Should I ask my DS and his girlfriend for money

My daughter and her boyfriend get close to £2k per month as there's lcwra and pip on their UC claim with no kids and their rent is paid directly to the local council too. So this lady's son and his girlfriend can more than afford to contribute easily if they're claiming more than basic UC.

I didn't use that word. That is your interpretation. I said Alphabet. Please read it again.

Calling us scroungers living off other peoples money.

Ah right. Back to calling me and others scroungers again. Hope you don't ever have an accident that basically resulted in one of your limbs having to be pinned back together during surgery and being housebound for months because you couldn't walk.

Im not defined by that either. I finished a degree last July which I started in 2022.

However I do very much thank the team of surgeons who pinned my shattered leg back together.

ADHD, PIP, UC, LCWRA and so on.

As far as I am aware workers such as lawyers, surgeons, accountants are not defined by Alphabet abbreviations.

What on earth are you talking about now?

A general observation, the Alphabet people with their Alphabet tax payer money are certainly busy on this thread.

We seem to be back to the - disabled people are lazy view. This is ableist rhetoric and really unhelpful in my view.

The OP didn't say that her son was on lcwra and adp and Uc. She's not specified

Even with standard daily living only plus basic UC + LCWRA it is over 1k per month.

Evidently not.

Have you read any of the other personal comments made to the OP or the comment from the mods to keep things civil?

No one of working age can claim HB any more unless they are in specified accommodation (refuge, supported) UC housing element is the only option and in this scenario there is no entitlement to it.

There are different levels to ADP. Not everyone will be on the highest.

Likely no need to work either when UC with health component and ADP on top can total in excess of 1k a month. It's not a lot less than most young people would earn for grafting a 40 hour week. This is why the system is changing from April and requires more drastic changes.

Do you think that's helpful to the OP?

With respect. It's not up to you to tell the OP that the gf has to rehome the cats. I live below the poverty line. Plenty of people do - and I have cats. The fact that your cat needed surgery because they got hit by a car has nothing to do with this thread. The OP asked a question - instead she's been treated to multiple lectures.

Rescues are currently full to capacity and someone could wait 6 months to a year to get a pet rehomed

My exboss has bipolar, ran a business, employed 5 staff, and at one point managed to look after terminally ill partner. Didn't stop them working.

That's brilliant OP! What you might want to also do is talk to the benefits office about your son and his girlfriend and make it clear that they are fuelling each other into sitting at home on benefits when they are fully capable of working, like someone else said, you have to get careful about them committing benefit fraud under your roof. Get the benefits to realise that they are living together and encouraging each other not to work and it needs nipping in the bud! You don't want her starting to pop kids out and making you run around after them when you are trying to improve your life. Don't give them the platform to be multigenerational benefit claimants who breed like rabbits and teach them kids that life is for being on benefits!

Also re-home the cats because cats cost money! I adore my cats but my girl cost the insurance company over 2k when she needed surgery after being hit by a car, cats get faddy and may need expensive meat eventually, I have to have hypoallergenic kibble because my boy gets skin allergies to cheap cat crunchy. There's monthly flea treatments because the fleas are hell to combat these days. You need a salary to have a cat, let alone 2 cats! She cannot afford to have those cats because she'll expect you to pick up the tab if they get sick or hurt.
Don't let these two be thorns in your side that hinder you! How can they sit day after day doing nothing! I don't get it! Do they plan to slob in front of the TV for the next 70 plus years?

OP .this is always a controversial topic but when my DS started working he was earning more than me with almost no outgoings...phone. car. gym. At some point I thought I can't do this anymore so I sat him down, ran him through all my outgoings for the house and said he needed to contribute. He was more than happy too
Yes I would have loved to have saved up all the money to give him back when he moved out but I'm not that well off!
He then moved away for a year and came back for a week...which turned into a year. So again he paid. I told him if you can find somewhere where you get a home, WiFi, electric and gas and food for £50 a week...to let me know and I would go and live there!

Won’t they have to make a joint claim now if they are living together as a couple? So it would just be one payment from them?

Well maybe yes but this is part of the problem. You don't get enough info on things.

Then to be honest her son should've already been paying her something to live there. He gets his own money. Not sure why he finds it ok to live with his mum rent free then have the cheek to expect his mum to accommodate his latest girlfriend for nothing too

The son was already living with her. He's not just moved in