Neveranynamesleft · 17/03/2026 21:29

Why on earth did you make her clean the bathroom ?

mondaytosunday · 17/03/2026 21:29

My friend said practically her whole class went behind the shed to pierce each other ears around that age!
I think you’ve gone way over the top with the punishment.

babyt2020 · 17/03/2026 21:29

Everyone did stuff like that when I was 14! My aunty let me pierce her ears with a needle and ice cubes to numb it and she was fine 🤣 then I got a piercing gun and some of my old school friends have still got their nose piercings now!

mumofoneAloneandwell · 17/03/2026 21:29

Yabu and have overreacted sorry x

ChaToilLeam · 17/03/2026 21:28

I can understand why she hides things from you. Total overreaction.

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