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Should I ask my DS and his girlfriend for money

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DiaryofWimpy · 17/03/2026 19:43

My DS2 has moved his girlfriend in with her 2 cats.

Obviously it’s another person using the washing machine,,TV, gas and electricity they are both 22 and don’t work but get benefits.

Do you think I’m being unreasonable asking them for money?

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Happinessistheanswer · 20/03/2026 10:46

LilyBunch25 · 20/03/2026 10:41

Answer my question about professional qualification abbreviations. You know, that catastrophic own goal you scored whilst too busy rubbing your hands with glee to jump in without thinking the comment through first.

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Yes MD exists. Here is another CEO. I haven't seen those abbreviations on this thread. If I missed it, i apologise. please point me to the page.

MyLimePoet · 20/03/2026 10:42

Happinessistheanswer · 20/03/2026 10:39

I have heard of PIP ( it is in the news constantly).

When you go to the doctor do they add an alphabet term to your medical history. Does it apply to children and pensioners? If they give you an abbreviation do they tell you or could you be labelled without even knowing?

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No.

LilyBunch25 · 20/03/2026 10:42

Happinessistheanswer · 20/03/2026 10:40

Mumsnet is a minefield of abbreviations.

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There's probably one for you too if you think about it hard enough.

LilyBunch25 · 20/03/2026 10:41

Happinessistheanswer · 20/03/2026 10:39

I have heard of PIP ( it is in the news constantly).

When you go to the doctor do they add an alphabet term to your medical history. Does it apply to children and pensioners? If they give you an abbreviation do they tell you or could you be labelled without even knowing?

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Answer my question about professional qualification abbreviations. You know, that catastrophic own goal you scored whilst too busy rubbing your hands with glee to jump in without thinking the comment through first.

Happinessistheanswer · 20/03/2026 10:40

LilyBunch25 · 20/03/2026 10:37

Really? No doctor is an MD? No accountant has their professional abbreviated qualifications after their name? Did you think that one through?

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Mumsnet is a minefield of abbreviations.

Happinessistheanswer · 20/03/2026 10:39

MyLimePoet · 20/03/2026 10:32

Right. So 27 pages into this thread you've not worked out that Pip ADP and lcwra are disability benefits?

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I have heard of PIP ( it is in the news constantly).

When you go to the doctor do they add an alphabet term to your medical history. Does it apply to children and pensioners? If they give you an abbreviation do they tell you or could you be labelled without even knowing?

LilyBunch25 · 20/03/2026 10:37

Happinessistheanswer · 20/03/2026 10:01

ADHD, PIP, UC, LCWRA and so on.

As far as I am aware workers such as lawyers, surgeons, accountants are not defined by Alphabet abbreviations.

Really? No doctor is an MD? No accountant has their professional abbreviated qualifications after their name? Did you think that one through?

LilyBunch25 · 20/03/2026 10:36

MyLimePoet · 20/03/2026 10:32

Right. So 27 pages into this thread you've not worked out that Pip ADP and lcwra are disability benefits?

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Of course they have LimePoet. They're just looking to bait.

LilyBunch25 · 20/03/2026 10:35

Happinessistheanswer · 20/03/2026 10:30

These abbreviations are new to me. Genuine question are people of all ages who break a limb given a new Alphabet name. I have honestly never come across it. I thought you got crutches (whilst healing) and your title never changed. Then or thereafter. Do doctors now label people?

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Youre embarrassing yourself.

MyLimePoet · 20/03/2026 10:32

Happinessistheanswer · 20/03/2026 10:30

These abbreviations are new to me. Genuine question are people of all ages who break a limb given a new Alphabet name. I have honestly never come across it. I thought you got crutches (whilst healing) and your title never changed. Then or thereafter. Do doctors now label people?

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Right. So 27 pages into this thread you've not worked out that Pip ADP and lcwra are disability benefits?

Happinessistheanswer · 20/03/2026 10:30

MyLimePoet · 20/03/2026 10:23

I had to go to tribunal to get lcwra - after I broke my leg. I was initially awarded zero points and only put in the lcw group because I had been in hospital. I was never awarded lcwra for mental health despite suffering from anxiety, depression and ptsd and being on medication. Scored zero every time.

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These abbreviations are new to me. Genuine question are people of all ages who break a limb given a new Alphabet name. I have honestly never come across it. I thought you got crutches (whilst healing) and your title never changed. Then or thereafter. Do doctors now label people?

