Should I ask my DS and his girlfriend for money

Since starting this thread I’ve joined a recruitment agency for administration and clerical staff. Let’s hope seeing me working will spur my son on. I haven’t disclosed my bipolar as yet I’ll wait until the interview. I don’t know how il do as I shake really badly when trying to do things such as typing meter readings or anything stressful but won’t know until I try.

I've had mental health challenges. I've also felt life isn't worth living and struggled with suicidality. I'll probably be on antidepressants for the rest of my life. For me, work has (literally) been a lifeline. A way of getting out of my own head without using drugs. And yes, of course I appreciate that I am not everyone and that people have different experiences of mental health, but I'm not convinced that a lifetime of not working and living off benefits would actually help a lot of people with depression. Conversely, a lot of people without serious mental health problems would probably enjoy dossing around doing nothing and not having to worry about earning a living. That's the crux of the matter here isn't it - the OP's son and his GF sound like the latter, looking to get a free ride out of 'the system' and the OP, rather than taking responsibility for their own lives and for getting better and becoming useful contributors to society.

The issue is how to you determine who is or isn't genuinely ill. I have seen multiple posters on here - who clearly haven't been through the process of trying to claim disability benefits - stating that they are so easy to get and all you need to do is get your GP to write you a fit note - and that's you sorted.

That wasn't my experience at all. Why do people automatically assume people on benefits are lazy - and there seems to be more disdain for people with mental health issues too..

As I said in previous posts. People on lcwra can work - Pip and adp too. For some people this money helps them stay in employment

I had a relative with mental health issues who committed suicide. There are too many people out there who think mental health is nothing - when it can actually be incredibly debilitating and in some cases gets people to the point where they can't see the point in carrying on living

No-one wants to 'bash' people who are genuinely ill, (physically or mentally) but the sudden explosion of people on benefits because of mental health issues is bound to raise a few eyebrows.

An NHS survery found

• One in four (25.8%) of young people (16 to 24 years old) have a common mental health condition, up from 18.9% in 2014.
• More than a fifth (22.6%) of adults (16 to 64 years old) have a common mental health condition, up from 18.9% in 2014.
• More than one in four adults (25.2%) reported having had suicidal thoughts during their lifetime, including about a third of 16- 24-year-olds (31.5%) and 25- to 34-year-olds (32.9%).
• Self-harm rates have quadrupled since 2000, with the highest rates among 16- to 24-year-olds at 24.6%, especially young women at 31.7%.

Some therapists say that social media and the consumer culture are contributing to mental health issues especially for young people
They encourage people to reduce screen time and stay engaged in the reality of life rather than the ones portrayed on social media. To devote more time to the simple everyday things that contribute to good mental and physical health such as regular exercise, meditation, healthy eating, effective listening and communication skills.
For example, it is not uncommon to hear of a young person spending two to three hours every day scrolling on social media when this time could be devoted to better mental health and building stronger relationships.

Parents have a big part to play in this.

Plenty of people with bipolar disorder hold down jobs. It is manageable with medication. Shouldn’t automatically be a reason to claim benefits.

She does say she has anxiety disorder as well. It's just an entire household that refuses to work.

No, you had the misfortune of misreading the thread. The OP doesn’t have anxiety, she has bipolar disorder.

Since starting this thread I’ve joined a recruitment agency for administration and clerical staff. Let’s hope seeing me working will spur my son on. I haven’t disclosed my bipolar as yet I’ll wait until the interview. I don’t know how il do as I shake really badly when trying to do things such as typing meter readings or anything stressful but won’t know until I try.

@DiaryofWimpy You said you got Adp and Esa. But that will be maximum 800 per month. How do you live on that? Do you get UC as well? Make them contribute more

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You don't need to be a "scrounger" you could write scripts for comedy programmes !!

Since starting this thread I’ve joined a recruitment agency for administration and clerical staff. Let’s hope seeing me working will spur my son on. I haven’t disclosed my bipolar as yet I’ll wait until the interview. I don’t know how il do as I shake really badly when trying to do things such as typing meter readings or anything stressful but won’t know until I try.

Since starting this thread I’ve joined a recruitment agency for administration and clerical staff. Let’s hope seeing me working will spur my son on. I haven’t disclosed my bipolar as yet I’ll wait until the interview. I don’t know how il do as I shake really badly when trying to do things such as typing meter readings or anything stressful but won’t know until I try.

Since starting this thread I’ve joined a recruitment agency for administration and clerical staff. Let’s hope seeing me working will spur my son on. I haven’t disclosed my bipolar as yet I’ll wait until the interview. I don’t know how il do as I shake really badly when trying to do things such as typing meter readings or anything stressful but won’t know until I try.

No they really aren't. Not whole households.

Since starting this thread I’ve joined a recruitment agency for administration and clerical staff. Let’s hope seeing me working will spur my son on. I haven’t disclosed my bipolar as yet I’ll wait until the interview. I don’t know how il do as I shake really badly when trying to do things such as typing meter readings or anything stressful but won’t know until I try.

Well I'm sure by the morning everyone else will have figured out the way to deal with us scroungers. Someone will have dropped a high powered lawnmower off to me so that I can go running round my neighbours gardens like a demented cartoon character cutting their grass whether they like it or not

Then I'll pootle down the street shouting "mind your self" I've got a big bag of cement to fill in a pothole as I pull out my litter picker from my bag and go running around to see if there's a neighbours bin to shove litter in.

Only stopping at the local shop for some irn bru to refuel while I make my way to the nearest park to do some garden maintenance to keep the likes of Reform and Restore Britain happy. Gotta keep myself out of that workhouse somehow.

Before shouting at someone saying - there better be yellow stickers left in my local supermarket because I'm not even getting an extra tenner to be Jack of all trades.

Tomorrow they better give me a hat saying "make Scotland great again" - and some new tasks to do as I'm not really that great at potholes - phew. The chief executive of my local council slept well last night on his six figure salary while I was filling in those pesky potholes - but a girls got to do what a girls got to do to get those benefits.

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Plenty of people with bipolar disorder hold down jobs. It is manageable with medication. Shouldn’t automatically be a reason to claim benefits.

No, you had the misfortune of misreading the thread. The OP doesn’t have anxiety, she has bipolar disorder.

No they really aren't. Not whole households.

Households like this are everywhere.