MyLimePoet · 20/03/2026 10:23

LilyBunch25 · 20/03/2026 10:18

As someone who works in this field I can assure you that your figures are not wholly accurate and many have to challenge the decisions.

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I had to go to tribunal to get lcwra - after I broke my leg. I was initially awarded zero points and only put in the lcw group because I had been in hospital. I was never awarded lcwra for mental health despite suffering from anxiety, depression and ptsd and being on medication. Scored zero every time.

Moskova · 20/03/2026 10:20

Happinessistheanswer · 20/03/2026 10:01

ADHD, PIP, UC, LCWRA and so on.

As far as I am aware workers such as lawyers, surgeons, accountants are not defined by Alphabet abbreviations.

I thought you meant people with long username a for a second

MyLimePoet · 20/03/2026 10:19

I wouldn't say that ADP is easier to get than Pip. The difference for me was that I was treated with a bit of dignity - unlike the lcwra process

LilyBunch25 · 20/03/2026 10:18

Pickledonion1999 · 20/03/2026 10:14

Over three quarters of people going through the Work capability process get awarded LCWRA and ADP is apparently much easier to get than PIP. Crazy system which is long overdue change.

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As someone who works in this field I can assure you that your figures are not wholly accurate and many have to challenge the decisions.

MyLimePoet · 20/03/2026 10:18

Pickledonion1999 · 20/03/2026 10:14

Over three quarters of people going through the Work capability process get awarded LCWRA and ADP is apparently much easier to get than PIP. Crazy system which is long overdue change.

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It's actually around two thirds - but that still isn't a guarantee that everyone who goes through the process will get it. As I said earlier in the thread there are people who don't initially get awarded it who lose the MR and have to go to tribunal to get it. It's not an easy process for many people

LilyBunch25 · 20/03/2026 10:17

Happinessistheanswer · 20/03/2026 10:07

I didn't use that word. That is your interpretation. I said Alphabet. Please read it again.

Haven't a lot of your comments already been deleted by MN because of your unpleasant attitude? Thankfully. It's a great pity you can't channel the same energy you spend on judging and criticising others into something a little more constructive.

Pickledonion1999 · 20/03/2026 10:14

MyLimePoet · 20/03/2026 10:12

But she isn't. There's no guarantee that if someone goes through the process of trying to claim lcwra or ADP that they'll be successful

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Over three quarters of people going through the Work capability process get awarded LCWRA and ADP is apparently much easier to get than PIP. Crazy system which is long overdue change.

MyLimePoet · 20/03/2026 10:13

Lcwra is halving for successful new claimants after April of this year.

MyLimePoet · 20/03/2026 10:12

Pickledonion1999 · 20/03/2026 10:11

Yet !

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But she isn't. There's no guarantee that if someone goes through the process of trying to claim lcwra or ADP that they'll be successful

MyLimePoet · 20/03/2026 10:11

Happinessistheanswer · 20/03/2026 10:07

I didn't use that word. That is your interpretation. I said Alphabet. Please read it again.

You've made what you think of people on benefits abundantly clear throughout this thread.

Pickledonion1999 · 20/03/2026 10:11

MyLimePoet · 20/03/2026 10:10

The gf isn't claiming more than basic UC

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Yet !

Pickledonion1999 · 20/03/2026 10:10

MissRaspberry · 20/03/2026 10:09

My daughter and her boyfriend get close to £2k per month as there's lcwra and pip on their UC claim with no kids and their rent is paid directly to the local council too. So this lady's son and his girlfriend can more than afford to contribute easily if they're claiming more than basic UC.

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Exactly. 2k a month between a couple after all rent paid.

MyLimePoet · 20/03/2026 10:10

MissRaspberry · 20/03/2026 10:09

My daughter and her boyfriend get close to £2k per month as there's lcwra and pip on their UC claim with no kids and their rent is paid directly to the local council too. So this lady's son and his girlfriend can more than afford to contribute easily if they're claiming more than basic UC.

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The gf isn't claiming more than basic UC

MyLimePoet · 20/03/2026 10:09

Happinessistheanswer · 20/03/2026 10:01

ADHD, PIP, UC, LCWRA and so on.

As far as I am aware workers such as lawyers, surgeons, accountants are not defined by Alphabet abbreviations.

There are people on Pip. Lcwra and ADP who work. Disability benefits actually help some people stay in employment